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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Female Protective effect? |
| SharonB |
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Posted: 23 Jun 2022, 5:17 pm
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Replies: 11
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| Hmmm. Well, my family bucks that theory. Autism in most the women and girls, none in the men or boys (including my own children). So I am more Autistic than my male peer and paid less? Crap. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Did you go to Uni/College, what did you study? |
| SharonB |
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Posted: 23 Jun 2022, 5:05 pm
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Replies: 28
Views: 598
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| I studied Electrical Engineering at a top U.S. university. I was middle of my class due to managing a myriad of life demands all at once. I did not know I was Autistic, but in retrospect I got accommodations (e.g. test retake in quiet room, extra time on project) with tears and begging. My self-conf... |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: The consequences of “medical misogyny“ for autistic women |
| SharonB |
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Posted: 23 Jun 2022, 4:50 pm
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Replies: 8
Views: 207
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| I'm in a mopey mood today, so am not the Change today. Maybe other days. I reached crisis before 20; I'm glad to be here. My female cousin reached crisis in her late 20s; I am sad she's not here to talk about it. We both sought help again and again - we were both intelligent and well-behaved - we we... |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: Hot flashes |
| SharonB |
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Posted: 22 Jun 2022, 7:22 pm
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Replies: 10
Views: 327
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Misslizard wrote: Actually I feel better now that all that estrogen isn’t surging around.
My older cousins says she is similarly relieved. I've read that estrogen contributes to anxiety - I could do without surges of that. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: anxiety and aspergers |
| SharonB |
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Posted: 18 Jun 2022, 2:50 pm
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Replies: 8
Views: 953
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| I didn't know I was anxious b/c it was all quite normal to me. A provider enrolled me in an intensive outpatient program for anxiety and I learned quite a bit. I now am more aware of my physical symptoms, I am empowered to face my concerns, ride the waves of emotions and have tools for self-care, I ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Harming ones self |
| SharonB |
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Posted: 16 Jun 2022, 8:16 pm
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Replies: 14
Views: 229
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| Sorry for your pain (emotional and perhaps now physical). I am familiar with that form of relief from decades past. I discovered a book about EFT (tapping) and that got me through some rough times. Recently I'm doing EMDR to address big feelings and sensory regulation tools. A friend of mine will ho... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Weaknesses or strengths? |
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Posted: 12 Jun 2022, 4:47 pm
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Replies: 9
Views: 268
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jimmy m wrote: ...He said I am beginning a new type of class called intensive Russian. Anyone who signs up to this class, I will guarantee an automatic minimum of a B grade for participating.
My hand was raised so quickly in the air, it might have created a windstorm.
LOL. Did you get a B? |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: Hot flashes |
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Posted: 12 Jun 2022, 4:44 pm
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Replies: 10
Views: 327
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Oh, how cute... and functional.  |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Alcohol and Autism |
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Posted: 12 Jun 2022, 10:34 am
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Replies: 38
Views: 915
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| I am very sensitive, and learned early that alcohol impacted me quickly and negatively (I don't generally like the loss of control and it upsets my stomach). I was a teetotaler until during a decade-long medical hardship, two doctors(!) told me to drink. I tried it out in moderation: I have one smal... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Weaknesses or strengths? |
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Posted: 12 Jun 2022, 10:26 am
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Replies: 9
Views: 268
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| I would say it's a difference. In some situations (quick) it's a difficulty and in other situations (quality) it's a strength. My therapist says I focus on parts (what studies currently call "weak central coherence theory") and then when I get to the whole ---which I do eventually---, I ca... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Processing Delay |
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Posted: 12 Jun 2022, 10:07 am
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Replies: 8
Views: 254
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| ^^ NT responses like that are illogical to me. If you say you have a high IQ - good for you! I might feel sorry for myself relative to that area (which is my problem), but not offended. ---I have a friend who mentions her MBA at any chance. I see this as her wanting it to gain recognition and respec... |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: Hot flashes |
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Posted: 12 Jun 2022, 9:30 am
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Replies: 10
Views: 327
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| A "usb fan" --- I am imagining a little fan that plugs into the computer. Yes, no? Also could be used in the car or any power outlet with a usb adapter. Temperature regulation. I wonder that it degrades with age, much less with other conditions such as you mentioned. My 8yo must have very ... |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: Hot flashes |
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Posted: 10 Jun 2022, 5:53 pm
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Replies: 10
Views: 327
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| So sorry for the discomfort, and lack of company for the misery. I read a book on menopause and it manifests differently in different cultures. Are the differences genetic and/or cultural? Some cultures don't even have a word for a hot flash. Menopause is in some cultures is associated instead with ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Not being handled much as a child. |
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Posted: 09 Jun 2022, 8:30 pm
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Replies: 12
Views: 376
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| Case study: (1) My AS mother also caressed and massaged me and told me she loved me. (2) My AS BFF's AS parents never touched her nor told her they loved her. I think it depends in part on upbringing, personality and self-awareness/improvement. I am an AS mother. My AS daughter avoids touch, but enj... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Emotional Regulation |
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Posted: 06 Jun 2022, 6:17 pm
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Replies: 11
Views: 368
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| I completely relate. I like what you did with the boxes. In lieu of apologizing, you could thank the person. "I know I reacted very strongly, thank you for...." My therapist advises I can also say "I'm working on it..." Therapy and tools have helped me. I am just now teaching my ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Have you come back from a "first impression deficit"? |
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Posted: 06 Jun 2022, 6:07 pm
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Replies: 16
Views: 348
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| Except it's in the court of NT social norms, such as it is :roll: Exactly that. IMHO there typically isn't sufficient context. Stranger shuns me: is it because of my high energy, is it because I'm not wearing make up, is it because I talked for over 30 second or under 5 seconds, is it because I loo... |
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