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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Am I better of being single? |
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Posted: 27 Sep 2016, 10:42 pm
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Replies: 36
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| Not many NT's are in happy relationships anymore either. It's just the times we're living in. |
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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: Really, How Much of a Turn-off is Being a Male Virgin? |
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Posted: 27 Sep 2016, 10:37 pm
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| If being a virgin bothers you, one option is to just lose it to an escort (classy hooker) like I did. In retrospect I wish I didn't do it this way, but being a virgin caused me so much anxiety I was going insane anyways. One thing to keep in mind is: If you go this route you will never be able to te... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Am I better of being single? |
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Posted: 27 Sep 2016, 5:28 pm
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| Yes, at least in most cases, you are better off being single. Being in a relationship can be stressful for anyone. However, I think for people with AS, it is often a source of constant conflict. It has been said many times before, the AS person can work on themselves and try and learn or adjust to b... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Dating in your 30s |
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Posted: 26 Dec 2015, 12:51 pm
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Replies: 121
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| So I feel I have to ask the obvious question: If following the usual advice isn't working for you (i.e. find people that share your interests, get introduced to people through friends, online dating, and being more sociable) how do you find someone? Everywhere I look it basically seems like I have ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Dating in your 30s |
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Posted: 23 Dec 2015, 1:50 am
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| Grumble, grumble, grumble. If you think dating is hard in your 30s, try it in your 40s - or your 50s. That's the worst part of it. Knowing that there is much worse yet to come. I wish I didn't have to think about relationships. Most of the time I am ok with being single, but it is a hole in you tha... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Dating in your 30s |
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Posted: 22 Dec 2015, 2:02 am
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| OP, why do you think not drinking is hindering your chances at finding someone? I'm only 19, but I have no desire to drink even when I turn 21. I never thought of that has something that could hurt my chances at finding someone. You can go to bars and do things besides drink. Drinking is a big part... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Dating in your 30s |
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Posted: 22 Dec 2015, 1:58 am
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| I would like to meet a woman who shares my interest in fitness. I like to eat healthy and go to the gym regularly. I would like to meet a woman who shares this passion, and we could encourage each other along the way. There are often attractive women at the gym, unfortunately the gym is known as a d... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Dating in your 30s |
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Posted: 22 Dec 2015, 1:50 am
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| Probably the best way for Aspies or Aspie-like people to meet women is at Star Trek Conventions and things of that ilk. What are you special interests? I don't really have too many special interests. I am into stuff like the stock market, pc games, snowmobiles. I like to stay in shape and go to the... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Aspies in the legal field |
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Posted: 21 Dec 2015, 12:55 pm
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| Paralegal could be a good job. Becoming an actual lawyer is a ton of work. It requires many years of expensive post secondary, and it very competitive to get into. I would look into paralegal first, personally. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Why is it girls have an easier time getting dates than guys? |
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Posted: 21 Dec 2015, 12:49 pm
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| NT Women usually want confident, outgoing guys. Women are expected to be pursued, and playing hard to get (being shy, demure) are considered virtues. Women who are too outgoing or provocative with the opposite sex are usually looked down upon. So in these regards, an AS male is probably going to hav... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Dating in your 30s |
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Posted: 20 Dec 2015, 11:57 pm
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| Who here is in their 30's and actively seeking a relationship? I am 32, and it seems like everyone is taken. I don't know how to meet women, and basically hate my life. I'm told that I am good looking, and have okay social skills I think. I don't drink unfortunately and I think that has a lot to do ... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: "You can't fake personality"- article |
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Posted: 11 Sep 2015, 1:00 am
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Replies: 27
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| I think most AS people can learn enough of the basic social necessities to coexist in the world and do some basic things. The problem is, they will never be as good as NTs at this, or have these abilities come naturally to them the way they do to NTs. The problem is that we are in competition with N... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: "You can't fake personality"- article |
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Posted: 03 Sep 2015, 3:47 pm
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| The rules are simple, but costly to adhere to. The first and most important is to remain aware of those around you at all times. A lot of rudeness comes from being oblivious to what's going on around you. For me and I assume a lot of autistics it can be overwhelming to do this. My instinct is to sh... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Truth about Asperger marriage failure rates? |
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Posted: 03 Sep 2015, 3:13 pm
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| - Failure for one or both to adjust their expectations for their partner and where the relationship could and should go. . Yep. Maybe though truth is that almost always (Lilla an exception!) Aspies will fail to meet the 'intimacy' and communication needs of NTs; so probably Aspies should not marry ... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: "You can't fake personality"- article |
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Posted: 03 Sep 2015, 3:10 pm
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| Saying this is just a smoke screen for what they are really getting at, which is they want a specific type of personality and affability. I don't think there's a smoke screen. I think they're pretty clear about it. The rules really aren't that hard to learn. I don't think you understand what I wrot... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: "You can't fake personality"- article |
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Posted: 03 Sep 2015, 12:15 pm
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Replies: 27
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| I think most AS people are friendly and considerate. I think virtually all people, whether they are friendly and considerate or not, will be friendly and considerate during a job interview. Saying this is just a smoke screen for what they are really getting at, which is they want a specific type of ... |
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