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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Did you have theories about what was "wrong" with you |
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Posted: 13 May 2023, 9:08 pm
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Replies: 20
Views: 1,086
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| When I was an actual child, I believed that I was the kindest child to have ever existed in human history. So the reason I thought everyone---from the popular kids, to my teachers, to my own family, to my shrink---treated me like trash, is the world wasn't ready for a kind child like me. Vicious chi... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: My neurodivergent boyfriend doesn’t like having fun with me |
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Posted: 07 May 2023, 10:35 am
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Replies: 19
Views: 1,516
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| He has sleepovers with his friends? Things might improve if / when he starts high school. Who calls it "sleepovers": you or him? It's extremely rare for a man (at least a straight man) to use the wording "sleep over". It's always "crash", or "stay", or even &... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Being Forgettable |
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Posted: 20 Apr 2023, 7:55 pm
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Replies: 7
Views: 637
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| You were thinking "forgetful". That is, you forgetting things. "Forgettable" means other people forget about you shortly after meeting you. It's synonymous with "not memorable". So, to become less forgetful, write notes to yourself and/or write a list on a whiteboard, b... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Looking for a Therapist |
| Aspie1 |
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Posted: 18 Mar 2023, 10:07 pm
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Replies: 14
Views: 1,140
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| It is true that there are very bad therapists out there but that is not true for all of them. Mine are absolutely wonderful, I have three, and I would never leave them. I have met some bad ones but just because there are bad ones does not mean that there are not good ones. I have also known some gr... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Perspective requested: Did I humiliate my family that day? |
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Posted: 14 Mar 2023, 6:51 pm
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Replies: 7
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| That's an interesting "perspective"---just as I requested. :) I'm 100% sure at this point my parents sincerely believed that everyone but them had a "brave child". And they were fully willing to trample on skulls to get "theirs". :roll: As they screamed bloody murder at... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Perspective requested: Did I humiliate my family that day? |
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Posted: 13 Mar 2023, 7:50 pm
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Replies: 7
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| They severely over-reacted. "Severely overreacted" is right. Looking back on that day's events, I can't help but recall a large number of words "we", "us", and "our son" in my parents' screaming. It smacks of narcissism and possessiveness. In other words, the... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Looking for a Therapist |
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Posted: 13 Mar 2023, 7:09 pm
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Replies: 14
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| Therapy is very insidious these days. It's presented to prospective patients as a helpful cure (as long as YoU eNgAgE aNd Do ThE wOrK, of course), only for that element to be denied the moment you walk into a therapist's office. Per my readings, you MUST fit into as many of these demographics as you... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Perspective requested: Did I humiliate my family that day? |
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Posted: 11 Mar 2023, 10:05 am
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Replies: 7
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| I have to ask, why was the CT uncomfortable this time? I've had lots of CT and MRI and although the MRI can be claustrophobic for some people, it's not uncomfortable on my back. I know you said you have a spine problem so was the discomfort from lying on your back? How did the CT touch you? I'm jus... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Perspective requested: Did I humiliate my family that day? |
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Posted: 11 Mar 2023, 9:11 am
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Replies: 7
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| Not that it would excuse their behaviour towards you on that day, but I wonder what their childhood experiences were like and how often they were shown compassion and understanding vs. shame, guilt and cruelty. This appears to be a classic case of parents (and to a lesser extent, pediatricians) wea... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Perspective requested: Did I humiliate my family that day? |
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Posted: 10 Mar 2023, 9:18 pm
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Replies: 7
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| Just today, I had an unpleasant hospital experience. I went for a CT scan, to get a spine problem checked out. But I just couldn't to lie still for longer than a minute or two---the machine pressing into my back felt too goddamn painful! After some failed attempts on the workers' part to relax me, w... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: What gave away for you your therapist wasn't on your side? |
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Posted: 27 Jan 2023, 7:35 pm
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Replies: 18
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| A psychologist had the nerve to ask me "What do your parents not like about you?". But I find it hard to imagine that the psychologist asked my parents, "what does your daughter not like about you?". :mrgreen: ... the "customer" is always right. the "customer"... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: What gave away for you your therapist wasn't on your side? |
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Posted: 26 Jan 2023, 8:22 pm
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Replies: 18
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| Those of you who attended therapy, what actions or statements on your therapist's part made you realize that he/she wasn't on your side? This is especially important for people doing therapy as minors, as therapists almost unanimously favor parents. In my case, it was this. About a year into my ther... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: I think my girlfried is ASD and I'm NT and need advice |
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Posted: 10 Dec 2022, 11:15 am
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Replies: 21
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| -she has a lack of interest in sex... -mind blindness. she often tells me obvious things like telling me how to drive, how to cook etc. It's insulting but I don't say anything because then she'll shut down and feel "criticized". -daily lack of mental engagement. either talks and talks lik... |
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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: What would you do to conduct a mass scale social expense |
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Posted: 10 Dec 2022, 11:04 am
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Replies: 4
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| A mass-scale social experiment has already been done: Biden-19. The minute it got made in the lab, everybody and their brother fell for it, and bought into the "the sky is falling!" mass hysteria. Like the global warming, but much more immediate and much more intense. Quickly, people isola... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: So why was this an weird/awkward thing to do? |
| Aspie1 |
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Posted: 07 Dec 2022, 8:58 pm
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Replies: 29
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| So what's the deal with the abuse from your therapist? Was he/she gaslighting you or something? 100% correct! My entire family, nuclear and extended, was emotionally abusing me. And my bullies were, well... being themselves. But my therapist was on their side, and tried to gaslight me into thinking... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Do you get "projected threats" from others? |
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Posted: 07 Dec 2022, 8:51 pm
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Replies: 20
Views: 950
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| The person in question was certainly a narcissist, such a user, and trying to control me. Well, OK, I'd buy that - sounds similar to a couple of MY experiences 8O Unfortunately, that's a classic dirty trick in the narcissist's toolbox, which I believe is called triangulation . Not much you can say ... |
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