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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Just avoiding the subject here. |
| Mona Pereth |
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Replies: 69
Views: 930
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| Autism is basically a death sentence where this shallow social game is concerned. I have always avoided the "shallow social game." Luckily for me it became obvious to me, by my late teens, that I needed to find alternative ways of meeting people if I was ever going to find friends. By my ... |
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Forum: Autism Politics, Activism, and Media Representation Topic: How Can Anyone "Be Proud" of being autistic? |
| Mona Pereth |
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Posted: 03 Jan 2020, 2:18 am
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Replies: 126
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| Go to most ABA sites or forums or anywhere ABA is discussed and you will likely see the word "tantruming" used. On the particular website you quoted, the word "tantruming" is used in the context of a kid who "tantrums (problematic behavior) to get toys." It's not clear... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Creating an Autism-Friendly Vocational Center (USA) |
| Mona Pereth |
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Posted: 31 Dec 2019, 4:47 pm
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Replies: 3
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| I've been working on creating a digital media company to offer better at-home employment and education opportunities for disadvantaged people and caretakers I'd love to hear more about this. Based on what you've said so far, it sounds closely related to my own longterm goals. through solely my own ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Autism and accents. |
| Mona Pereth |
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Posted: 31 Dec 2019, 4:35 pm
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Replies: 12
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I grew up in New York City, but talk more like my parents, who grew up in Pennsylvania and Iowa.
(I vaguely recall reading somewhere that talking like one's parents, rather than talking like the other kids at one's school, is common among autistic people.) |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: How many Asperger/autistic people are in a relationship? |
| Mona Pereth |
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Posted: 31 Dec 2019, 3:42 pm
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Replies: 26
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| I've been in a relationship for seven years with a man I met four years earlier who had been diagnosed with Asperger's syndrome. Meeting him led to my first inkling that I too might be on the autism spectrum. I suspect that most though not all of my previous relationships were with people on the spe... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: "Love on the Spectrum" new TV series |
| Mona Pereth |
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Posted: 30 Dec 2019, 10:51 pm
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Replies: 20
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| 'Shared interests' is a myth, they're not that important for relationships. https://www.artofdatingnyc.com/relationshipmyths/ This article doesn't deny that common interests are desirable, but just says that other things are more important: "The most important element is not what you do togeth... |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: Why do we hold on to hurt? |
| Mona Pereth |
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Posted: 30 Dec 2019, 9:02 pm
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Replies: 27
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| I suspect that some (though by no means all, of course) emotional "abusers" are just people who have never been taught how to be assertive without being aggressive. Ditto for at least some (though by no means all, of course) victims of emotional abuse. Many, perhaps most people deal with i... |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: Hot flashes |
| Mona Pereth |
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Posted: 30 Dec 2019, 7:38 pm
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Replies: 6
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| I've always been sensitive to heat, not just at menopause. My way of coping has been to dress in layers, wearing something cool at the bottom layer, so I can quickly add and remove layers as needed in order to feel comfortable. Also I strongly prefer to wear clothes made of some breathable material,... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: "Love on the Spectrum" new TV series |
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Posted: 30 Dec 2019, 2:44 pm
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| TBH if I wanted to get a group of autistic adults to pair off and possibly start dating, I would just put them in a room, provide drinks to any so inclined, then ask the women to decide which of the men they could at least imagine themselves snogging, then take the lucky guy to a more private place... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: "Love on the Spectrum" new TV series |
| Mona Pereth |
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Posted: 30 Dec 2019, 11:05 am
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| I also have to say that I can't entirely agree with the idea of a formal dinner date, sitting face to face and quizzing the other person about their interests. Ugh, I never liked "formal dinner dates" either. However.... In fact, I am not at all certain that "shared interests" a... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Feeling confused and depressed when someone dislikes me |
| Mona Pereth |
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Posted: 28 Dec 2019, 11:00 pm
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Replies: 16
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| I haven't seen her until the other night when I was at a bar with my boyfriend, and I could tell that if I hadn't said hello to her first she would have not acknowledged me at all, even though she was standing near. I wanted to have a friendly chat and ask her how she was getting on and stuff, but ... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: I "ice" people accidentally |
| Mona Pereth |
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Posted: 28 Dec 2019, 10:46 pm
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Replies: 3
Views: 258
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| I'm sure I do this a lot, too, mainly because I tend to be so intently focused on whatever I happen to be doing (or talking about) at the moment that the entire rest of the world might as well not exist. |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Looking to make friends. |
| Mona Pereth |
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Posted: 28 Dec 2019, 10:33 pm
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Replies: 5
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| If you want to meet people here on WP, I would suggest that you do some more posting here and get to know people via public discussions here. I suspect that most people here won't be inclined to PM you without having seen a bunch of substantive public posts from you first. Since you're into games, y... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Why does nobody want to hang out with me? |
| Mona Pereth |
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Posted: 28 Dec 2019, 9:09 pm
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Replies: 18
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| I had no friends as a child. But I was able to make quite a few friends in my twenties and early thirties. One of the most important things I did was to develop a concept of friendship that worked with, rather than against, the very same aspects of my personality that most people were turned off by.... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Why does nobody want to hang out with me? |
| Mona Pereth |
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Posted: 28 Dec 2019, 8:44 pm
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Replies: 18
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| I've never had any friends my entire life. Not even in preschool. I'm 27 years old and I can't think of a single place I've been where people don't avoid me like the plague. We're not "avoiding you like the plague" here on WP. When you get back home, see if you can find an Aspie/autistic ... |
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