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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Let's be more silly? |
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Posted: 08 Mar 2023, 5:19 am
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Replies: 22
Views: 713
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| Silly does not work for everyone, but as long as it leads to a shared laugh, I'm in favour. I wouldn't wear silly clothing on normal occasions, but I treasure times like when I was in a meeting where the chairperson had briefly lost control to two independent conversations. We happened to be meeting... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: "I'm fine" |
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Posted: 07 Mar 2023, 7:10 am
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Replies: 16
Views: 654
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| At one support group I attended, "fine" was an acronym for "Effed up, Insecure, Neurotic, & Empty" or some such, so it could be said honestly without alarming people. Lots of people use it, although the percentage of Aspies may be even higher. I think it is generally understo... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Monks/monasticism . |
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Posted: 07 Mar 2023, 6:59 am
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Replies: 41
Views: 2,323
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| I did it for several years, watching a fast-growing organization that wanted to spread peace with free meditation lessons turn into a stagnant religion. There was a lot more work than contemplation, and not enough sleep to stay alert for meditation. Presumably, the alert meditators didn't need as mu... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Neighbour noise |
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Posted: 01 Mar 2023, 2:10 pm
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Replies: 18
Views: 1,489
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| Things can easily seem deliberate when you are tired and easily triggered. In China, they tell the story of a farmer who went out to cultivate his garden, and couldn't find his hoe. As he was searching, he saw the neighbour boy sneaking by like a thief. Then, he found the hoe, and saw the neighbour ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Starting a project and needing help |
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Posted: 01 Mar 2023, 6:32 am
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Replies: 10
Views: 739
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| ^^ Yes, arbitrator. A professional who deals with disagreements if the parties are not crazy enough about it to sue. There are some talented amateurs, too. Aye, Dunning-Kruger is an ever-present hazard. If you want to play with someone who isn't talented enough to judge their own talent, you have to... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Starting a project and needing help |
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Posted: 01 Mar 2023, 6:03 am
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Replies: 10
Views: 739
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| ^^ Perhaps an arbitrator? Certainly not Yoko Ono. Or, to do it yourselves, go through the lists of what you find preferable and look for points where three or two agree. You may have to put the fun of playing together ahead of playing at your very best. Find the lowest common denominator - maybe jus... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Starting a project and needing help |
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Posted: 27 Feb 2023, 11:32 pm
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Replies: 10
Views: 739
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| Perhaps you can create a virtual manager. Have meetings, as if a manager was calling them, and ask each other what an organized manager would do. Draw on your observations of others in the business. Make "to-do" lists. Vote on what "BigBoss" or whatever pet name you like would de... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Greta Thunberg |
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Posted: 25 Feb 2023, 4:42 am
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Replies: 92
Views: 2,967
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| Greta Thunberg is a Climate Activist who is on The Spectrum. I'm just wondering how People on this site feel about Her. Do you consider Greta to be a good role Model/Influence? Just looking for some opinions, please no hateful comments. I think she really has her priorities straight, and should cer... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: I don't know what to do with my life |
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Posted: 20 Feb 2023, 1:21 am
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Replies: 18
Views: 1,204
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| P.S. - I live on almost flat land, but I see a ridiculous number of bikes that are really only suitable for downhill racing. The really expensive ones are not extremely heavy, but then are hard to park securely. Unless you will spend a lot of time off-road or on gravel, hard, narrow tires will save ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Do herbal teas affect you? |
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Posted: 18 Feb 2023, 1:51 am
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Replies: 8
Views: 443
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: I don't know what to do with my life |
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Posted: 18 Feb 2023, 1:48 am
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Replies: 18
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| ^^ If I'd waited for infrastructure, I'd never have gotten anywhere. Quite a few guys rode high-wheelers to the Yukon gold rush. I won't write out a whole manual here, but I can help you choose worthwhile instructions. If you see anyone like yourself riding, you might ask them for advice. The basic ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: I don't know what to do with my life |
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Posted: 17 Feb 2023, 11:33 pm
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Replies: 18
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| Good to hear this. Germany and Denmark also has a good infrastructure for bicycling, right? I'm pretty sure Denmark does, but I don't know about Germany. I would not like riding on a crowded bikeway, which seems to happen in the low countries. I like to go at my own speed. If you want to get seriou... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Problem solving |
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Posted: 17 Feb 2023, 8:22 am
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Replies: 32
Views: 1,970
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| I recently had to make a custom keyboard drawer and mounting for it. It was complex enough that I had to make a sketch first, and a list of parts to cut. The list then helped check the dimensions planned without the need for scale drawings. I like drafting, too, when it is needed, but a sketch and a... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Problem solving |
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Posted: 17 Feb 2023, 7:25 am
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Replies: 32
Views: 1,970
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| I think I understand. What I hate is when I have problems and they take too long or too much energy to solve. One well-known scientist said that his biggest advantage was being able to tolerate uncertainty about how to properly understand the research for much longer than average. When small childr... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Problem solving |
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Posted: 16 Feb 2023, 1:08 am
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Replies: 32
Views: 1,970
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| One day, I'd been working on a house renovation with a crew for a couple of months, and we were almost done. I was asked to make sure that the building was secure, so I went around to each of the doors and windows, made a list of missing hardware, went to the store, and installed the lot. Then, I we... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: I don't know what to do with my life |
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Posted: 16 Feb 2023, 12:41 am
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Replies: 18
Views: 1,204
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| I did all my bicycling in North America, where most experienced riders prefer the roads to the official bicycle facilities. The Netherlands have excellent bikeways, lots of company on them, and no hills, but there are very few places I consider unrideable. With a bike, you can find alternative paths... |
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