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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Incapable of Emotional Connection? |
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Posted: 03 Feb 2025, 6:58 am
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| due to trauma and training I learned to hide all my emotions and have had the devil of a time finding feelings other than fear. I am quite sure my version of "love" and "caring" is not the same as is depicted on any social media, books, movies, etc. I think society's expectations... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: I don't want to be a bitter and unlikable person |
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Posted: 03 Feb 2025, 6:53 am
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| bitterness and anger can become a self defensive habit. See also rejection sensitive dysphoria for more input. Look also for trauma in your past as that can set up unhealthy coping habits too. - I had to be taught how to look for positive stuff in my life. Therapy helped me a lot. after almost 40 ye... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Colic baby |
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Posted: 03 Feb 2025, 6:45 am
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| daughter had colic and continual stomach upset all her life . As a young adult she was finally diagnosed as being celiac. If parents have a baby with continual colic and digestive upset, ask the Dr to test for celiac. |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Adult Daughter with ASD afraid to be alone |
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Posted: 03 Feb 2025, 6:43 am
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Replies: 3
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| can you find a companion to stay with her while you are away? |
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Forum: Getting to know each other Topic: new alien :) |
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Posted: 03 Feb 2025, 6:39 am
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Replies: 16
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Forum: Getting to know each other Topic: hi guys/book recs |
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Posted: 03 Feb 2025, 6:38 am
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Replies: 8
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Forum: Getting to know each other Topic: Hi, everyone! |
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Posted: 03 Feb 2025, 6:37 am
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Replies: 10
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Anyone else speak really quietly? |
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Posted: 03 Feb 2025, 6:37 am
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Replies: 16
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| I never think of myself as being quiet but several people have commented that I am/was as a child. I get told to speak up more frequently than I get told to tone it down. (but that sometimes happens too) |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Simblings of an ASD achieve ASD traits too? Is it genetic? |
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Posted: 03 Feb 2025, 6:34 am
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| definitely genetic in my mothers side of the family, autistic individuals in each generation as far back as I can discover, one sibling definitely autistic, the other 2 maybe, both also have been diagnosed as bipolar. science today has shown that the majority of autism is genetic. More is being disc... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Failing as a high IQ kid |
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Posted: 03 Feb 2025, 6:32 am
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Replies: 24
Views: 1,497
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| follow your strongest interests and explore how you can make those interests into a job/ career ... lots of interests have all sorts of related work being done around them. Have you ever taken an aptitude/skills test? If you are in the USA, you will find a state sponsored jobs center in most county ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Autistic vs Has Autism |
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Posted: 07 Jan 2025, 7:09 am
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| I use both, just as I do for my diabetes, I am diabetic, I have diabetes. life is too short to argue about the way people choose to describe themselves. We have enough "rules" to contend with already. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Discussion topics for Asperger / HFA peer support group |
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Posted: 28 Dec 2024, 3:46 pm
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| self accommodations, self advocacy, self care, sensory processing, trauma and responses, finding friendship, "show and tell" grownup style, for collectors or those with intense interests - have members give talks for 10 minutes ( or any agreed upon time) regarding their hobbies and interes... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: being bullied as an autistic adult |
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Posted: 24 Dec 2024, 2:38 pm
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| I was bullied in every single job I ever had, I did not get diagnosis until after I was retired. I had no idea how I made them angry and resentful, but I managed to alienate co workers every time, even though I could always do the job at hand. Sabotage and "setting me up" were common and I... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Estrangement input please |
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Posted: 24 Dec 2024, 6:31 am
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Replies: 3
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| On another forum somebody mentioned that about 27 percent of people are estranged from one or more family member. I wondered how many of that percentage were autistic. With our struggles to communicate , tendency to misunderstand, and all our other social struggles (we must have problems with commun... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Pros/Cons of living alone and in an apartment building |
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Posted: 24 Dec 2024, 6:25 am
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| I think there are pros and const to almost any place we live. Safety is first consideration. I hope you find a situation which won't cause you distress and anxiety. I have lived many many places over my lifetime. Humans can and do adapt to almost any situation, but it is our nature to seek "som... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: developmental delay experience |
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Posted: 24 Dec 2024, 6:11 am
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Replies: 4
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| I had a similar experience regarding maturity. Although the ID was not part of it, I think childhood trauma, especially very early trauma, contributed to my lack of ability to function. At age 30 I was mentally/emotionally probably around 12 to 14 years old as far as maturity is concerned. As an act... |
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