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 Forum: The Haven   Topic: My mother is starting to go downhill

Posted: 30 Jan 2023, 1:41 am 

Replies: 17
Views: 327


KitLily your storie is certainly ringing all of my narcissist warning bells! I'm sorry you've had to deal with this.

 Forum: The Haven   Topic: My mother is starting to go downhill

Posted: 26 Jan 2023, 6:51 am 

Replies: 17
Views: 327


As people get closer to the end they sometimes start to see through some of their sh#t. Start to realise where they made mistakes. It may happen in a big way or a little way. I would try to take her word for it while not getting too excited that she has changed. Change is hard work.

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: Can you understand poetry as a person on the spectrum?

Posted: 15 Jan 2023, 12:46 am 

Replies: 53
Views: 2,122


While I can understand metaphor, I struggle with poetry. Listening to something in real time I cannot process fast enough to get the meaning. It becomes word salad. Somehow song lyrics are easier. Why is that? Perhaps because they are usually less of a continuous, dense flow of words? Does the music...

 Forum: The Haven   Topic: I want to die so badly right now.

Posted: 12 Jan 2023, 12:25 pm 

Replies: 7
Views: 471


Hi. Just seen this. I hope you are still with us. There is no way to end your life without passing your pain on to those who love you. I know how [email protected]#king terrible things can be. But passing it on is worse. If you just manage to keep breathing, things will change. They always do. Nothing can last for...

 Forum: The Haven   Topic: Condolences for Kortie

 Post subject: Re: Condolences for Kortie
Posted: 10 Jan 2023, 12:47 pm 

Replies: 52
Views: 937


Sorry for your loss Kraftie. I've heard it described as the umbilical cord finally being permanently severed. My own mother is getting towards that time. Sending you much love and care.

 Forum: The Haven   Topic: Inner child

 Post subject: Re: Inner child
Posted: 10 Jan 2023, 12:34 pm 

Replies: 8
Views: 216


I have found the inner child concept very useful. I believe there are past selves in me that are stuck in highly emotional past moments. Moments of trauma. I am learning to better communicate with these bits of me. By doing so I can change my relationship with the trauma.

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: Been told I "wear my heart on my sleeves"

Posted: 09 Jan 2023, 1:33 am 

Replies: 27
Views: 1,317


I have found that true strength lies through vulnerability. And "wearing your heart on your sleeve" is a form of vulnerability. To me it's the sign of a genuine trustworthy human. I think it freaks many people out, but I'm not many people.

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: Have any of you had an bad experience with a therapist?

Posted: 07 Jan 2023, 2:39 pm 

Replies: 12
Views: 592


To the OP

There are good and bad therapists. But surely if you find a good one you WANT to discuss your self esteem issues? If that is an issue you are dealing with, then surely the whole point of therapy is to find ways of dealing with that issue?

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: A few questions about ASD & whether I have it

Posted: 02 Jan 2023, 1:10 am 

Replies: 5
Views: 506


There are two reasons for getting a diagnosis: 1- in order to get some form of benefits or accommodations from government or work. 2- to further ones own understanding of oneself. For me, the first will not get me anything. The second is therefore all I'm interested in. Very little is understood abo...

 Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion   Topic: Partner’s explosive anger

Posted: 27 Dec 2022, 3:29 am 

Replies: 7
Views: 612


It is likely he doesn't know or appreciate how much you are suffering. Perhaps setting some sort of ultimatum might help. Like: "either you do something to get help, or I'm out of here." Perhaps if he can appreciate the seriousness of the situation for both you and him, he will be able to ...

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: Alexithymia lite?

 Post subject: Re: Alexithymia lite?
Posted: 27 Dec 2022, 3:01 am 

Replies: 22
Views: 645


I tend to cry tears of joy when "it's all too beautiful".

 Forum: The Haven   Topic: After nasty muscle spasms last night is there any point in -

Posted: 25 Dec 2022, 5:58 am 

Replies: 17
Views: 208


What size brush did you use for the edging of the visor? That's tiny!

 Forum: The Haven   Topic: I wish the autism spectrum wasn't so massively broad

Posted: 24 Dec 2022, 2:37 am 

Replies: 25
Views: 524


This issue is one of classification. It is the human intelligence wanting (and needing) to put things into classification boxes so we can form an understanding of reality. The boxes are both very useful, and also totally meaningless. Nothing in nature is so simple that it can be easily boxed with al...

 Forum: The Haven   Topic: Witnessed some traumatic violence.

Posted: 13 Dec 2022, 1:52 am 

Replies: 21
Views: 433


Well done Goldfish21 for managing to be so clear headed during the event. Taking charge of what needed to be done. The world needs more people like that.
I hope you're Ok.

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: Feeling manic after long conversations

Posted: 13 Dec 2022, 1:43 am 

Replies: 14
Views: 638


I am the same. I often have to lie down with my head under a pillow for a few hours after social engagement. I am more aware of this now and so I have a better understanding of when I need to stop. I think my ADHD side, who really likes intense interesting conversation, pushes me into these situatio...

 Forum: The Haven   Topic: I’m So Angry at My Dad!

Posted: 04 Dec 2022, 5:50 am 

Replies: 3
Views: 181


I have had similar problems with my mum. I deal with it better now that I can see she is autistic just like me. She doesn't know it yet.
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