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Forum: LGBT Discussion Topic: What do you Think about Facebook's New Gender Stance? |
| Troy_Guther |
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Posted: 14 Feb 2014, 1:39 am
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Replies: 18
Views: 2,631
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| What the hell took them so long? |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Help me (NT) understand my friend (AS) |
| Troy_Guther |
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Posted: 13 Feb 2014, 12:23 pm
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Replies: 45
Views: 3,459
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| If there is any grounds for multiple interpretations of what he said, ask him to clarify Yes, you are right. I will do that. I think now you have to ask yourself if you can accept your friendship exactly as it is now & end it if you cant I need to know whether I am an exchangeable random interl... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Help me (NT) understand my friend (AS) |
| Troy_Guther |
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Posted: 11 Feb 2014, 9:22 pm
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Replies: 45
Views: 3,459
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| I don't want to be mean here, but you're still being pretty indirect here. Remember, you're talking to an aspie, so he can't really visualize how his words affect you. He can't adequately visualize what you're thinking. Theory of Mind deficits and all that. The way you phrased your questions, it wo... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Help me (NT) understand my friend (AS) |
| Troy_Guther |
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Posted: 11 Feb 2014, 5:33 pm
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Replies: 45
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| I don't want to be mean here, but you're still being pretty indirect here. Remember, you're talking to an aspie, so he can't really visualize how his words affect you. He can't adequately visualize what you're thinking. Theory of Mind deficits and all that. The way you phrased your questions, it wou... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Feeling isolated even though you have friends |
| Troy_Guther |
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Posted: 09 Feb 2014, 7:09 pm
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Replies: 7
Views: 1,447
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| In my experience, feeling lonely or isolated has less to do with having friends and more to do with not feeling understood. You can be surrounded by friends, but if none of them can truly empathize with what it's like to be you, you're still going to be lonely. That's why this site does so much good... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: How could people disrespect the dead ??? |
| Troy_Guther |
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Posted: 09 Feb 2014, 6:28 pm
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Replies: 16
Views: 2,607
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| Because feeling disheartened by every person that has ever suffered and died in all of human history is a totally pointless exercise, one that does no good for the deceased and fills me with anguish. What, exactly, is the point of that? All I see when someone demands that I mourn the dead is someon... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: How could people disrespect the dead ??? |
| Troy_Guther |
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Posted: 09 Feb 2014, 1:52 am
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Replies: 16
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| Because feeling disheartened by every person that has ever suffered and died in all of human history is a totally pointless exercise, one that does no good for the deceased and fills me with anguish. What, exactly, is the point of that? All I see when someone demands that I mourn the dead is someone... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Sage advice for the NT in an NT/Aspie Relationship |
| Troy_Guther |
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Posted: 07 Feb 2014, 2:36 am
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Replies: 21
Views: 3,838
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| The biggest thing you can do is not expect him to read your mind on things. It's BS when NT's do it to each other, and it's downright cruel to expect it of an aspie. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: What is your Aspie Quiz score |
| Troy_Guther |
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Posted: 06 Feb 2014, 3:22 pm
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Replies: 1,035
Views: 173,320
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| Your Aspie score: 60 of 200 Your neurotypical (non-autistic) score: 139 of 200 You are very likely neurotypical I took this test about a year and a half ago, and back then I scored about half and half. So there's one of two possibilities: Either I'm improving, or I simply have more confidence than I... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Never being told you seem AS |
| Troy_Guther |
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Posted: 06 Feb 2014, 11:29 am
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Replies: 18
Views: 1,792
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| While people never say such things directly, some people will occasionally comment on my weirdness. Thankfully, it's almost universally comments about it being an positive, endearing sort of weirdness. I would not be shocked if some people were put off by my quirkiness, but so far, they haven't ment... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Would you say you are overly observant or rarely notice |
| Troy_Guther |
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Posted: 04 Feb 2014, 7:57 pm
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Replies: 22
Views: 1,944
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| I would say that I can be plenty of both, depending on the situation. I can be very observant when I actually bother to pay attention, but I tend to miss out on a lot of details if I'm focused on something else. |
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Forum: Games and Video Games Topic: Who here plays League of Legends? |
| Troy_Guther |
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Posted: 04 Feb 2014, 6:15 pm
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Replies: 4
Views: 658
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I recently got introduced to the game by some friends, and I've found it incredibly enjoyable. My summoner name is DarthLeon, and I've already gone ahead and sent you a friend request. Hopefully we'll be able to play soon.  |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Help me (NT) understand my friend (AS) |
| Troy_Guther |
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Posted: 31 Jan 2014, 3:58 am
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Replies: 45
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| I'm shy myself and I had to summon all my courage to ask him out twice. Why do you understand where I am heading at and he simply doesn't. He is an extremely intelligent person. Even if he is unable to get the clue intuitively, he should be able to analyze the situation and come to the right conclu... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Help me (NT) understand my friend (AS) |
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Posted: 30 Jan 2014, 7:02 pm
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Replies: 45
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| @ Willard: Thank you so much for your reply. somebody needs to teach Sheldon some tact I always laugh out loud when Sheldon makes such remarks in BBTheory, but when I had my own Sheldon experience it wasn't funny at all :wink: Here is an update. After his last mail (referring to the film) I suggest... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: A Conversation in a Group of People |
| Troy_Guther |
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Posted: 30 Jan 2014, 5:27 pm
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Replies: 11
Views: 1,235
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| Conversation with a group of strangers is definitely more difficult, that's for sure. The boundaries are harder to ascertain, and there's more people to read. A group conversation with people I know well is much easier though; boundaries have already been pretty clearly established. Alternatively, i... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: What is it like to have aspie friends? |
| Troy_Guther |
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Posted: 30 Jan 2014, 5:17 pm
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Replies: 11
Views: 1,283
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| I actually have both a younger brother and a college roommate who are both aspies, so I can give you my perspective on it. To be honest, I find being friends with them more difficult in some ways; their lack of empathy really causes problems once in a while. Even though I have AS, I still have excel... |
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