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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Finding other Aspies at college? |
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Posted: 09 Mar 2024, 12:41 pm
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Replies: 3
Views: 1,819
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| If he has a high IQ, he might join Mensa. |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: ADHD Anxious Gifted Kid |
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Posted: 30 Jan 2024, 9:37 am
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Replies: 6
Views: 2,883
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| It may be that the standard way math is taught is not very useful for your child. If you explore alternatives, youtube videos or web sites, you might find something that he would find more useful. |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: When to have the chat? |
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Posted: 08 Jan 2024, 12:25 pm
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Replies: 13
Views: 8,887
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It sounds like you are already having the talk(s) with her. The only thong missing is the label. You may have to choose if using a label would be helpful or not.
Explaining things in terms of a sightly divergent neurology can be handled like explaining how some people are taller than others. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Processing Meltdowns |
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Posted: 13 Dec 2023, 7:07 am
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Replies: 15
Views: 11,535
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| Many people think that those with Aspergers are unemotional. However, a meltdown is proof that this is not true. Greater neurological sensitivity and cognitive processing can result in a more rapid response to accumulated stresses and frustrations. I have found that once the "dam breaks" r... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Should I get a professional assessment? |
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Posted: 20 Nov 2023, 1:09 pm
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Replies: 16
Views: 26,944
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| I agree with the others who have responded. Unless required by the government, getting a "professional" assessment offers little value. You might consider what is available on the Internet. The Tony Attwood videos on Youtube can be helpful. Also here is a free pdf booklet that may be inter... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Common sense |
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Posted: 07 Nov 2023, 8:50 am
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Replies: 2
Views: 7,942
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| This may not be as much an issue with common sense as it is with the consequence of focus. Our neurology can provide a much greater focus of attention, but often at the expense of peripheral attention. This can result in missing important information. This is like a new driver focusing so much on th... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Need help and suggestions |
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Posted: 03 Nov 2023, 5:53 am
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Replies: 8
Views: 2,892
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| It used to be that children who did not learn to develop self discipline at home, could find it imposed on them in the Army. Failing this, many learn some degree of discipline in prison. It sounds like he is not open to what corrective steps he might take. This trajectory usually results in incarcer... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Intro |
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Posted: 03 Nov 2023, 5:47 am
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Replies: 3
Views: 8,222
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Since you are in Australia, you might be interested in the videos on Youtube by Tony Attwood. They can be helpful getting a broader introduction to Aspergers. A free booklet that might be helpful also can be downloaded here (pdf);
https://christianpioneer.com/blogarchie ... e_2017.pdf |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Employment frustrations from a mom’s point of view |
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Posted: 30 Oct 2023, 5:23 am
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Replies: 11
Views: 12,958
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He might find work through a temp agency.
He might go directly to a small family business and offer his services at a discount.
You are to be commended for going the extra mile for your son. Not all of us had that support. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Struggling |
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Posted: 24 Oct 2023, 4:07 am
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Replies: 9
Views: 2,407
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| Some of the emotional intensity can come from a binary view of life. For example, if one sees "normal" people versus those with problems, it can be depressing to discover that one has no hope of ever being normal. However, considering that "normal" is not as homogeneous as often ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Brain inflamation MAY lead to Autism. |
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Posted: 16 Oct 2023, 8:44 am
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Replies: 19
Views: 8,120
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| I see adding Aspergers to classical autism and calling it a spectrum as motivated by those who make money from "treating" the disabled. I see Aspergers as a simple neurological variant. Those children who have actual brain damage or malformation are in need of special care. The passions st... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: I'm not even sure I know what asd is anymore |
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Posted: 05 Oct 2023, 4:14 am
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Replies: 4
Views: 446
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| This is why it is generally better not to let people know. If you tell someone you have cancer, they will probably have a fair idea of what you may be dealing with. With Aspergers most people do not understand and are prone to consider that you might be exaggerating something. It can be worse by cal... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Autism and no social connections |
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Posted: 28 Sep 2023, 6:16 am
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Replies: 11
Views: 1,642
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| I joined Mensa when I was 30. I observed a number of others who may have eschewed social engagement during their teens and twenties and seemed only in their 30s to start to brave experimenting with social connections. It was not a matter of lamenting what might have been, but rather finding a point ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Why NTs might find autistic people annoying |
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Posted: 22 Sep 2023, 5:40 am
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Replies: 64
Views: 6,863
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| The ability to focus attention is often at the expense of peripheral attention. This focus can make slight (insignificant) details stand out while simultaneously make one less perceptive to the annoyance sharing such observations may cause. Hopefully, as the years pass, one learns to be less spontan... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Narcisist Moms |
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Posted: 18 Sep 2023, 6:27 am
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Replies: 11
Views: 3,682
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| One advantage of a difficult childhood is that it ends. At 18 you are at the point where you can build a much better life. Those who get exposed to some of life's difficulties like abuse victims, combat veterans, cops, convicts, emergency room nurses, or priests can find it difficult to smoothly ado... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: You need to widen your horizons |
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Posted: 01 Sep 2023, 6:46 am
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Replies: 11
Views: 333
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| Wider horizons are not necessarily bad. If a person takes a leisure learning class like cooking, fencing, art, or scuba, one might find something that is a bad experience or one might find an unexpected new interest. As long as one is satisfied with what one is invested in, there may be no reason to... |
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