| Author |
Message |
Forum: The Haven Topic: Still self conscious about the ONE thing wrong with my body |
| Greatsharkbite |
|
Posted: 31 Jan 2013, 8:29 pm
|
|
Replies: 88
Views: 12,501
|
| Well, you're old enough to be with who you want. I don't think this guy sounds bad. Your fears will only hurt you as mentioned though. Being confident--would get you many more things you desire from this relationship than being unconfident. But if the insecurity was there before your relationship st... |
|
 |
Forum: The Haven Topic: Still self conscious about the ONE thing wrong with my body |
| Greatsharkbite |
|
Posted: 31 Jan 2013, 2:27 pm
|
|
Replies: 88
Views: 12,501
|
| I'm going to pose a question that I want you to ask yourself--being an aspie, do you think possibly you've inadvertently developed an obsession for how men view womens bodies? If you're referring to what happened in your last post, did he ever really comment about size? Or was there something I miss... |
|
|
Forum: The Haven Topic: My NT daughter is dating an Aspie guy and is very anxious |
| Greatsharkbite |
|
Posted: 30 Jan 2013, 3:26 pm
|
|
Replies: 32
Views: 15,086
|
| She asked him to take a two week break from the relationship to allow them time to think. She missed him very much, but he didn't seem to mind the separation. After the two weeks were over, she asked him to see her and he told her repeatedly he was too busy. Every time he rejected her request, she ... |
|
|
Forum: The Haven Topic: Does this get any easier? |
| Greatsharkbite |
|
Posted: 28 Jan 2013, 4:37 pm
|
|
Replies: 12
Views: 3,572
|
| I am only in my early twenties, still plenty of time and opportunities. I have managed to not completely screw everything up to this point. Sheer dumb luck. And I can BS my way through advanced math based engineering courses only half-learning everything because my analytic and test taking skills a... |
|
|
Forum: The Haven Topic: A falling out with a friend caused a panic attack. |
| Greatsharkbite |
|
Posted: 27 Jan 2013, 2:02 pm
|
|
Replies: 6
Views: 1,728
|
| And greatsharkbite - thank you for putting it into perspective that six months is hardly a long time. I honestly hadn't even considered that, but once I did I realized that I'm maybe being kind of ridiculous. I'm sorry, I should apologize. I don't think six months is a long time, but perhaps for pe... |
|
|
Forum: The Haven Topic: A falling out with a friend caused a panic attack. |
| Greatsharkbite |
|
Posted: 27 Jan 2013, 12:02 am
|
|
Replies: 6
Views: 1,728
|
| That being said, I'm going to need some closure in order to move on. I really want to write her one last time and apologize for my actions, explain that Asperger's caused me to act in a way that was socially inappropriate and prevented me from picking up on her feelings until she spelled them out f... |
|
|
Forum: The Haven Topic: Ashamed of Being White |
| Greatsharkbite |
|
Posted: 23 Jan 2013, 4:14 pm
|
|
Replies: 116
Views: 14,566
|
| As I said before, I'm well aware that there's nothing I can do about. But that doesn't mean I have to like it. If you actually need an explanation, how about this one: I love the way white skin looks, I love women with white skin and bright eyes -- gray eyes are the most beautiful ones I've ever se... |
|
|
Forum: The Haven Topic: Ashamed of Being White |
| Greatsharkbite |
|
Posted: 23 Jan 2013, 3:17 am
|
|
Replies: 116
Views: 14,566
|
| You might say that's not a strictly logical reason, but I simply don't like members of races other than white regardless their nationality or culture and I avoid to get in touch with those people. Meaning you don't socialize or form friendships with them on any level? Or am I misunderstanding? |
|
|
Forum: The Haven Topic: Ashamed of Being White |
| Greatsharkbite |
|
Posted: 21 Jan 2013, 9:25 pm
|
|
Replies: 116
Views: 14,566
|
| Sometimes thoughts of gathering by the masses and announcing an apology followed by performing http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Seppuku would redeem the wrong doings that whites have done. But I would be considered extreme and taking things to far though but sometimes I think thats what it would have t... |
|
|
Forum: The Haven Topic: Is there any hope for me? Disgusted. |
| Greatsharkbite |
|
Posted: 21 Jan 2013, 8:04 pm
|
|
Replies: 9
Views: 6,525
|
Sometimes stuff happens.. People are human and our lives really aren't conditioned to expect that kind of thing.
Have you tried to apologize? I mean.. wasn't like the act was 100% selfish, you were concerned and anxious. |
|
|
Forum: The Haven Topic: Upset because of Neurotypical sister |
| Greatsharkbite |
|
Posted: 21 Jan 2013, 7:23 pm
|
|
Replies: 14
Views: 14,428
|
| Ignore her, or go to a different room--or avoid her till she matures. Go outside more often, if its possible or a better acting alternative. When you're a kid.. no in general--being mature and kind doesn't mean you'll receive maturity and kindness. I've had a younger family member make fun of my per... |
|
|
Forum: The Haven Topic: Ashamed of Being White |
| Greatsharkbite |
|
Posted: 21 Jan 2013, 3:02 am
|
|
Replies: 116
Views: 14,566
|
| No, it is not ignorant. These people would not exist if not for slavery. They would never have been brought here and would never have been born. That is all I was saying. The past was terrible in many ways, but it was what it was and it brought us to the places we are today, for better or for worse... |
|
|
Forum: The Haven Topic: Ashamed of Being White |
| Greatsharkbite |
|
Posted: 19 Jan 2013, 10:30 pm
|
|
Replies: 116
Views: 14,566
|
| Not to mention that African Americans, who I think are actually great people to have here in the USA, would basically not exist if not for slavery. I mean, it was a nasty business, but people have to think this through. G I have no idea what to make of this statement. Are you suggesting African Ame... |
|
|
Forum: The Haven Topic: Why do people in public cause aspies trouble? |
| Greatsharkbite |
|
Posted: 16 Jan 2013, 2:41 am
|
|
Replies: 4
Views: 962
|
| I think its more perception is reality. This stuff happens to everyone and normally what we call immature and aggresive behavior is how those people respond to those things and get through them. How'd you deal with it? I know my mom.. and a couple of other people who would've beeped back, or cussed ... |
|
|
Forum: The Haven Topic: I don't know if I like my job |
| Greatsharkbite |
|
Posted: 12 Jan 2013, 9:31 am
|
|
Replies: 7
Views: 1,212
|
| I hear you, i've been considering working full time for months just because of the extra money. But the people i'd deal with would probably drive me nuts. |
|
|
Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Trouble forgiving one thing - need perspective |
| Greatsharkbite |
|
Posted: 12 Jan 2013, 5:21 am
|
|
Replies: 85
Views: 11,098
|
| Sounds good that you stood up for yourself.. on the same note tho, yeah you probably have to learn how to let things go a little easier. It is a flaw of mine as well. You say he's head over heels for you, but does he treat you nice? If not your reaction this late is reasonable. If he does--remind yo... |
|
|
| Sort by: |
