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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Does Aspergers and romance neediness go hand in hand? |
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Posted: 30 Jun 2010, 9:50 pm
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Replies: 30
Views: 13,240
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My aspie was not needy.
Also, not faithful, but that's another thread.  |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: The "Disappearing Act" Revisited-- It happened AGA |
| poppyx |
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Posted: 22 Jun 2010, 7:47 am
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Replies: 12
Views: 2,731
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Actually, my aspie is currently doing this.
It's not an NT thing. |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Help! Husband's Way = The Right Way ( TM ) |
| poppyx |
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Posted: 21 Jun 2010, 8:51 am
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Replies: 6
Views: 1,475
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I would seriously go talk to the people at the Delphi Forums.
AS and Their Partners and AS and Relationships That Work are constructive places to talk about these issues. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: The ethics of procreation, and the meaning of "special& |
| poppyx |
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Posted: 20 Jun 2010, 12:10 am
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Replies: 22
Views: 2,618
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| Actually, I'm an NT and I don't agree--I think you can procreate, particularly if you are an aspie who knows how to and is willing to parent a kid just like you. However, if you don't warn your NT partner that you're an aspie and your child might be as well BEFORE you procreate--then you're just a j... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Does Craigslist personals actually work? |
| poppyx |
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Posted: 19 Jun 2010, 10:43 pm
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Replies: 29
Views: 43,591
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Honestly, I posted an ad for someone who had dated someone with AS (I'm an NT) and found my post-aspie boyfriend there--from one reply.
With the right ad, "Yes, Craigslist works." |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Is hoarding an AS trait? |
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Posted: 19 Jun 2010, 3:24 pm
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Replies: 46
Views: 7,398
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| Interesting, Willard. I think it IS 'collecting' not hoarding. Well organized, wall to ceiling piles of rugs and stacks of DVDs for my aspie.... whereas the NTs I know who hoard create unbelievable quagmires that look like Jim Henson movie sets (think the rubbish piles in "Dark Crystal"). Although i... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Is hoarding an AS trait? |
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Posted: 19 Jun 2010, 1:13 pm
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Replies: 46
Views: 7,398
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| NT here. It's not a uniquely aspergian trait. I personally collect things more when I am stressed. One of my family members did that as well when going through a divorce, and the amount of hoarding was pretty pathological. The aspie I know, though? Oriental rugs, DVD's, movie posters, records, chair... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: RDOS test really accurate at detecting all types of ASD? |
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Posted: 19 Jun 2010, 8:08 am
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Replies: 6
Views: 2,733
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| I agree with the poster above--self-reporting, and your environment, can really skew the test. I'm an NT, and the only reason I don't score as AS, (and I'm close) after years of being with an aspie, is that I'm also off the charts on the empathy scale. (Surprising as that may be to some here.) The o... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Relationship success stories :)? |
| poppyx |
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Posted: 19 Jun 2010, 7:43 am
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Replies: 59
Views: 6,345
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I gotta tell you guys....I'm really appreciating this thread, because my experience with my aspie was not at all what you are describing...
I'm glad that a lot of you have good, real relationships. It's heartening. |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Does AS get worse when you live with a sexual partner? |
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Posted: 18 Jun 2010, 5:37 pm
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Replies: 18
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| I didn't say I made my aspie act that way. Most aspies seem to think they have to mask to get into a relationship. In fact, I think it torpedoed our relationship that I DID accept his aspieness. That was just too weird for him. The only thing I nagged him about was talking to me about another girl. ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Which of the following assumptions annoys you more? |
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Posted: 18 Jun 2010, 7:53 am
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Replies: 42
Views: 3,263
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# 1
My aspie thought he could not be in a long-term relationship with anyone because of "what was wrong with him."
Talk about your self-fulfilling prophecies.
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Does AS get worse when you live with a sexual partner? |
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Posted: 18 Jun 2010, 7:48 am
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Replies: 18
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| NT here. My aspie got much worse the longer we were in a relationship. I have a sneaking suspicion that a lot of the problem is having to "mask" AS symptoms. No one should have to do that 24/7. It adds to the stress of the AS person substantially if they have to be something they are not for a long ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Taking love for granted |
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Posted: 18 Jun 2010, 12:27 am
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Replies: 22
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| Nick, I think that may end up being the point of this thread: we can't generalize. Some people are way sensitive, and some aren't, regardless of their AS or NT status. I think HopeGrows analysis of patterns is spot on. (Although I still think some patterns may be more common in some populations of a... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Aspie = success (spin off) |
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Posted: 17 Jun 2010, 7:53 pm
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Replies: 9
Views: 1,188
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My aspie is very good at editing legal appeals because he is precise and very logical.
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Taking love for granted |
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Posted: 17 Jun 2010, 4:09 pm
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Replies: 22
Views: 2,685
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...and I've known some low self-esteem players, both NT and AS.
(And, "No, I have no idea how that works.")
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Forum: School and College Life Topic: Thinking of Law School |
| poppyx |
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Posted: 17 Jun 2010, 2:47 pm
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Replies: 5
Views: 840
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| You might be able to survive law school just fine. The logical aspect would really be enjoyable for a lot of AS folk, I think. However, when you actually are a lawyer, you have to deal with high volume really annoying people unless you have an engineering degree and you can do something like patent ... |
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