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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Married to a man with Asperger's. Please help. |
| SilkySifaka |
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Posted: 28 Dec 2012, 1:39 pm
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Replies: 11
Views: 2,246
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| I'm sorry you are having such a difficult time. I think it could be a mixture of Aspergers and depression, perhaps exacerbated by feeling overwhelmed by being a parent. I would recommend books by Maxine Aston (there are several, and they are all available on Amazon) The only thing I would say is tha... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Do you miss someone right now? |
| SilkySifaka |
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Posted: 27 Dec 2012, 3:50 pm
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Replies: 2,678
Views: 422,537
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| I miss my friend who died in 2011. As time has gone on I miss him more not less. I've never had a friend like him before or since. I don't mind that I won't have another friend like him, I am just glad that I ever had a friend like that at all and I feel lucky in a way. SilkySifaka; You sound like ... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: last time you got a hug? |
| SilkySifaka |
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Posted: 26 Dec 2012, 2:23 pm
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Replies: 26
Views: 3,421
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| Christmas Eve. Two of the women I work with hugged me when they wished me Merry Christmas, which was fine. I don't mind hugs that I expect, I just don't like it when people lunge at me unexpectedly. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Do you miss someone right now? |
| SilkySifaka |
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Posted: 26 Dec 2012, 2:14 pm
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Replies: 2,678
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| I miss my friend who died in 2011. As time has gone on I miss him more not less. I've never had a friend like him before or since. I don't mind that I won't have another friend like him, I am just glad that I ever had a friend like that at all and I feel lucky in a way. |
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Forum: Bipolar, Tourettes, Schizophrenia, and other Psychological Conditions Topic: Does this sound like Borderline Personality Disorder? |
| SilkySifaka |
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Posted: 26 Dec 2012, 1:50 pm
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Replies: 15
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| A fear of abandonment is certainly a BPD trait but on it's own does not necessarily suggest BPD. Do you have any other BPD traits, such as self harm or suicidal thoughts or actions, instability of mood, inappropriate or intense anger, confusion with identity etc? If not then I think it;s unlikely to... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: My cat put down Xmas day |
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Posted: 26 Dec 2012, 11:30 am
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Replies: 13
Views: 2,818
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| That is so sad, I am really sorry. You will just have to take time to grieve, it is a long process. In time the pain won't be so acute, but you will always miss him. Try and remember that you gave him a lovely life and that he loved you as much as you loved him. He wouldn't want you to be ill and up... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: What do you dream about... do you dream? |
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Posted: 18 Dec 2012, 2:38 pm
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Replies: 30
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| Check out the dream dictionary entry for "mouse", SS. It talks about insecurity, fear, lack of assertiveness, etc. That you're caring for the mouse suggests that you secretly nurture those traits, which of course is kind of in line with your being here. That you know you can't keep it at work sugge... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: What do you dream about... do you dream? |
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Posted: 18 Dec 2012, 7:48 am
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Replies: 30
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| I don't dream, or don't remember my dreams unless I am on certain medications. The last one I remember was a bit odd - I was in the offices at work, wearing a party dress and I had a little mouse in a cage. I was feeding it and talking to it, but I knew I couldn't keep it at work so I took it and wa... |
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Forum: Bipolar, Tourettes, Schizophrenia, and other Psychological Conditions Topic: Tardive Dyskinesia/Dystonia |
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Posted: 17 Dec 2012, 12:56 pm
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Replies: 2
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| Have you seen your doctor about this? It's important that you seek professional advice quickly. Stopping your medication might not fix it, and could make other symptoms worse so don't do anything drastic. There are drugs that can help with TD, and your doctor is the best person to ask about this. I'... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Trying to maintain relationships outside of my marriage |
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Posted: 17 Dec 2012, 12:47 pm
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Replies: 5
Views: 1,618
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| My Dad has Aspergers (no diagnosis but if he doesn't have it, then nobody does!) and I think my Mother has felt the same way you do for a very long time. She was also a stay at home mother and became very isolated and quite depressed - my Dad wouldn't go anywhere with her and if she ever invited any... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Money Problems |
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Posted: 16 Dec 2012, 9:28 am
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Replies: 11
Views: 1,529
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| All the stuff I do when stressed is pretty unhealthy, so I wouldn't recommend any of it. Perhaps you could try talking to someone you trust, going for a walk to clear your head when it feels like things are getting too much or finding a hobby that is cheap or free. It sounds like a very difficult si... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Money Problems |
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Posted: 15 Dec 2012, 10:09 pm
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Replies: 11
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| Perhaps you could be a little more specific. Are you in debt, do you overspend or do you not earn enough to meet your outgoings? I don't know if you have anything similar where you live but in the UK we have something called the Citizens Advice Bureaux, they offer advice with managing money and debt... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: So upset right now |
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Posted: 15 Dec 2012, 10:06 pm
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Replies: 10
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| I didn't see the original thread, but of course testing accommodations aren't cheating. I hope you are able to get the accommodations that you need. |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Not declaring disability when applying. |
| SilkySifaka |
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Posted: 11 Dec 2012, 9:41 am
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Replies: 10
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| You do not have to declare any disability, however if you do not declare it then you cannot ask for extra support or reasonable adjustments further down the line. In your case, as you do not yet have an official diagnosis it is quite OK to tick the 'no' box. If later on you did find you needed reaso... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Women seem to be attracted to guys with psychological disord |
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Posted: 09 Dec 2012, 3:27 pm
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Replies: 65
Views: 5,210
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| He is the only person I have been out with who hasn't tried to 'fix' me, and that is why our relationship has lasted so long. Previous boyfriends became frustrated and despondent when I didn't get better, despite all their efforts. Out of curiosity - in what ways did they try to *fix* you? I think ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Women seem to be attracted to guys with psychological disord |
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Posted: 09 Dec 2012, 1:45 pm
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Replies: 65
Views: 5,210
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| So that's why they like me. I wouldn't say that that applies to all, or even most, women. But I will agree that there seems to be a small subset (it seems more women do this than men) who want to find some poor broken guy and fix him. But that's extremely unhealthy. For both parties. What the woman... |
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