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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: How do I find "direct" mediators for support? |
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Posted: 08 Feb 2025, 12:43 pm
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Dispute mediation usually requires the agreement of the two parties to the authority of the mediator. If what is in dispute is a lease, contract or other legal circumstance, mediation may have to have legal approval such as with a judge. Most people prefer to avoid disputes in general and particular... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: question |
timf |
Posted: 08 Feb 2025, 7:06 am
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I also attempted to reconnect with my parents when I was in my 50s. I found letter writing to be the way to go. I also came to understand that my parents were victims of their own circumstances. They had little hope considering the expectations they were given to have. They choose to deal with their... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Why do you think nts project their emotions onto autistics? |
timf |
Posted: 07 Feb 2025, 5:40 am
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Replies: 5 Views: 554
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Use the example of WWII combat veterans. Many did not talk about their experiences except with other vets because normal people would be horrified to hear what happened. Many became self-medicating with alcohol do deal with their own adult reactions to their youthful experiences. Projection is when ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Is this abnormal for an autistic person? |
timf |
Posted: 06 Feb 2025, 1:40 pm
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Replies: 6 Views: 1,093
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People of all sorts can have a variety of social need. That you aren't looking primarily for romantic connections, you may be able to cultivate connections through volunteer work. Even if volunteer opportunities are few, you might contact a nursing home directly and offer to read to some of the resi... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: confused, don't know how to feel about this convesation |
timf |
Posted: 05 Feb 2025, 5:55 am
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Replies: 25 Views: 11,014
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Perhaps more likely than sexism is simple laziness. I used to make my own travel arrangements. I used to call an airline reservation number about 3 in the morning. Based on how the person sounded who answered, I would just hang up. What I was looking for was an older gal who had worked there over te... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Autistic and homeless |
timf |
Posted: 04 Feb 2025, 2:35 pm
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: The Growing Distance: Feeling Separate |
timf |
Posted: 03 Feb 2025, 2:58 pm
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Replies: 6 Views: 402
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Seeing others act reflexively, sort of on automatic pilot can make them seem a different culture speaking a different language. If you are unable to find anyone else like yourself (of your tribe), you may have to live amongst the natives and manage as best as you can. It can be similar to someone wh... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Failing as a high IQ kid |
timf |
Posted: 01 Feb 2025, 8:46 pm
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Replies: 22 Views: 1,158
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There are a number of trajectories one can take in life. One assumes that a high IQ is a portal to some of the most prosperous destinations. However, prosperity, even if achieved, is often not the "success imagined. IQ measurement itself is a bit fuzzy as it is an average of quite a number of d... |
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Forum: Art, Writing, and Music Topic: War and Peace? |
timf |
Posted: 28 Jan 2025, 6:03 am
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Replies: 32 Views: 1,362
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When I was a freshman in high school, my English teacher selected me to read it for a book report. It quickly turned into a forced death march. I read every page but didn't get anything out of it. I haven't been able to read anything by Tolstoy ever since. One wonder sometimes if the purpose of pub... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Weak Central Coherence & integration |
timf |
Posted: 27 Jan 2025, 5:33 pm
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I have difficulty getting a sense of what you are asking. There are different ways to consider oneself. One can inventory abilities such as strengths and weaknesses, one can inventory preferences and inclinations, one can inventory experiences, and one can consider ones past, present, and even poten... |
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Forum: Art, Writing, and Music Topic: War and Peace? |
timf |
Posted: 27 Jan 2025, 5:24 pm
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Replies: 32 Views: 1,362
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Many classics were written before TV and movies decreased everyone's attention span. However, there are still variations that depend on individual inclinations and preferences. I personally enjoy science fiction and will tolerate poor writing, fuzzy plot points, and weak characters more than I would... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Attained a special skill/eduction only to abandon it? |
timf |
Posted: 25 Jan 2025, 5:42 am
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When I was a child I made the mistake for showing off on the piano with a short boogie woogie riff my cousin taught me. My parents were told that I should be given piano lessons. For four years a brutal piano teacher would take my fingers and crush them into the keys. I could pick put a melody and h... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: First day of Spring ? |
timf |
Posted: 23 Jan 2025, 10:33 am
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Replies: 3 Views: 219
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Thanks for the tips. Most people do not explore the advantages of living cheaply.
However, Spring may be further away than we hope. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Self awareness of being difficult to be around is isolating |
timf |
Posted: 23 Jan 2025, 10:26 am
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Replies: 7 Views: 736
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Having people forget you reminded me of a science fiction story called "Mute". Those who had mutations were exiled to one planet. People with mutations had a relation between their psychic abilities and a physical deformity. The main character had a slight defect in one finger and his psyc... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Is it normal for someone on the autism spectrum to be... |
timf |
Posted: 22 Jan 2025, 6:25 am
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Replies: 22 Views: 1,349
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Using only the two metrics of academic achievement and money, most here would not be shining examples of success. As has been cited even if you look closely at those two areas. Having enough money and being able to communicate with others can be a sufficient success. As Stargazer99 indicated there a... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Not fully grown up |
timf |
Posted: 17 Jan 2025, 6:09 am
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I shower everyday I made it my routine. Your statement illustrates one tactic to use to exert control over something that causes anxiety. If one sees Apsergers as a neurological variant that results in a faster, more sensitive, or more complex neurology, one would expect that children with this int... |
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