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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: We are not superior to NT'S! |
| Villette |
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Posted: 18 Mar 2014, 7:31 am
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Replies: 127
Views: 6,985
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| I totally agree with the OP. I find it easier to connect with NTs (though very few); their rules are easier to understand. Also, most of the people who have been kind to me, and consider me a friend, are NTs. All the truly good people I know are NTs. While I do know honest Aspies, I find them on the... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Questions. Imagination and escaping into your own world |
| Villette |
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Posted: 18 Mar 2014, 7:28 am
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Replies: 100
Views: 10,532
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| Thanks for posting this, OP. You've described how I managed to survive childhood for 10 years without feeling severely depressed (that only came in adolescence). -would you describe it as being "your other world" that you escape to? Unfortunately, the "other world" was more interesting to me than my... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Are autistic people as susceptible to herd behavior as NTs? |
| Villette |
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Posted: 13 Mar 2014, 12:16 am
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Replies: 78
Views: 4,933
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| To some extent. We don't seem to have herd instinct, because we don't fit in, people don't like us, and we don't understand what others are thinking, but I still think the herd instinct exists. I do know once I know what others are doing I feel compelled to do the same thing, not because I want to, ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Can ASD undiagnosed into adulthood become good manipulators? |
| Villette |
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Posted: 27 Feb 2014, 1:05 am
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Replies: 30
Views: 2,675
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| Haha YES, but it depends. I think these are the minority. My mother is certainly manipulative when it comes to getting attention about her illnesses, and setting others against me for not being sympathetic when she moans several times a day about the same pains. To the rest of the world, she is a su... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: "You're so smart , you can't have a neurological disabi |
| Villette |
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Posted: 24 Feb 2014, 10:36 pm
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Replies: 23
Views: 1,838
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| My friends said that to me. I was never offended though. If a smart person had told me they were autistic when I was in my teens I would have expressed the same incredulity. The thing is that mental disabilities highlighted in the media deal with those whose IQs are lower and don't adapt well in mai... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Aspie's supportive mother starts fb page to show he's loved |
| Villette |
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Posted: 24 Feb 2014, 12:09 am
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Replies: 47
Views: 3,214
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| Knowing kids, they'd probably say his mum is being desperate, and make fun of him behind his back. I know this is being cynical, but kids can be total monsters (and now, they are far worse than during my time at school) |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: social networking for aspies |
| Villette |
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Posted: 21 Feb 2014, 12:45 pm
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Replies: 31
Views: 3,135
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| I love Tumblr. It seems to be designed for nerds/Aspies. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Beginning to think I was misdiagnosed... |
| Villette |
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Posted: 18 Feb 2014, 9:41 pm
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Replies: 25
Views: 2,797
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| Misdiagnosed. I know a few people who were shy loners as kids and now they're very extroverted. Maybe you have ADD (but don't take me word for it!) Social interactions is THE defining factor that makes or breaks an Aspergers'. Even those who adapt well have trouble reading people, empathising or hav... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: What do you feel in relationships? |
| Villette |
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Posted: 18 Feb 2014, 3:31 am
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Replies: 16
Views: 1,996
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| Definitely I have felt as you have. The last time I went out with someone, I felt strangely comfortable with him - something I hardly ever do with guys - and that I could trust him and talk to him. We talked for 7 hours straight, a miracle for me. Though like you, I wasn't at all physically attracte... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Autistic Types clashing |
| Villette |
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Posted: 17 Feb 2014, 4:36 am
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Replies: 22
Views: 2,102
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| So for the sake of arguing. I'm sorry, but I am not going to get into what is already a losing battle with you over having a different view than you do. So have a nice day, really. :D No. I responded because this is a message board and we respond to other people's opinions with our own opinions. Th... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Appreciation, consideration, and sharing |
| Villette |
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Posted: 17 Feb 2014, 4:32 am
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Replies: 11
Views: 963
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| For example, one common mistake Aspies make is to borrow others' things without asking Really? I have never done that. That was always a given to me, and I have had the problem that some others don't feel that way. Aspies tend to take others for granted. Really? I took my family for granted when I ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Just How Unusual am I? |
| Villette |
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Posted: 16 Feb 2014, 11:31 pm
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Replies: 9
Views: 1,102
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| Hi Aspertastic, Totally agree with you here. Although my social skills are nothing compared to yours (they used to be better, but after studying overseas, worsened), I feel and think a lot like an NT. But I function as an Aspie and people don't take to me, no matter how nice I try to be. After a 2-y... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Appreciation, consideration, and sharing |
| Villette |
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Posted: 16 Feb 2014, 11:21 pm
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Replies: 11
Views: 963
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| This is perfectly true. I myself was born selfish and inconsiderate. That being said, consideration can be learned. When people told me I was hurting others/turning them off, I was so shocked that nowadays I try to think about upsetting others. For example, one common mistake Aspies make is to borro... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Will AS disappear in the future? |
| Villette |
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Posted: 14 Feb 2014, 1:44 pm
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Replies: 41
Views: 2,112
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| I think in the past mating was a communal responsibility. Often people were joined by arranged marriages and children were expected of every couple. However, as we move forward, mating becomes an individual activity, one at which people with AS are generally bad (due to deficiencies in courting and... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Never drawing people as a child |
| Villette |
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Posted: 14 Feb 2014, 10:46 am
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Replies: 37
Views: 2,714
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| I never photograph people, not even my friends. I only photograph landscapes and food. As for favourite paintings, its landscapes all the way. I also dislike looking at photos of people on Facebook, and I roll my eyes at selfies. Ironically, this extrovert Aspie girl (whose symptoms are worse than m... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: How did You find out You had Aspergers, Autism etc.? |
| Villette |
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Posted: 13 Feb 2014, 3:55 am
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Replies: 43
Views: 3,174
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| I always suspected there was something wrong with me, especially when I got hold of a health article at age 14 that mentioned Aspergers. I suppressed the thought for years feeling terribly insecure, till a teacher brought up the matter when I was 17. "I think you have Aspergers," she said. I later g... |
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