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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: Sex is mandatory? |
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Posted: 22 Apr 2021, 12:53 am
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Replies: 25
Views: 335
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| Sex is never mandatory, no matter who you are. I thought I was getting into a loving, safe relationship when I was 15. But he was figuring out if he was gay or not, and it wasn't the greatest physical experience I've had. I'm 46 now. I waited to have intercourse until I was 28. I just wanted to get ... |
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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: Can a relationship between two people with Autism work? |
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Posted: 22 Apr 2021, 12:45 am
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Replies: 44
Views: 419
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| I don't think it's always the case. I mean, that's like saying all cancer survivors need to date only cancer survivors. People are people. Autism doesn't define a person. More importantly, are your interests and lifelong goals aligned with the person you're dating? |
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Forum: Art, Writing, and Music Topic: Deep, soulful Drum & Bass |
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Posted: 22 Apr 2021, 12:42 am
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Replies: 1,062
Views: 98,126
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| I've been listening to orchestral music. Showtunes. Notable composers. I like a few current bands, too. |
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Forum: Art, Writing, and Music Topic: Where are my writers at? |
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Posted: 22 Apr 2021, 12:37 am
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Replies: 93
Views: 7,422
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I love writing. I got much better at it in college. I taught it to kids in grades 4-6, and I enjoyed that. I miss my classroom. I've thought about writing a book about my own life, I've tried, actually.
I took journalism classes in college, and I was an editor on my high school newspaper. |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: I dont understand why everyone is against me dying |
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Posted: 22 Apr 2021, 12:33 am
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Replies: 7
Views: 302
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| I've wanted to end it all, many times. And that's not just an autism thing. Everyone feels like things are hopeless sometimes. I was suicidal a few years ago, I'd lost 28 jobs. I lost my precious career and my home. My parents weren't helping me. It's hard to be an adult with autism. I was finally h... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: watching amy winehouse disturbed me |
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Posted: 22 Apr 2021, 12:25 am
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Replies: 13
Views: 380
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You are you, not her. And the past is history. Amy Winehouse was talented, yet she was an addict. And not all addicts survive addiction.
Admitting to triggers is a positive thing. Live in the present, and get help if you ever need it. Try to be the best version of your current self. |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: I spend way too much time alone. |
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Posted: 22 Apr 2021, 12:21 am
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Replies: 42
Views: 1,553
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| I wish I was more of a computer person. Then I'd be working full-time, probably. If you're good at what you do, that's great! Perhaps you can find ways to be with people outside of your job, or you can get a different job where you're not always working behind the screen as much. Can you go back to ... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: What job should we do? |
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Posted: 21 Apr 2021, 5:29 pm
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Replies: 28
Views: 4,386
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| Hello, I'm on disability and i work part time. I live in the United States. It took me about 25 years to get disability. I was on unemployment for many years in two different states. I'm 46 and I live with my parents. I never got married or had kids. I lived alone for ten years. I've lost 28 jobs or... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: s**t week at work |
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Posted: 21 Apr 2021, 5:22 pm
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Replies: 6
Views: 667
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| It's so hard out there. I've had the same problems. I've disclosed to some employers and not to others. And when I did disclose, I was met with such ignorance and backlash. The world doesn't really understand autism fully, or know what to do with autistic people. The neurotypical thing to do is to f... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Advice for working in a call center |
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Posted: 21 Apr 2021, 5:14 pm
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Replies: 3
Views: 420
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| They should train you for the call center job. You're allowed to ask for training or help. Ask nicely and I'm sure they'll help you out. If you have a good attitude, that's really all that matters. Congratulations on becoming a lawyer. That's very exciting. |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Am I not ready yet for a job? |
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Posted: 21 Apr 2021, 5:11 pm
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Replies: 14
Views: 664
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| If you're over the age of 18 you are legally an adult. You can and should think for yourself and make your own decisions. If you graduated from high school you are more than qualified to work. You could even attend college part-time and work. Think about your interests and life-related goals. You're... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: My boss is starting to catch on. |
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Posted: 21 Apr 2021, 5:08 pm
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Replies: 9
Views: 583
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| Bullying is harsh. It happens all the time. People are insecure and mean. Even the ones in supervisory roles. You might want to look for another pizzeria to work at. There are different cultures at different workplaces. |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: Ever feel like you need to act MORE autistic? |
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Posted: 20 Apr 2021, 12:45 am
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Replies: 20
Views: 2,561
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| I get frustrated all the time, because I'm "high functioning." I feel like the more obvious people get all the help and services. Nonprofits for the developmentally disabled are not equipped to do much for higher functioning adults. And, yeah, men get so much more respect. Society needs to... |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: Being "cutesy" as an adult |
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Posted: 20 Apr 2021, 12:34 am
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Replies: 27
Views: 3,238
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| I think it's fine to like all of those things. But you have to be an adult. I'm a licensed teacher, and most elementary school teachers, like me, enjoy kid stuff. Linking those things doesn't make you weird. I relate well to kids, and i would have been a good mom. If you can channel those interests ... |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: Help |
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Posted: 20 Apr 2021, 12:28 am
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Replies: 5
Views: 792
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| I've always put my faith in health professionals. Thus far, they haven't let me down. Make sure you check their credentials. Take one step at a time and you'll be ok. |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: Is anyone else here terrified of other women? |
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Posted: 20 Apr 2021, 12:25 am
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Replies: 49
Views: 13,967
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| It's tough. I've had some good friendships with women, some less so. Remember, if someone isn't nice to you, that's their insecurity and their problem. Don't tear yourself down or internalize any bullying. I think it's harder for women on the spectrum because we know we're different and that's hard.... |
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