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 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: Road Bumps

 Post subject: Re: Road Bumps
Posted: 10 Aug 2019, 3:16 pm 

Replies: 3
Views: 166


Just for the hell of it, I also like Phil Ochs "I ain't marching anymore" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gv1KEF8Uw2k "Outside a small circle of friends" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EJQU8Y952Yo As Phil Ochs says, "I'm sure it wouldn't interest anybody outside a small cir...

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: Road Bumps

 Post subject: Road Bumps
Posted: 10 Aug 2019, 12:54 pm 

Replies: 3
Views: 166


Lately, I have been dealing with a few road bumps that have forced me to make changes. They are slowly taking shape and I plan to stay on course. I am lucky, my limitations are tolerable. The burden is mine and I am learning to carry it with pride. I have been able to use my personality traits, ND a...

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: Do any of you not go out much?

Posted: 09 Aug 2019, 1:47 pm 

Replies: 32
Views: 661


I try to get out every day. Once in a while I like to go into the city, walk around, get a nice lunch, hang out in Washington Square Park, listen to the jazz bands and people watch. My problem is that I have few conversations. Mostly just small talk. Conversation is a skill that needs to be practice...

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: Too high functioning but needing help...

Posted: 08 Aug 2019, 5:42 pm 

Replies: 7
Views: 225


I understand. I'm perceived as highly competent and intelligent and masked my way through my professional life. The cost was enormous though, including a terrible, paralysing burn-out, depression, chronic insomnia, being suicidal for many years and so on. I only trust and am close to a small number...

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: Seeing and analyzing yourself from a third party perspective

Posted: 08 Aug 2019, 5:34 pm 

Replies: 25
Views: 306


I used to do it all the time. I had no idea it wasn't a normal thing everyone does. It gave me a lot of anxiety. I always feared being wrong and everyone was my judge. Only now, after over two years of therapy, I started noticing that the model of insane me and normal others was completely false. E...

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: Seeing and analyzing yourself from a third party perspective

Posted: 08 Aug 2019, 4:24 pm 

Replies: 25
Views: 306


I used to do it all the time. I had no idea it wasn't a normal thing everyone does. It gave me a lot of anxiety. I always feared being wrong and everyone was my judge. Only now, after over two years of therapy, I started noticing that the model of insane me and normal others was completely false. E...

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: Seeing and analyzing yourself from a third party perspective

Posted: 08 Aug 2019, 12:40 pm 

Replies: 25
Views: 306


Cool, I love novels. The subject and posts made me think about how a good novel is structured. I like to use novels as a means to explain the world and how people behave. Authors have a genius for getting into the head of other people, which just blows my mind. I got stuck on The Canterbury Tales an...

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: Seeing and analyzing yourself from a third party perspective

Posted: 08 Aug 2019, 11:56 am 

Replies: 25
Views: 306


Yes, I do the same. But for me, it is more projecting my feeling onto a third person to referee the encounter. And of course the referee agrees with me :) Trying to relive the encounter from the perspective of the other person is way beyond my abilities and that is why I ask an imaginary referee, in...

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: Slow Processing

 Post subject: Re: Slow Processing
Posted: 08 Aug 2019, 11:39 am 

Replies: 16
Views: 437


I need to watch movies or shows multiple times to understand what is going. The same is true with conversations. I have to rerun them in my mind many times to figure out what was said. On the other side, when I am writing code, my fingers take over and I am in a zone. That is really interesting how...

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: Slow Processing

 Post subject: Re: Slow Processing
Posted: 08 Aug 2019, 11:26 am 

Replies: 16
Views: 437


I need to watch movies or shows multiple times to understand what is going. The same is true with conversations. I have to rerun them in my mind many times to figure out what was said.

On the other side, when I am writing code, my fingers take over and I am in a zone.

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: The AQ is Useless

 Post subject: Re: The AQ is Useless
Posted: 08 Aug 2019, 6:40 am 

Replies: 30
Views: 738


That and all the other online tests. EQ, FQ, PDD Assessment, Mind in the Eyes test, SQ, Aspie Quiz, etc. While they may be used as screening tools for people without access to mental-health practitioners, their algorithms seem to be heavily skewed toward giving positive results. Useless? Not entire...

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: Has your family rejected you because of your autism?

Posted: 07 Aug 2019, 10:18 am 

Replies: 36
Views: 824


The opposite. My family treats me like a little kid and is being way over-sheltering and over-protective because of my Asperger. Although the other two factors is that I am the only child and I have Jewish parents. I actually envy people who feel ignored by their parents, I feel they are so lucky t...

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: How would you deal with an attempted mugging?

Posted: 07 Aug 2019, 8:52 am 

Replies: 9
Views: 148


I've had few close calls, muggings, armed robbery, assault, ... My approach has always been to be keenly aware of the danger, keeping my focus directly on the person or people approaching me, knowing a good way to escape, .... Each situation is different and requires a good set of rules to follow. A...

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: When people bring up my body language what do they expect?

Posted: 06 Aug 2019, 3:25 pm 

Replies: 34
Views: 864


This may sound a bit odd, but I will tell you what works well for me. I emulate happy dog faces, smile, look up and down with your eyes, make quick eye contact, smile and keep walking. Most people find dog expressions to be adorable, disarming and comforting. I have a few of doggy expressions. One o...

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: Do you stalk people on FB?

Posted: 06 Aug 2019, 1:51 pm 

Replies: 35
Views: 3,061


Not really, I do enjoy following links and looking at friend lists. People like to put on a good show and sometimes it can be quite amusing. The problem is many people exaggerate on FB, make up an unrealistically spectacular life. This can be bad for one's self confidence if it is taken too seriously.

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: Double Masking.

 Post subject: Re: Double Masking.
Posted: 06 Aug 2019, 1:47 pm 

Replies: 15
Views: 283


Raleigh wrote:
NTs mask too.
Hardly anyone is real.



Dr Jekyll and Mr Hyde?

What I hate is when the masks fail and all goes to hell.
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