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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: small talk stinks |
| AlphaSister |
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Posted: 07 Dec 2012, 1:28 pm
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zacb wrote: I don't think Aspeis are the only ones with a problem with small talk. I think even some NT's are not to fond of small talk. Why do you think people drink many times? 
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: small talk stinks |
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Posted: 07 Dec 2012, 1:27 pm
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| People always ask me, "how's it going?" I always answer literally. Ever notice how people ask "how's it going?" or "how are you?" as they are walking past you? I don't think they are even expecting any answer outside of "ok". Once I answered honestly and the person was out of ear shot before I coul... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: small talk stinks |
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Posted: 07 Dec 2012, 1:24 pm
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| And it's even worse in a small town. I moved here with my husband who has lived here all his life, and everyone knows him. So therefore everyone thinks they know me and therefore have an obligation to ask how I'm doing, how the boys are, how the ambulance business is going (even thought they don't ... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: small talk stinks |
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Posted: 07 Dec 2012, 1:22 pm
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| Small talk is actually the reason why I often procrastinate on getting my hair cut or getting some other service, like dentist or doctor. I wish people could just take me in, only talk to convey important information, and just do their job. I still haven't found entirely autistic-friendly services ... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: small talk stinks |
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Posted: 07 Dec 2012, 1:18 pm
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| I don't understand why people always have to talk to be comfortable. It seem like a lot of people find silence offensive or something. YES! This runs rampant in my step-mom's family and it has led to her asking some questions that offended my brother-in-law to such a degree that he doesn't want her... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: small talk stinks |
| AlphaSister |
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Posted: 07 Dec 2012, 1:15 pm
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| Dear AlphaSister, I believe these insensitive jerks are people making feeble attempts to be nice to you. You should wear a sign warning them that you will not tolerate their small talk and their puny existence. Find or create some crazy looking piece of costume jewelry and tell anyone who asks that... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: small talk stinks |
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Posted: 05 Dec 2012, 6:21 pm
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| Do people take is as an insult if I don't exchange banter? I smile and nod but trying to come up with the appropriate reply to someone pointing out it is raining (when we are both outside in the rain) ties me up in knots. What do they expect me to say? |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: small talk stinks |
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Posted: 05 Dec 2012, 5:43 pm
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| Why do co-workers feel the need to say something to me when we pass each other in the hall? I think a smile and nod is more than sufficient but some people can't just stop there and have to comment on inane stuff or feign exhaustion or work fatigue during what is a reasonably paced time of year arou... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Holiday party |
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Posted: 05 Dec 2012, 5:37 pm
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| If the party is in the office, you could offer to work from home if possible. If it is elsewhere, offer to stay behind and man the phones (someone usually has to). When we have parties at work I make a brief appearance and then go right back to work. Since I don't have a car no one expects me to sh... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Not Engaging and Constantly Interrupted |
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Posted: 05 Dec 2012, 5:19 pm
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Replies: 32
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| Does anyone else ever find themselves thinking "I need better friends" after a social interaction? I have a few good friends, and then I have those people. I have a core group of wonderful, understanding and supportive friends and honestly have no desire for any more. Why look for more friends when... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Social Skills: Do you like celebrations? |
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Posted: 30 Nov 2012, 1:15 pm
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| I don't mind birthday parties for my friends' kids because they are short and the kids provide the entertainment, I do not have to be "on" and interacting with others too much. I do not like birthday parties for adults; if they are at someone's home or a bar they basically just become a loud, drunke... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: "Respect your elders","too young/old",&q |
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Posted: 21 Nov 2012, 1:26 pm
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You know, when you put it like that-yeah! My internal voice does seem to be stuck in my early 20s. Not that I mind, keeps me very grateful and easily entertained and I'm able to hold down a job that allows me to support myself so it hasn't harmed me in anyway.
Cute dog by the way! |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Christmas dinner at work. |
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Posted: 21 Nov 2012, 11:10 am
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| I wish people would only pay attention to their own eating. AMEN! Why are people always so caught up in what those around them are doing? Don't worry if I'm enjoying my meal, if I'm not I will do something about it. In fact, knowing others are so invested and concerned in what I am eating and if I ... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: "Respect your elders","too young/old",&q |
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Posted: 21 Nov 2012, 11:03 am
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| I feel about 10-15 years younger than my peers. I have no desire to buy a home, get married, have children or advance at my job like it seems I am supposed to. Don't get me wrong, I take care of myself and handle my own business but I have no desire to take on any more stress or work if I don't hav... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: "Respect your elders","too young/old",&q |
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Posted: 20 Nov 2012, 3:19 pm
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Replies: 19
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| I feel about 10-15 years younger than my peers. I have no desire to buy a home, get married, have children or advance at my job like it seems I am supposed to. Don't get me wrong, I take care of myself and handle my own business but I have no desire to take on any more stress or work if I don't have... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Most people are not worth talking to. |
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Posted: 20 Nov 2012, 3:08 pm
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Replies: 29
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| There are days when small talk is outright painful for me. Those are the days I hide in my cube at work, eat lunch late to avoid anyone in the kitchen and take a different bus to lessen the chances of someone I work with being on it. I am very fortunate to live alone so once I am home I am safe and ... |
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