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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Abusive vs. Toxic |
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Posted: 09 May 2025, 6:27 pm
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Replies: 6
Views: 687
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| I see "abusive" as implying periodic emotional outbursts. "Toxic" might be seen as more of a constant state. Additionally, I would see a greater level of subtlety with toxic. |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: I want to talk about my depression |
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Posted: 09 May 2025, 1:42 pm
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Replies: 6
Views: 337
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| 13 is a really rough age. The brain goes through some changes such as being able to handle abstract thought. Identify becomes expanded and one starts to see themselves more in a social context with all the uncertainties that entails. If you have understanding and caring parents, you should take adva... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: How do you view being a perfectionist. |
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Posted: 08 May 2025, 12:32 pm
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Replies: 23
Views: 1,058
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I would like my accountant or surgeon to be perfectionists.
I prefer the freedom to be less concerned. |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Embarraced siblings |
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Posted: 30 Apr 2025, 7:57 am
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Replies: 2
Views: 799
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| It may be better to help your son learn to differentiate between acting on his talkative instincts and assessing when it is more appropriate to act on them. These life skills are necessary to function as an adult. Childlike inquiry is not often well received from an adult. These social skills, if th... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Nudity |
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Posted: 24 Apr 2025, 4:15 pm
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Replies: 2
Views: 1,390
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Clothing provides two useful functions for me, warmth, and protection from sharp objects.
Additionally, people have enough reasons to reject me, being ugly just adds to the list. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: I'm so lost in life right now. (Rant) |
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Posted: 22 Apr 2025, 11:39 am
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Replies: 3
Views: 3,430
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| You might want to use this time to experiment. You might try all sorts of things to see if anything in particular resonates such as athletics, artistic, or leisure learning classes like cooking. There are also less consumptive experiments that you might try like volunteer work. If you take classes, ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Handling rejection for being autistic. |
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Posted: 20 Apr 2025, 8:18 am
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Replies: 5
Views: 2,029
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| I feel like I am at a dead end with no where else to go but to end me. Sometimes our view of life can be shaped by TV and we can begin to think of what role we can play in life. This can lead us to think of life as a performance and value ourselves in terms of what others might think. Real life cons... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Not Autistic Not ADHD But Not Normal |
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Posted: 18 Apr 2025, 5:18 am
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Replies: 17
Views: 6,516
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| he's a Dr so I guess he knows what's he's talking about You may wish to revisit this assumption. I use the older term Aspergers because I think it is more accurate. Those that claim sovereignty over this territory lumped it in with autism. I suspect because it allowed them to imply a defect that th... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Adult son spends all his time in his room |
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Posted: 14 Apr 2025, 1:16 pm
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Replies: 4
Views: 4,041
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| One might think of Aspergers as a neurological variant that has a faster, more complex, or more sensitive neurology. This can result in a higher level of anxiety sometimes even exceeding discomfort to levels of pain. For children life can become a narrow focus of avoiding what is uncomfortable. Ofte... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Seems impossible. |
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Posted: 14 Apr 2025, 6:46 am
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Replies: 8
Views: 1,238
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| Most people, as they age, become more comfortable in their own skin. Even with the sensitivities of Aspergers, the relative increase in confidence often lessens the impact the words of others can have. If you hear something that sounds hurtful, if you have some degree of confidence of the truth of w... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Depression for Autistic Adults |
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Posted: 10 Apr 2025, 4:12 am
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Replies: 5
Views: 5,647
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| You might encourage him to experiment with things that he might otherwise not consider. For example, you might see if he is interested in visiting an amateur radio meeting. It may sound like a strange suggestion, but many people have developed an interest in electronics following this path. The grou... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: I lately discovered I'm most likely with ASD and ADHD. |
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Posted: 09 Apr 2025, 11:26 am
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Replies: 26
Views: 6,184
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| I still use the old Aspergers term as I think lumping it in with autism was more for the convenience of those making a living off us. At any rate, my definition of Aspergers is a neurological variant presenting with a faster, more complex, or more sensitive neurology. This theory explains the variou... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Discomfort saying name |
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Posted: 02 Apr 2025, 4:29 pm
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Replies: 17
Views: 1,391
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| There can be uncertainty in giving one's name. For example, if a person now knows you, will he contact you, do you need to consider what might be required from you, or are there any incumbent obligations. These sort of uncertainties can contribute to uncomfortable anxiety. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Emotional Instability |
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Posted: 31 Mar 2025, 2:46 pm
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Replies: 1
Views: 1,745
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| Assuming mal-intent can be a problem for us. This can be amplified with frustration and uncertainty. While you don't want to make assumptions, it can be prudent to be cautious. For example when entering a room with a stranger in it there is probably only a o.oo15% chance he will attack you. However,... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Stress and Fatigue |
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Posted: 28 Mar 2025, 4:08 am
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Replies: 4
Views: 1,965
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| Mineral oil and drinking a lot of water might help the itch. Ibuprofen might help the aches. Leaning back in a tall chair with a heating pad might help the shoulder blade pain. Sometimes listening to a favorite song from your youth can give a brief lift to the spirit/ |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Got any travel tips? |
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Posted: 20 Mar 2025, 5:39 am
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Replies: 8
Views: 3,581
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| People I knew that traveled in China in the 1980s would not recommend it. You might find some toilet facilities much different than you are used to. Trains out in remote areas would stop and not travel at night. Boredom is usually the biggest problem in travel. You might want to bring the book, &quo... |
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