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 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: Stuck among normies

 Post subject: Re: Stuck among normies
Posted: 30 Nov 2022, 7:55 am 

Replies: 8
Views: 201


When I was single I used to travel. Once I tried fishing by going into a bait shop on a lake in California and telling the guy I would like to go fishing, but I didn't know the first thing about it. He was very helpful and not only because I purchased the equipment and rented a boat. One can go hors...

 Forum: Parents' Discussion   Topic: Parenting

 Post subject: Re: Parenting
Posted: 28 Nov 2022, 7:42 am 

Replies: 3
Views: 184


don’t ever compare me to you again. We are nothing alike you got that? In a way it is sort of a compliment. Such a statement conveys a wealth of information. One can find hurt, selfishness, and a presumption of dictatorial authority. The phrase "How sharper than a serpent's tooth, a thankless ...

 Forum: Parents' Discussion   Topic: Newbie (help with 12yo grandson)

Posted: 23 Nov 2022, 7:25 am 

Replies: 10
Views: 311


Autism is a category that was initially used for children who had a brain malformation or had suffered brain injury. These children seldom survived into adulthood. A few years ago Aspergers was reclassified as a type of autism. In a way autism is a sort of miscellaneous category now which does not a...

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: Functioning Breakdown

 Post subject: Re: Functioning Breakdown
Posted: 22 Nov 2022, 7:11 am 

Replies: 2
Views: 186


Having a neurology that is faster, more complex, or more sensitive can present a person with so much information about his environment that processing it all can take time. In a social setting where everyone else is running on "automatic pilot", it can make one stand out in a noticeable wa...

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: ADHD/ASD fatigue

 Post subject: Re: ADHD/ASD fatigue
Posted: 14 Nov 2022, 7:20 am 

Replies: 9
Views: 409


Many modern work environments set a pace that results in a sort of debilitation after work. Depleted energy levels have to be restored on your own hours. This can even be done willingly as one may find a sort of exhilaration at work that contributes to stealing vitality from your off hours. ADHD med...

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: Would you tend to agree that cliques are a lifelong dynamic?

Posted: 14 Nov 2022, 7:12 am 

Replies: 3
Views: 156


There is a familial / tribal element to cliques. One might make a case that for people who have broken families (such as in poverty areas) the need for a group is even higher which may account for street gangs. Up until 100 years ago families were very large, stable, and located on one place. Since ...

 Forum: Love and Dating   Topic: Is it pointless to have sex just to say ''you've done it'' ?

Posted: 13 Nov 2022, 9:33 am 

Replies: 58
Views: 1,157


Casual fornication is promoted in almost all media as routine, expected, and common. Often what is not discussed is the benefits of abstinence. If a person seeks a mate for a life long marriage and to build a family, bringing ignorance and inexperience to the table might seem a deficit. However, the...

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: Can’t say or do the right thing

Posted: 04 Nov 2022, 6:06 am 

Replies: 7
Views: 322


You might start with showing her your post. If it is difficult to communicate verbally, you might try in writing.

Here is a free pdf booklet about Aspergers that might help introduce to subject to her.

http://christianpioneer.com/blogarchiev ... e_2017.pdf

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: Aspergers & Doing Things

Posted: 04 Nov 2022, 6:01 am 

Replies: 3
Views: 232


One thing about things that are difficult or mistakes that are made is that if they are repetitive, there is the opportunity to learn to improve.

I saw an interview with a famous potter once and he said, "If you do anything 20-30,000 times, you are bound to get good at it."

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: ASD and drama group

 Post subject: Re: ASD and drama group
Posted: 30 Oct 2022, 6:02 am 

Replies: 2
Views: 156


Acting is when someone writes a script, the director decides how it should be portrayed, and the actor follows his instruction.

Improv is when the actor does it all.

Whether NT or not, the talent to do this varies.

 Forum: Parents' Discussion   Topic: Fear my relationship with teenage son is ruined

Posted: 29 Oct 2022, 11:34 am 

Replies: 7
Views: 311


Having a child refuse to talk with you is heart breaking. Having one who does talk to you and tell you everything he hates about you is even more heartbreaking. Mark Twain is supposed to have said that when he was 17 he couldn't believe how stupid his father was and when he was 21 he couldn't believ...

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: Fawning and people-pleasing

Posted: 27 Oct 2022, 6:10 am 

Replies: 2
Views: 312


Trauma can produce anxieties as well as neurology. People pleasing can be an anxiety avoidance tactic.

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: The hype vs the reality. Same for any of you?

Posted: 26 Oct 2022, 6:02 am 

Replies: 10
Views: 367


Simplistic declarative statements are seldom "true". They are often used to express or create emotional effects. It can be especially confusing if one has the expectation that language is supposed to express, if not truth, than at least accuracy.

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: Real name of "sudden inability to cope"?

Posted: 26 Oct 2022, 5:57 am 

Replies: 7
Views: 310


I had two daughters with selective mutism. It was my observation that there was an almost paralytic reaction to anxiety causing situations. Rather than a sensory cause, I thought it was an anxiety caused by uncertainty as to what outcome would be achieved for any given response.

 Forum: Parents' Discussion   Topic: Family members diagnosed as adults

Posted: 23 Oct 2022, 6:22 am 

Replies: 2
Views: 247


The opinion of a "professional" (ie diagnosis) is not always helpful. Labels seldom help a situation. It might be more comfortable for your son to think in terms of particular characteristics. For example, if he has anxieties, addressing those concerns might be more helpful. He might even ...

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: "Cringe Culture" has ruined lives

Posted: 21 Oct 2022, 6:00 am 

Replies: 20
Views: 733


One typical NT characteristic is to go through life sort of on "automatic pilot". A degree of comfort is derived from knowing that everybody else is doing what you are doing. When someone does something different, it can be upsetting. The Japanese say that the nail that sticks up gets hamm...
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