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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Telling the difference between dating and socialising |
| oppositedirection |
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Posted: 08 Aug 2013, 5:58 am
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Replies: 48
Views: 6,590
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| the person who accepts a gift is accepting the submissive role because they are now indebted to the giftgiver. This taps into traditional social custom of the man being the one ultimately in charge. Question about female psychology: I appreciate that at the physical act of sex one partner is usuall... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Buying drinks, paying for dinner, opening doors, blah blah.. |
| oppositedirection |
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Posted: 08 Aug 2013, 5:48 am
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Replies: 34
Views: 4,658
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| I agree. Gender roles and social conventions exist, following them is generally helpful if you want to get anywhere in life, but doesn't mean they are not bs. Social conventions have lead to a pay disparity between men and women. How do we treat this whilst dating, well the man is dominant and takes... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Telling the difference between dating and socialising |
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Posted: 07 Aug 2013, 6:21 am
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Replies: 48
Views: 6,590
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| I don't get this concept of the man paying for the woman. Would I be correct to suggest that woman desire to feel special and valued, hence they like someone paying for them? If so, does anyone else think that money is a really shallow way to do this, on the part of both genders? If I care about som... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Telling the difference between dating and socialising |
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Posted: 29 Jul 2013, 4:40 am
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Replies: 48
Views: 6,590
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| No that's not a date in my opinion. It's just a meet up, an attempt to get to know each other better to see if you click. I guess this is what I mean. When a single woman is invited out by a single man is she usually aware that he may be interested. She wants to see if we click because she has not ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Telling the difference between dating and socialising |
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Posted: 28 Jul 2013, 7:13 pm
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Replies: 48
Views: 6,590
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| If things go well while you are socializing, at the end of the evening I can also highly recommend kissing her hand, and saying something nice to her that can be interpreted as romantic, but not too forward. I'd be very suprised if this regularly gets a good reception and I imagine could easily ups... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Telling the difference between dating and socialising |
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Posted: 28 Jul 2013, 1:54 pm
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Replies: 48
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| A single man invites a single woman to “meet up socially”. The word “date” is never used. The meeting takes place in a cafe or a pub for a couple of hours after work and they just talk. Would most people consider this a date or not? I'm trying to work out what her perception of the situation is. To ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Look out! It's a Nice Guy! DESTROY HIM!! |
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Posted: 25 Jul 2013, 8:51 am
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Replies: 391
Views: 29,389
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| Do we like to earn someones love, and don't value it if it comes too easily? Do we feel hurt by the abuse and just automatically go to the usual source of love, for comfort, even if it comes from the same source as the abuse? Do we have trouble believing that someone we care for hurt us, so keep tr... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: what wrong with no confidence men |
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Posted: 20 Jul 2013, 7:23 pm
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Replies: 47
Views: 4,913
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| I don't get why people are linking lacking confidence with insecurity. You could have someone who is clueless at socializing,always getting it wrong so lacks confidence, yet are extremely arrogant about every other aspect of their life, such as believing they are more intelligent than their classmat... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: I am in need of some advice, pretty badly |
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Posted: 18 Jul 2013, 3:10 am
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Replies: 6
Views: 2,003
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| I want to be whatever she needs from me wither that be just a friend or otherwise This would be the best approach. My best friend sounds fairly similar to this woman, also had a really bad past history. Having known her for almost a decade, I know that she's never had a long term relationship and a... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: how to talk to this girl i just met |
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Posted: 17 Jul 2013, 7:46 am
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Replies: 8
Views: 1,327
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| Assuming you are facebook friends then leave it a few weeks then send her a message. You don't want to be too pushy and if you are not likely to see her again until next year then there is no reason to rush it. Leave it a few weeks, send her a message asking how she is, what she thought of the retre... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Looking for advice |
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Posted: 16 Jul 2013, 10:10 am
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Replies: 2
Views: 805
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| Thank you for your reply Belladonna25, it does help. I also suffer from depression and can go literally months without writing an email, even ones about everyday stuff. Dealing with something more complicated like another person who is interested in you is even more difficult if you are depressed, o... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: At what point do people give up on dating? |
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Posted: 16 Jul 2013, 8:51 am
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Replies: 56
Views: 9,188
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| It seems like a bad idea to tell someone before you've known them for a while. They'll likely notice your quirks and oddities and decide for themselves if they can handle them. Maybe once things start getting serious I could see sitting down and having a talk, "In case you haven't yet figured it ou... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Looking for advice |
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Posted: 12 Jul 2013, 8:09 am
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Replies: 2
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| About 4 months ago I met a woman and we connected extremely well, quicker than I've ever done with someone before. I was attracted to her instantly, I've never come across someone as psychologically similar to myself as her (she is also autistic) and it is uncanny just how similar our interests are.... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Anxiety cause depression? |
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Posted: 31 May 2013, 5:15 am
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Replies: 3
Views: 1,024
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| I'm wondering if anyone else finds there is a link between anxiety and depression. Basically, when you get anxious for at least a short amount of time, does this turn into depression? How this works for me will vary. For instance, I detest tidying my house, feels so overwhelming that it makes me anx... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: What coping strategies do you have? |
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Posted: 08 Dec 2012, 8:41 pm
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Replies: 10
Views: 1,988
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| What coping strategies do you use for any problems that autism causes you? I'm interested in any particular aspect of autism that you have coping strategies for. Admittedly, over the years I've modified nearly every aspect of my life to conform to autism but I'm interested in the specific steps you ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: App that you've found helpful for coping with autism |
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Posted: 05 Dec 2012, 3:50 pm
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Replies: 1
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| There are plenty of apps out there relating to autism but most of them are for children. I was wondering if anyone knows of apps that they've found useful, be them ones designed specifically for autistic people or not. I'm interested in any apps that helped mitigate any problems that autism might ca... |
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