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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: The friend dilemma |
| autisticelders |
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Posted: Yesterday, 5:16 pm
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Replies: 5
Views: 196
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| this is a good point. I think a lot of people have misunderstanding and unrealistic expectations in their desire for friendship. They ask too much in their idea of friendship, expecting much more than many people can give, of the people they interact with, being demanding, needy, intrusive, jealous,... |
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Forum: Getting to know each other Topic: New here… “struggling” musician |
| autisticelders |
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Posted: Yesterday, 5:00 pm
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Replies: 8
Views: 124
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| welcome, glad you are with us! |
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Forum: Getting to know each other Topic: Hello from Singapore! Seeking peace in life. |
| autisticelders |
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Posted: Yesterday, 5:28 am
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Replies: 6
Views: 142
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| welcome, hope you find what you need! |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Need help communicating better with my therapist |
| autisticelders |
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Posted: Yesterday, 5:20 am
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Replies: 7
Views: 318
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| this is such positive news! Great work at taking action for healing and for being you own best advocate. It sounds like you are doing all the best healthy things in the actions you are taking. Getting therapy and finding answers saved my life and sanity. It is the best thing I ever did for myself! E... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Expectations |
| autisticelders |
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Posted: 07 Feb 2023, 5:47 am
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Replies: 7
Views: 209
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| everything! everything was all my fault, no escape, nothing but punishment. |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Having An Extremely Hard Time |
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Posted: 07 Feb 2023, 5:45 am
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Replies: 12
Views: 214
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| sending hugs if you can use them. Taking good care of yourself and getting enough rest , eating and getting meds and exercise should always be first. You will find you have better emotional resources if you put yourself and you basic self care needs first. Emotions can be like a roller coaster, hope... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Where can I meet someone to date? |
| autisticelders |
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Posted: 07 Feb 2023, 5:42 am
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Replies: 13
Views: 544
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| join online groups as well as "in person" ones that are interested in the same things that you love the best. I joined a rock hunting group on line and found other rock hunters. eventually some got together and met to hunt together. There are other things like rock shows, rock museums, etc... |
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Forum: Autism Politics, Activism, and Media Representation Topic: Average Australian wait time for assessment 3.5 years |
| autisticelders |
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Posted: 07 Feb 2023, 5:27 am
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Replies: 2
Views: 109
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| it doesn't seem to be getting better anywhere. People are continually misdiagnosed after the agony of waiting for so long, professionals are not keeping up with science's current understanding of autism and are relying on outdated diagnostic criteria and concepts such as "eye contact" and ... |
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Forum: Autism Politics, Activism, and Media Representation Topic: “for me, being autistic is brilliant, not a burden” |
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Posted: 07 Feb 2023, 5:20 am
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Replies: 8
Views: 235
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| I use the terms interchangeably depending on the situation and the person I am talking to about it. I hate that people are becoming militant and trying to force others to use one or the other. Is that an example of autistic rigid thinking? (rhetorical question) Thanks for this post and for your valu... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Special Interests |
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Posted: 07 Feb 2023, 5:16 am
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Replies: 5
Views: 271
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| what do you mean by new? Autism study and trying to help older adults find diagnosis has been a passion since I learned of my autism a few years ago. I have a huge collection of house plants recent to me in the past 4 years or so, When I find a new author I like I try to get all their writings and r... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Masking - what should we do? |
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Posted: 07 Feb 2023, 5:09 am
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Replies: 9
Views: 295
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| in formal situations I do mask, and I never go beyond scripts in most public situations. I guess over time we learn when we can be ourselves, and when we can't, and which friends we are most comfortable with, and how they like to interact. I need very little "in person" social interaction,... |
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Forum: Getting to know each other Topic: new here! |
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Posted: 04 Feb 2023, 10:45 am
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Replies: 5
Views: 226
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| Hi Benny! Welcome! glad you are with us! |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Is It Better To Receive/ Not To Receive An Autism Diagnosis |
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Posted: 04 Feb 2023, 10:43 am
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Replies: 19
Views: 515
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| learning of my autism was one of the best things that ever happened to me. It explained so many of the "whys" of the hurtful and anxiety causing things from my past, allowed me to heal and forgive myself as well as others. Nobody knew, all those years ago! Now everything makes better sense... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Time management with Executive Function issues |
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Posted: 04 Feb 2023, 10:33 am
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Replies: 6
Views: 243
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| I have a system! I use calendars, alarms, reminders, and I schedule absolutely everything from household chores to time for computer, exercise, and any other things I want to fit into a day. The plan is worked out by checking with the calendar first to see what is already on the schedule and then I ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: going to an "autism social club" today... |
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Posted: 04 Feb 2023, 10:27 am
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Replies: 6
Views: 227
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| sending best wishes, I have no experience in virtual/zoom/webcam meetings or "real life" autism meetings but I'm very curious to learn what happens. Cheering you on! Keep us posted. |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Condescension |
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Posted: 02 Feb 2023, 3:48 pm
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Replies: 19
Views: 2,140
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| I really never recognized being condescended to , or it never happened, until I started being open about my autism. Now i get metaphorical "pats on the head" all the time. Aggravating, but done out of ignorance and still attepmting from their end to be kind. I prefer the condescending atti... |
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