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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Are there any HFA/ BPD match success stories? |
| kaedatiger |
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Posted: 30 Sep 2017, 4:09 pm
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Replies: 4
Views: 524
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| I don't have much experience dating people with personality disorders, so I'm having some trouble knowing what to expect. My cultural exposure to BPD is Girl Interrupted and Troy on Community . It seems like in some ways they're more culturally invisible than we are, and information on the two neuro... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: How soon do you tell a potential date you have AS? |
| kaedatiger |
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Posted: 11 Sep 2017, 8:12 pm
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Replies: 10
Views: 744
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| I usually disclose well before it gets serious but some time after the first impression has been made so that the person is not assuming wrong things based on stereotypes. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Do people with Asperger's remain virgins for life? |
| kaedatiger |
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Posted: 11 Sep 2017, 8:02 pm
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Replies: 183
Views: 46,252
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| I wouldn't say that not dating is "typical". Sure, there are a few asexuals/ aromantics among us, as well as individuals with other reasons why they choose not to date or engage in sex. But it's not uncommon for aspies to engage in all types of romantic and sexual relationships. The most d... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Polyamory: Someone Please Help Me Understand |
| kaedatiger |
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Posted: 27 Aug 2017, 5:36 pm
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Replies: 121
Views: 3,909
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| People have different approaches to romantic and sexual relationships. For me personally, monogamy doesn't make any sense. Humans are very different from each other and have different needs: socially, romantically, sexually, hobbies/ activities, etc. Expecting ONE person to match you on EVERYTHING i... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: I'm feeling very defeatist about relationships right now. |
| kaedatiger |
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Posted: 15 Aug 2017, 12:42 am
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Replies: 2
Views: 251
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| It just feels like nobody has any respect and it's not worth my time to bother trying to find understanding and intimacy in other people. I gave up on having a boyfriend or girlfriend (pretending that girls would even consider dating me) after my best relationship ended and then I had one with an ab... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: I have made a terrible mistake |
| kaedatiger |
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Posted: 05 Feb 2017, 7:43 am
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Replies: 16
Views: 1,307
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| From everything you say, it sounds like you don't want him and especially don't want to be trapped in a relationship with him in which he'll constantly be jealous over nothing and try to control you. There's no shame in walking away from someone who doesn't respect your autonomy and acts like he own... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Do AS/AS pairings work better than AS and other neurotypes? |
| kaedatiger |
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Posted: 05 Feb 2017, 7:28 am
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Replies: 6
Views: 662
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| My own dating history isn't diverse enough to answer this question, but I've found that I get along mostly with people who are not neurotypical. A considerable fraction of my partners have had ADD/ ADHD, for example. There aren't any knows autists in my personal dating experience, so I can't compare. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Am I The Only One Who Never Felt The Need To Have Friends? |
| kaedatiger |
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Posted: 15 Jul 2016, 11:37 pm
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Replies: 15
Views: 790
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| Good friendship is a protection against being exploited. As satisfying as it can be to do things on your own, humans are not designed to operate completely solo, especially when surrounded by other (potentially dangerous) humans. Plus there are more opportunities to gain wisdom through observation a... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Here's a good dating advice site! |
| kaedatiger |
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Posted: 18 Dec 2014, 12:07 am
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Replies: 2
Views: 710
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| This is good. Thanks for the share. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: feelings too fast? |
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Posted: 17 Dec 2014, 1:19 pm
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Replies: 6
Views: 473
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| When I said more easily detached, I meant in previous relationships, not this instance. Your advice makes me feel better about my situation since he's the one who keeps initiating, and while I am very much enjoying spending time with him and want to introduce him to friends, I am in no rush to commi... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: feelings too fast? |
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Posted: 17 Dec 2014, 12:47 pm
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Replies: 6
Views: 473
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| Thanks! You make some good points. I generally only attract crazy or damaged people, so I have to filter out a lot of them to avoid the things I don't like. It's usually a lot easier for me to remain slightly detached, though. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: feelings too fast? |
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Posted: 17 Dec 2014, 12:14 pm
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Replies: 6
Views: 473
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| I just met this guy just over a week ago and already I feel ridiculously comfortable around him. I generally am not into cuddling and touching, but I want to pet him pretty much every time we're alone together. Generally I have trust issues, but for some reason I like telling him my secrets (and vis... |
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Forum: Adolescent Autism Forum Topic: High Expectations/Standards for Friendship |
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Posted: 20 Nov 2014, 3:09 pm
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Replies: 11
Views: 3,133
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| You can't hold people to the same standards you hold yourself because everyone has different priorities. The only really important traits to demand from your friends are friendliness and trustworthiness. Every friend I have ever had has let me down at least once, but they more than make up for it in... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Does Asperger's sound like the right fit for my kid? |
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Posted: 17 Nov 2014, 4:21 pm
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Replies: 23
Views: 2,464
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| Sounds like your kid fits the autism label. Don't be led astray by stereotypes, as many of us don't fit common traits. (I myself don't live by a routine schedule, for example.) The good news is, since he's fairly smart and has concerned, loving parents, the social skills he lacks instinctually will ... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: I feel like a lower life form |
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Posted: 17 Nov 2014, 4:12 pm
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Replies: 3
Views: 638
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| You can't sustain yourself on cookies. The lack of nutrients will negatively affect your health and appearance, especially hair and skin. If you really need to lose weight, the best way is to cut carbs and just eat a little protein and a lot of fruits and veggies, the more colorful the better. This ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: How would you describe a meltdown |
| kaedatiger |
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Posted: 17 Nov 2014, 9:34 am
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Replies: 10
Views: 1,338
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| Haven't had one in years, since my family always were the trigger, and they're nice to me now that I live on my own. The meltdowns were definitely not pretty, though. They were pretty reactive. |
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