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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Is it normal to suddenly want to get rid of all friends? |
| anneurysm |
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Posted: 17 Sep 2015, 9:25 pm
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Replies: 24
Views: 6,156
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| I find these thoughts you've been having very interesting. Given your history with gaining and having friends though, these feelings you are having seem, to me, to be less about having "friends" and more so about wanting control over your interactions with people and perhaps solidifying wh... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: The "K" text |
| anneurysm |
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Posted: 24 Dec 2014, 6:53 pm
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Replies: 3
Views: 662
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| "K" basically means they have nothing else to add or say. Don't assume they are always angry when they do it as it other people could think that you are looking for conflict when you are actually just curious about their intentions. Instead, just bring up another subject if you still want ... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Email etiquette |
| anneurysm |
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Posted: 24 Dec 2014, 6:51 pm
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Replies: 1
Views: 613
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| People who are your acquaintances often say that in passing as a way to sound friendly. But if they actually care about you and are a friend to you, they would email you back. Emailing friends is acceptable, but only if they respond to emails. People who are younger (teens-20s) prefer to be messaged... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: overhsaring |
| anneurysm |
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Posted: 24 Dec 2014, 2:55 pm
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Replies: 3
Views: 608
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| I used to do this a lot in the past and I know several people on the spectrum where I can easily tell that this is an issue. It's definitely a spectrum thing. I figure it's because people on the spectrum tend to be detail focused and have trouble knowing what details are most important to share to p... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Why don't NTs like to attend our things? |
| anneurysm |
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Posted: 24 Dec 2014, 2:44 pm
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Replies: 7
Views: 1,121
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| Well, in this case I have to say they are definitely giving you mixed messages. One thing you can do to try to strengthen these connections is to invite them to hang out with you one on one. Take them out for coffee or lunch and see how they respond to these invitations. |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Why don't NTs like to attend our things? |
| anneurysm |
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Posted: 23 Dec 2014, 12:47 am
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Replies: 7
Views: 1,121
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| I'd have to know more about the types of events and how they act towards you when you come to theirs. If they are inviting you out to group events where many people are coming, they may just want a ton of people to come out rather than wanting specifically you to be there. Also when you come to thei... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: dating is starting to feel like a job search now.... |
| anneurysm |
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Posted: 23 Dec 2014, 12:33 am
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Replies: 10
Views: 1,078
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| This has nothing to do with your personal circumstances and life situation as you hadn't even mentioned these in your profile. Even if you had, if a person was really interested in you, they wouldn't care about these things. The fact is, not every woman is attracted to the things you claim they are ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Does she like me?The usual question of an aspie male |
| anneurysm |
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Posted: 23 Dec 2014, 12:19 am
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Replies: 33
Views: 2,926
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| She is being friendly, but it's way too early to know if she has romantic interest, so I wouldn't read into it. As a woman myself, many of us tend to not develop strong feelings for men right away but it tends to gradually grow as we get to know the person, like they are acquiring our respect and tr... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Giving compliments on dates |
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Posted: 23 Dec 2014, 12:15 am
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Replies: 9
Views: 789
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| I am female and have the same opinion as Cafeaulait. I would limit the compliment to one thing per meeting, any more and it feels fake. Also, never comment on a women's body or focus too much on her physical features. Comment on an article of clothing, a nice piece of jewelry, the way she did her ha... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Rebounding from accusations |
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Posted: 23 Dec 2014, 12:07 am
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Replies: 2
Views: 659
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| Acting disinterested and unaffected by these comments can be tough since they tend to be hurtful to you, whether each person has intended to hurt you or not. I think that instead of focusing on comebacks and the like, you should focus on understanding your own behaviors more and learn how to advocat... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: One sided relationships |
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Posted: 22 Dec 2014, 11:51 pm
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Replies: 13
Views: 1,134
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| rebbieh : For person #1, you have to consider her personality. If she is shy or introverted, she may not always take initiative in contacting you, but it could be that they are lacking confidence to take initiative rather than actively ignoring you (as an introvert, I can attest to this). Missing t... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: This is like the golden age for ASD |
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Posted: 22 Dec 2014, 11:20 pm
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Replies: 7
Views: 1,067
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| Agreed with all of the above. That's why I encourage people on the spectrum to join this forum and join ASD or difference oriented social groups. Everyone needs a place to belong and feel accepted. I know so many people with ASD who are isolated and just wish I could bring everyone I know on the spe... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: abandoned by all my friends |
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Posted: 22 Dec 2014, 11:06 pm
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Replies: 9
Views: 1,297
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| I think people aren't responding to this post as it may not be clear to others what your intentions writing it are. It's formatted like a diary-style entry with no questions posed or any indications that you are looking for support, which may give the impression to others that you aren't seeking any... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: One sided relationships |
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Posted: 22 Dec 2014, 10:46 pm
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Replies: 13
Views: 1,134
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| I often find that many people with ASDs have trouble knowing if a person is really their friend or if they are just an acquaintance, and I am thinking this may be the case with you. It can be tricky to know the difference though. Many people with ASD tend to think that the people in their life are c... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Everyone hates me |
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Posted: 22 Dec 2014, 10:30 pm
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Replies: 11
Views: 1,191
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| Mindfullness based stress reduction is something I've been practicing regularly for the past 4 years and it has transformed my life. As someone with formerly low self-esteem who would also get sucked into destructive thinking patterns, it has the capacity to change how you think about yourself and t... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Tips for neurotypicals with autistic friends and family |
| anneurysm |
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Posted: 22 Dec 2014, 10:13 pm
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Replies: 19
Views: 1,959
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| Don't take any of their behaviors personally, even if they seem like they are trying to annoy, manipulate or offend you. 99.9% of the time, there is no intent behind these behaviors at all. |
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