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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: my "friend" could help but he pushes me to call toxic family |
| __Elijahahahaho |
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Posted: 10 Jan 2025, 12:44 pm
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Replies: 8
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Yeah that's true.
He was asking questions about family assets.
I wouldn't pin him as that malicious, but I don't know who else he is affiliated with. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: my "friend" could help but he pushes me to call toxic family |
| __Elijahahahaho |
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Posted: 10 Jan 2025, 11:42 am
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| Honestly that time it was just meant to be a catch up, but he went crazy with these questions and sex stuff. I think he has a lot of his own problems, he is medicated. He said he uses fake photos on tinder, so I took that to also be a sign of willingness to use deception and people for his own ends.... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: my "friend" could help but he pushes me to call toxic family |
| __Elijahahahaho |
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Posted: 10 Jan 2025, 8:57 am
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Quote: I do not know what you are talking about.
Ah, onlyfans is like a site where you share sexually explicit images of yourself for money.
The other stuff is just about him being dismissive of things I told him,
and pressing me to go back to family that were abusive toward me. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: my "friend" could help but he pushes me to call toxic family |
| __Elijahahahaho |
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Posted: 09 Jan 2025, 12:27 pm
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Also he asks so many super invasive questions.
He was so crazy. He seemed to want me to work for him on onlyfans.
I blocked him but it was so traumatizing.
But this experience made me feel terrible,
Why can't I persuade people to help me.
I am exhausted. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: I identify red-flags but I give too many chances, thoughts? |
| __Elijahahahaho |
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Posted: 06 Jan 2025, 1:08 pm
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Replies: 5
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| I often identify problems early on, eg condescension, lying, mirroring, invasive questioning, infantilization... but then fall prey to rationalizations based on their excuses which are always vaguely plausible. This lead me down to several endless terrible relationships. I guess I don't want to chan... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Did anyone "lose abilities" after trauma. Feeling like it :( |
| __Elijahahahaho |
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Posted: 03 Jan 2025, 12:33 pm
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Replies: 7
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| I met one autistic woman once, she was sort of like a "crazy person", talking to the cafe store owner, but I got to talking and she was just being autistic. SHe told me she had eidetic memory until she was abused by her parents and then she was kind of "broken". In my case I feel... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Are all people with autism picky about food |
| __Elijahahahaho |
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Posted: 25 Dec 2024, 7:06 am
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Replies: 94
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Estrangement input please |
| __Elijahahahaho |
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Posted: 24 Dec 2024, 7:04 am
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Replies: 3
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| I have been estranged from my (pretty autistic) parents and the rest of them for nearly 7 years. Their own autistic traits lead to a lack of empathy and an excessive way of parenting that diminished my autonomy, and left me as more a kind of "high maintenance project" than a human to be sc... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: What would tech look like if Aspies ran the tech industry? |
| __Elijahahahaho |
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Posted: 28 Nov 2024, 10:07 am
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| I think that "industry" contains the assumption of bringing stuff to market in a kind of game involving money and demand from others. If those others are NT majority, then the aspies will figure out similar stuff to whoever is running the system now. If society however, had aspie values, a... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Appreciation for shortfatbalduglyman: Share Some Support |
| __Elijahahahaho |
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Posted: 28 Nov 2024, 7:09 am
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Replies: 19
Views: 1,162
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You cannot eat this appreciation, so it's a bit worthless. But.. idk.
Keep it chill bro, go camping, try squatting or something. |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Observed manipulative strategy thread? |
| __Elijahahahaho |
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Posted: 09 Nov 2024, 12:07 pm
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Yes I agree it is and would be hard.
I think some of us could manage to at least have some level of awareness
though. A few youtubers have talked about it.
With a list it would help people to check and they can get better,
and talk to others for advice. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Are ruthless guys more attractive than kind, good guys? |
| __Elijahahahaho |
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Posted: 06 Nov 2024, 12:03 pm
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| I don't think ruthlessness is in itself a very attractive quality to anyone. However, men who use their rutheless streak to succeed inevitably become attractive. that I am afraid is the law of the land. Not law of the land, it's a law of a sick society built on centuries of normalised exploitation.... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Observed manipulative strategy thread? |
| __Elijahahahaho |
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Posted: 06 Nov 2024, 10:22 am
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| Hi all, Can we have a thread where we post red-flag strategies that we've noticed with cultural context and maybe age-group information? The idea would be if something feels of WP users can go and check to see if there is a pattern logged in the thread. Example entry: context: Western english-speaki... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Too much "i am sorry" "I understand"... |
| __Elijahahahaho |
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Posted: 21 Oct 2024, 3:24 pm
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Replies: 11
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Quote: rather than say "I understand," the therapist should feed back their grasp of what the client had said, as a question and as strong evidence of the therapist's sincerity and interest.
that's a nice idea. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Too much "i am sorry" "I understand"... |
| __Elijahahahaho |
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Posted: 21 Oct 2024, 7:11 am
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Replies: 11
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| This is useless unproductive psychobabble. It does nothing to solve the problem, nor is it likely to be honest. In my experience it is a conversation-ender that allows the person saying it to feel good about themselves and the person hearing it now has to shut up and continue existing. This is bad p... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: managing social skills is like fixing a boat at sea. |
| __Elijahahahaho |
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Posted: 18 Oct 2024, 12:31 pm
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Replies: 10
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I am attempting to build a robot submarine out of the boat.
I will be able to effortlessly disappear then reappear in another part of the ocean! |
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