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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: "I think your pretty confused with your ideas on autism" - ? |
| wigglyspider |
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Posted: 20 May 2020, 4:13 pm
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Replies: 37
Views: 1,269
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| I sometimes get "you don't seem really autistic to me" - I guess because I don't look and act like Charlie Babbitt and can mimic small talk and other social interactions well enough to fit in most of the time. Ive had a few "well I guess that its quite fashionable these days" co... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: How Does Masking Work? |
| wigglyspider |
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Posted: 09 Feb 2020, 12:14 am
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Replies: 95
Views: 2,608
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| I have not really had meltdowns since I was 13, (I don't get sensory overload, I have the opposite problem) and I have never had the very noticeable stimming tendencies. When I was 18 and went to college, I started really trying to learn how to interact, because I really wanted to make friends with ... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: How do you initiate contact with new people? |
| wigglyspider |
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Posted: 08 Feb 2020, 10:01 pm
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Replies: 7
Views: 650
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| Thank you extreme, that helps a lot actually. I have a romantic partner, so I'm just looking to talk to people platonically. I'm just afraid of a future where I lose friends and don't know how to make any new ones, you know? I think I could learn to do it, but I learn by watching people, and it's no... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: How do you initiate contact with new people? |
| wigglyspider |
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Posted: 08 Feb 2020, 4:30 pm
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Replies: 7
Views: 650
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| I've gotten really pretty good at talking to people in most settings, but one thing I don't know how to do is go up to someone and say hello. No idea what words to use, what tone of voice, nothing. Every friend I've ever made has approached me first. I want to learn how to make the first contact, d... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Stimming? |
| wigglyspider |
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Posted: 08 Feb 2020, 2:55 pm
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Replies: 24
Views: 1,602
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| I mostly move my legs and feet, especially my right leg, and I rub my fingers together or against something. And I hop/bounce up and down. But I have also realized I have a motionless stim: I always have to have some tension on my body. So I wedge my feet against something, or squeeze my hands betwe... |
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Forum: Random Discussion Topic: What are you eating?/Last thing you ate? |
| wigglyspider |
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Posted: 08 Feb 2020, 2:44 pm
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Replies: 19,162
Views: 786,522
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| Saturday morning waffle!! ! With fruit and walnuts. And coffee of course. Delicious. |
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Forum: Random Discussion Topic: Post something that made you happy today. |
| wigglyspider |
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Posted: 08 Feb 2020, 1:26 pm
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Replies: 32,949
Views: 1,326,254
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| I haven't been able to see my friends much because of my new job, and I got very sad about it yesterday, but I invited some people over last night and they were able to come even though it was last-moment, and we had a great time watching old horror movies and playing video games, so I am still real... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: The earlier you're diagnosed the better the outcome ? |
| wigglyspider |
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Posted: 08 Feb 2020, 1:19 pm
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Replies: 103
Views: 2,651
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| Its like any other condition. The earlier it's recognized the better. Simple as that. So you get "labeled". So what? You would get informally "labeled" anyway. So what difference does it make? You are told what you can do and what you cannot. You are told what are your (expected... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: How do you get over feeling hopless after a diagnosis? |
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Posted: 08 Feb 2020, 12:01 pm
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Replies: 16
Views: 1,065
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| I know how you feel because I can get to thinking that way sometimes, but I don't think it's a very accurate way to see things. There is not a hard ceiling. Autism is a category made up by doctors, but you're still like everyone else in the sense that you can improve yourself to a degree that will a... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: The earlier you're diagnosed the better the outcome ? |
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Posted: 08 Feb 2020, 11:33 am
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Replies: 103
Views: 2,651
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| I was diagnosed at 11 and was lucky enough to get to go to a special middle school for a few years, where I had peers who didn't shun me and staff who didn't suspend me for melting down. Without that incredible experience, I think I would have missed some vital social development. (Before that, I ha... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Disabled or different..??? |
| wigglyspider |
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Posted: 07 Feb 2020, 8:10 pm
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Replies: 43
Views: 1,989
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| I don't consider myself disabled now. There may be some things I can't really do, but I've found that that's true of all my friends as well, and I can do so many other things, (and do some things I struggle with more effectively than many normal people, because I've put so much thought and work into... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: What Supports Do You Receive? |
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Posted: 07 Feb 2020, 7:49 pm
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Replies: 27
Views: 1,277
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| I got help finding a job from the Department of Vocational Rehab in WA, (that was really really helpful) and I get a bus pass if I want it, but it's a really obnoxious process to get it renewed, so since my job also provides reduced bus fare, I just use that instead. My family does things like my ta... |
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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: Getting sex? |
| wigglyspider |
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Posted: 07 Feb 2020, 2:31 pm
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Replies: 62
Views: 1,049
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| You can't do a lot about your face, but you can do a ton to improve your body. It's one of the easiest ways to improve yourself, IMO, because you don't need to be good at anything, you just need to do the steps and stick to them. Start by building small habits. A little exercise every day, more frui... |
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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: Are You A Virgin? |
| wigglyspider |
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Posted: 07 Feb 2020, 2:15 pm
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Replies: 71
Views: 955
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| No, I first had sex at 19 in college and I'm still with him! |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: Extroverted Aspie women |
| wigglyspider |
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Posted: 07 Feb 2020, 2:03 pm
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Replies: 18
Views: 3,031
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| As far as I can tell, I'm mostly an extrovert. I want to be around people most of the time, including large groups of people. It makes me happy. I do have a little social anxiety because of so many years of social rejection when I was a kid, but the reason it happened so much is because I was always... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: How do you initiate contact with new people? |
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Posted: 07 Feb 2020, 1:29 pm
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Replies: 7
Views: 650
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| I've gotten really pretty good at talking to people in most settings, but one thing I don't know how to do is go up to someone and say hello. No idea what words to use, what tone of voice, nothing. Every friend I've ever made has approached me first. I want to learn how to make the first contact, do... |
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