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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: Someone to talk to |
| H_Taterz |
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Posted: 14 Jul 2022, 6:03 pm
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Replies: 3
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| The best person to know you is yourself, so I can't really give advice. I had a lot of the same issues you described, but I'm very happy these days. What I can tell you are things that have worked for me: 1) Understanding my issues communicating with people aren't because I'm a bad person or mean or... |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: Someone to talk to |
| H_Taterz |
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Posted: 14 Jul 2022, 12:36 pm
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Replies: 3
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| Well, I'm not diagnosed, but I was a psychology major in college and I'm 100% positive I have ASD, and I have a son who's officially diagnosed, in addition to several family members. In the U.S., if you're not seeking accommodations at work/school, there's really not a need to be diagnosed as an adu... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Am I a female autistic? |
| H_Taterz |
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Posted: 10 Jul 2022, 10:09 am
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Replies: 9
Views: 899
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| OMG you're my younger doppelganger. :lol: As many people have said, this isn't the place for a diagnosis. Do you need one for any reason? Or are you just trying to sort out your life and behaviors, and find a place where you fit in? You can PM me if you'd like. I'm unsure if this classifies me as so... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Not liking guys with Autism? |
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Posted: 05 Jul 2022, 2:11 pm
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Replies: 48
Views: 2,573
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| For me, it's always been better in person, but there are online success stories out there. I tried online dating for a few months. As a female on a dating site, these are generally the hundreds of generic messages you get on a daily basis: "Wassup?" "Hey, you're beautiful." "... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Being ghosted |
| H_Taterz |
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Posted: 05 Jul 2022, 1:52 pm
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Replies: 9
Views: 527
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| I hate to admit it, but dating is a game. You know how most animals have to learn how to do a certain type of dance or put on a show to get a mate? Humans are just animals with a little more complexity. You said you live (or lived) in a group home. Are you friends with your flat mates? What do you d... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Not liking guys with Autism? |
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Posted: 05 Jul 2022, 12:30 pm
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Replies: 48
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| OMG if you're going to dating sites, of course looks are key. It's a freaking picture that's used to get people to click on it. Dating sites are not like meeting people organically in the real world. Good looking people are perceived as more successful, especially online. Hello, social media anyone?... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Being ghosted |
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Posted: 05 Jul 2022, 12:15 pm
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Replies: 9
Views: 527
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| Guilting does nothing except to make the person you're trying to guilt-trip resent you more. Exes are familiar and comfortable, even when they're jerks. Imagine a person sitting on a couch in their house watching TV or playing games, but they're sad and a bit lonely... yet there's this door on the o... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Not liking guys with Autism? |
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Posted: 05 Jul 2022, 11:44 am
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Replies: 48
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| The key is familiarity. If you're attractive, there's a higher chance you'll hang around with other attractive people. If you're a nerd, you're more likely to hang out with other nerds. It's the same reason why we end up marrying people who are like our parents. Also, the more options you have, the ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Not liking guys with Autism? |
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Posted: 04 Jul 2022, 10:01 pm
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Replies: 48
Views: 2,573
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| Fnord, I'm frequently on the same page as you. :D There's so much to unpack here. As a female who has had many partners over the years and hung out with many NT women (and men), this is my observation: I'd say women are definitely more forgiving when it comes to appearances. I've known a handful of ... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: What challenges have you had with work? And what has helped? |
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Posted: 29 Jun 2022, 11:43 am
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Replies: 20
Views: 2,076
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| Stratozyck pretty much nailed it if you're working in an office-type workplace. The hardest part was being around the most annoying people I've ever had to deal with outside of high school for 8-hours a day. NTs say a lot of really misguided, ignorant things that I REALLY wanted to jump in and corre... |
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Forum: Computers, Math, Science, and Technology Topic: Used to think I was average at math and statistics |
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Posted: 29 Jun 2022, 11:12 am
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Replies: 1
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| 8O Okay, this post was a lot and pretty complex, but this is me! I'm a visual spatial learner. I see pictures. I can't explain how I got the correct (mathematical) answer, but I just end up knowing it. I'm trying to "re-learn" math as an adult going back to college and I'm struggling. Ever... |
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Forum: Politics, Philosophy, and Religion Topic: Flipping deep-red states |
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Posted: 29 Jun 2022, 10:56 am
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Replies: 29
Views: 1,732
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| That was an interesting video. It gave me some ideas, but it would be challenging to do on a macro scale. That's where AI might do some good, but you'd have to think about how that could go awry. I don't think this is a Democrat or Republican solution. I think we need additional political parties on... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: I did it again. And this time she’s REALLY mad. |
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Posted: 28 Jun 2022, 3:48 pm
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Replies: 27
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| Agree. This is crossing all sorts of boundaries. I only feel truly safe when I am alone. Having cameras watching me would drive me nuts. I don't even like the game cameras around the property. I will sneak up and walk around them when I see them. I'm sure you care deeply about the safety of your fam... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Hoping for Acceptance |
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Posted: 28 Jun 2022, 3:43 pm
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Replies: 9
Views: 610
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| The only time I feel it's wrong to self-diagnose is if a person is trying to use the cover of "autism" for bad behavior. Pretty much all the people I know who are definitely on the spectrum are not bad people or sociopaths like the media portrays, but there are bad actors who try to use au... |
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Forum: Random Discussion Topic: What's on your mind right now? |
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Posted: 28 Jun 2022, 11:32 am
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Replies: 40,365
Views: 1,148,178
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| How frustrated I get when I see posts like this on social media: Looking for potty training experience on an almost 4 year old boy. He has his re evaluation in September and I expect to see leaps and bounds. I’d love to get at least one of my kids out of diapers (he’s my oldest and I’m pregnant with... |
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Forum: Computers, Math, Science, and Technology Topic: Network+ |
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Posted: 20 Jun 2022, 6:38 pm
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Replies: 11
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| Mike Meyers does a really good job at breaking things down, but I have issues with lectures and staying focused. Eventually I'll have my "Eureka!" moment, but it takes some time mentally digesting things. My background is meteorology, military, some civil law (family courts)... and I'm a c... |
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