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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Not fully grown up |
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Posted: Yesterday, 6:09 am
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Replies: 4
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| I shower everyday I made it my routine. Your statement illustrates one tactic to use to exert control over something that causes anxiety. If one sees Apsergers as a neurological variant that results in a faster, more sensitive, or more complex neurology, one would expect that children with this int... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Adult Daughter with ASD afraid to be alone |
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Posted: 14 Jan 2025, 5:44 am
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Replies: 2
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| That she has survived for nine days is a good sign that it is possible. You may want to help her cultivate friendships outside your family to help her reduce anxieties. Since she works part time, is there a reason she cannot get a second part time job. Could she do volunteer work, join a gym, go to ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Self awareness of being difficult to be around is isolating |
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Posted: 13 Jan 2025, 6:29 am
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Replies: 1
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| We are difficult to be around. This in part is because the industrial processing of children by public education creates an expectation of monolithic behavior patterns that are easily violated by those more inclined to live on manual control rather than automatic pilot. For example if you respond in... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Borderline Personality Disorder? |
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Posted: 12 Jan 2025, 5:45 am
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Replies: 1
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| One problem those of us with Aspergers can have is in a void of communication, one can more easily assume Mal-intent. In this way we can get angry with someone for what we imagine they meant or intended. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: What do you think about Sasori and Gaara as autistic? |
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Posted: 10 Jan 2025, 10:23 am
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Replies: 7
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| I can understand the enthusiasm in seeing in art something that triggers to identification of some trait or connection. However, it may not translate well into communicating with others. For example one person may look at a painting and see nothing but squiggly lines. Another person may see in the s... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: my "friend" could help but he pushes me to call toxic family |
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Posted: 10 Jan 2025, 9:45 am
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Replies: 8
Views: 475
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| For some reason a number of people think it is their responsibility to instruct others as to what to do as if they were robots waiting for instruction. Those that would be more helpful would first ask what your desires would be. Using the example of being disconnected from family, if it were your ob... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: What do you think about Sasori and Gaara as autistic? |
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Posted: 07 Jan 2025, 6:59 am
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Replies: 7
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| You certainly gave detailed descriptions. Since these are imaginary characters, one has to look behind them to the mind of the story teller to speculate as to why he crafted his characters they way he did. Some of this would have to do with the basic craft of story telling. A relatable character has... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: A World That Doesn't See Me |
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Posted: 06 Jan 2025, 12:27 pm
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Replies: 13
Views: 781
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| There are those who have always been excluded from mainstream society. For example cops usually form their own sub culture because it creeps "normal" people out to hear what cops deal with everyday. If you have a special interest, it may have to be expressed only with others who have the s... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: What do you think about Sasori and Gaara as autistic? |
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Posted: 05 Jan 2025, 10:31 am
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Replies: 7
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I had to look up Sasori and Gaara. I think they are characters in a Japanese anime?
I doubt there is anyone less qualified to comment on them than me. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Feeling lonely and hopeless |
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Posted: 04 Jan 2025, 5:47 pm
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Replies: 6
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| There a couple of social currents operating against you that do not have anything specifically to do with Aspergers. 1. The decimation of the family. It is difficult to imagine family life as it was throughout the entire world up until 100 years ago. There was breadth (siblings, cousins, aunts, and ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Would This be Rude to Say? |
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Posted: 03 Jan 2025, 6:07 am
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Replies: 11
Views: 1,253
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| I use something similar to explain why I decline an offer of chocolate. I say, I like chocolate, but it doesn't like me. I have to then go on to say that since I turned 40 chocolate gives me acid reflux. Most people do not get it without the extra explanation. I am not sure your phrase would communi... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Being part of tthe autistic community |
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Posted: 03 Jan 2025, 5:57 am
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Replies: 4
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| There was a special interest group (SIG)in Mensa for Aspergers. It was interesting to see how an Asperger bully so quickly could kill any attempt at real conversation. My theory is that the neurological variant that produces this condition creates a more intensive inner life dealing with sensory and... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Escape from America |
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Posted: 02 Jan 2025, 10:58 am
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Replies: 18
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| It sounds like you are looking for peace and stability in a community with those who are like-minded. Since it sounds like you have rather typical liberal views, you may find it frustrating in that liberalism tends towards the optimistic (the perfectibility of man, etc.) However, we are all born hel... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Avicii book and autism, my rational analysis. |
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Posted: 02 Jan 2025, 10:09 am
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Replies: 2
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| Normal life can be a challenge for someone with Aspergers. Celebrity life I can only imagine would be so much more so. A lack of money and notoriety often helps one to stay grounded. A foundation in life is critical to holding back anxieties. Many military people consider suicide either as they tran... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: developmental delay experience |
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Posted: 25 Dec 2024, 9:48 am
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Replies: 4
Views: 708
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| One might consider Aspergers to be a neurological variant where a faster, more complex, or more sensitive neurology results in an avalanches of sensory and cognitive information to process. Developmentally this results in a child with an much greater internal life to manage. The time it takes to sor... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Chronic Outbursts |
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Posted: 25 Dec 2024, 9:41 am
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Replies: 9
Views: 427
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| I found my meltdowns often had an element of the unexpected. If something I did not anticipate went wrong, it could trigger an meltdown. However, they were generally brief and in five minutes or less it would be gone. Two strategies I found useful were to anticipate what could go wrong more and abse... |
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