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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Am I the only man that is focused mainly on emotional aspect |
| Raphael F |
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Posted: 24 Oct 2019, 11:11 am
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Replies: 56
Views: 2,144
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| But you know what? They are the ones that are giving me things to overanalyze. If NTs are telling me things that are DIAMETRICALLY OPPOSITE to how I see then, then OF COURSE I will analyze to make sense of it all. But you are telling me NTs don't analyze. Well, if they don't, then how did they mana... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Have I lost my best friend forever? |
| Raphael F |
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Posted: 20 Oct 2019, 3:31 am
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Replies: 11
Views: 407
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Have basically given up on Wrong Planet for the time being, and probably forever in fact, but am happy to come back from my self-imposed exile to send you felicitations on this news. Hopefully you & your friend can now resume & remain in contact. Really pleased for you.
All good wishes. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: So I joined an online dating app |
| Raphael F |
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Posted: 19 Oct 2019, 8:07 am
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Replies: 22
Views: 1,459
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| Good luck, poppet. I have to leave Wrong Planet, for reasons that are not at all to do with you. That isn't a suicide note, by the way! My life is difficult, but manageable (given a bucket of coal and a bottle of wine, obviously). But I won't forget you for a long time, if ever. And I won't cease t... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: I don't want to work |
| Raphael F |
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Posted: 18 Oct 2019, 1:11 pm
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Replies: 91
Views: 2,108
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| AuntBlabby wasn't being sarcastic in the least. So you're seriously telling me it didn't occur to her to emphasize she was not agreeing with the post immediately preceding hers? She thought that post was fair comment, did she? She thought it was O.K. to let it pass? Thanks for helping to convince m... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: I don't want to work |
| Raphael F |
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Posted: 18 Oct 2019, 12:05 pm
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Replies: 91
Views: 2,108
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| Ooops! Sorry AuntBlabby and friends of AuntBlabby. I was so rattled by the post preceding hers that I got paranoid and thought this was the start of an avalanche of hostile retorts. And amazingly, I was sober at the time, so I can't even use drink as an excuse (not that it's a good excuse anyway...... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: I don't want to work |
| Raphael F |
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Posted: 18 Oct 2019, 8:34 am
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Replies: 91
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| Yes I don't want to work either. Plenty of people don't want to work. True, but I sincerely don't think this is the problem Sarah was actually getting at. Work sucks for the most part, unless one is part of the beautiful people class who effortlessly network and land in low-effort no-stress high-pa... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: I don't want to work |
| Raphael F |
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Posted: 18 Oct 2019, 7:53 am
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Replies: 91
Views: 2,108
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| Presumably the inference is that Rednecks would strongly disapprove of/disbelieve in your current plight, i.e. they would insist that a good hard kick up the backside would fix your problem just fine, and they would also very strongly disapprove of anyone claiming any form of welfare. We have Redne... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Am I the only man that is focused mainly on emotional aspect |
| Raphael F |
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Posted: 17 Oct 2019, 11:17 pm
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Replies: 56
Views: 2,144
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| However, as soon as I realized my world would not actually end if I never had children after all, that eventuality ceased to seem as awful as it always used to. And in a small way, preparedness to accept that you may never find someone can actually increase your chances of finding someone: desperat... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: So I joined an online dating app |
| Raphael F |
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Posted: 17 Oct 2019, 10:57 pm
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Replies: 22
Views: 1,459
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| Oh well. If she can say that, then clearly you have the right to stall the App Messager too, if you so wish. I guess that's how these things work. I came to the conclusion flirting and dating and getting to know people on-line was even weirder and more of a minefield than doing it in real life! But... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: My mother is scared of me |
| Raphael F |
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Posted: 17 Oct 2019, 10:16 pm
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Replies: 10
Views: 368
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| That's all very complicated. But until I get answers I can't make things better because I don't know exactly what about me scares her. Um. Yes, unfortunately it does sound very complicated. Maybe she wasn't even necessarily choosing her words very well, if she was just kind of blurting something ou... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: I don't want to work |
| Raphael F |
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Posted: 17 Oct 2019, 3:22 pm
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Replies: 91
Views: 2,108
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| Reasonable adjustments might be a thing to look at if you ever do choose to/have to work. I had to change my shift pattern because the anxiety of waiting for a 2pm start was unbearable for me, I'd be stressing all morning and feeling suicidal by the mid afternoon. Yes, if only my useless local Ment... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: I don't want to work |
| Raphael F |
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Posted: 17 Oct 2019, 12:52 pm
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Replies: 91
Views: 2,108
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| I do have two fears that I am trying to avoid to preserve my mental and physical health (As mental effects me in a physical way). 1. That I will be forced to look for work and then forced to work before I am ready to do so, which I know how difficult this is. I usually end up in a suicidal mess or ... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: I don't want to work |
| Raphael F |
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Posted: 17 Oct 2019, 8:53 am
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Replies: 91
Views: 2,108
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| I might someday have no choice but to work, regardless of whether I move or not. Just hope it doesn’t drive me crazy! And I’ll try to get work later in the day if I have to. Felt a bit guilty not saying this before, but— (1) was already probably saying too much anyway, and (2) was concentrating chi... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Am I the only man that is focused mainly on emotional aspect |
| Raphael F |
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Posted: 17 Oct 2019, 7:17 am
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Replies: 56
Views: 2,144
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| That sounds like a bit of self deception. You are trying to "trick yourself" into complying with your decision to stay single for the rest of your life by "lying to yourself" that this attitude will be more attractive to women. Well, how are you going to attract women if you mad... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: I don't want to work |
| Raphael F |
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Posted: 17 Oct 2019, 6:28 am
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Replies: 91
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| Mmm, so, a Black Maria which is not only not dark in hue, but also not even really a Maria? I trust you left a suitably unimpressed review on TripAdvisor. I don't personally groan when John Cleese does the goose-step, maybe partly because I come from a time before political correctness was A Thing ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Am I the only man that is focused mainly on emotional aspect |
| Raphael F |
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Posted: 17 Oct 2019, 6:09 am
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Replies: 56
Views: 2,144
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| Or perhaps it's not even limited to communicating emotions, but rather to communication in general. Like for example I have trouble getting my physics papers published because the referees think I am talking about a different topic from the one I actually talk about—so they end up "disagreeing... |
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