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Forum: The Haven Topic: A Lot Has Happened Recently |
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Posted: 05 Nov 2015, 9:22 pm
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| Really need to interject something else.....for those people who have snubbed F., why can't they learn to be kind and accepting?? It seems the dilemma has fallen squrely upon F.'s shoulders. Perhaps those haters need to learn a lesson of respect rather than being such social zealots. |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: A Lot Has Happened Recently |
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Posted: 05 Nov 2015, 9:14 pm
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| being diplomatic isn't fake for a nice person. it might feel weird at first if you're not used to doing it, but can become second nature with practice. Well, I think acting with discretion, 'being diplomatic', is a practiced skill. While it may be more natural for others, we can & do learn such... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: A Lot Has Happened Recently |
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Posted: 05 Nov 2015, 8:41 pm
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In regards to your OP, it seems that the issue is the extent to which you can ignore haters.
You cannot change your personality, nor should you (we like you)! Aside from that you might temper your arguments, a 'softer touch' especially with neurotypicals, can you ignore their snubbing? |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: People say the most infuriating things- I'm just annoyed |
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Posted: 01 Nov 2015, 3:14 pm
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AJisHere wrote: You know yourself, you want to know more. That makes perfect sense and seems like a good idea to me.
Precisely  (re: my post) |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: People say the most infuriating things- I'm just annoyed |
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Posted: 01 Nov 2015, 3:10 pm
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| I read your post......Oooo, that reply is nauseating and so misguided. Sorry you have to put up with that. There's no way out, but distance yourself from that nonsense. I've fell into the pit of futility by attempting to explain, explain, explain....to no avail. Courteously excuse yourself, just tel... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: A Lot Has Happened Recently |
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Posted: 31 Oct 2015, 12:42 pm
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Being forthright and independent is most often not valued among the general (neurotypical) population. Neighbors and 'friends' can be really cutting.....I know. Maybe your wife can smooth over any misunderstandings?
Well, we all appreciate you, Fnord! Our resident badass |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Who loves Halloween? |
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Posted: 29 Oct 2015, 10:11 pm
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Of all the holidays, I'm partial to Halloween too Autumn is my favorite season, especially the colors and crisp weather. I'm not doing anything special for Halloween though - maybe watch a horror movie in my new apartment??
Amazing video, EzraS....thanks for posting. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Delayed emotional reaction |
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Posted: 11 Oct 2015, 9:10 pm
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Replies: 26
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ASPartOfMe wrote: I have been criticized for not bieng emotional enough when something traumatic happens and when my delayed emotion kicks in for not bieng over it. No I am first getting into it.
Me too |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Delayed emotional reaction |
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Posted: 11 Oct 2015, 2:34 pm
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| Could that be related to Asperger? Confronted with things that should provoke a strong emotional reaction, like dealing with aggressive people, emergency situations, accidents, even the death of a loved one... I usually don't react right away. I mean, I do what's needed to be done on the spot, but ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Lives of gifted children: Star Theory |
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Posted: 03 Oct 2015, 2:10 pm
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| I think your descriptive is astute. And I know precisely what you mean. Someone reminded of an old book, A Wrinkle in Time, and I instantly thought of these select characters, e.g., Charles Wallace, after reading your post: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/A_Wrinkle_in_Time |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Embracing your diagnosis? |
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Posted: 25 Sep 2015, 8:58 pm
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| I dunno, anybody else find something wrong with a teacher telling a little kid "you are weird, and that's okay?" To me, it's self-evidently negative. Most people use the word "weird" in an exclusionary manner - meaning "not like us" or "not of us." I'm with y... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Embracing your diagnosis? |
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Posted: 25 Sep 2015, 1:44 pm
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| I think we might have to embrace 'it' (aka, weirdness?) to successfully survive. Fighting it is impossibly, futilely exhaustive! Having a sense of humor, as your husband has expressed, is a plus too. 8) Sorry your friend was insulted. Your husband doesn't need to apologize though. Related, I've enco... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: "You can't fake personality"- article |
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Posted: 12 Sep 2015, 2:16 pm
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| I guess it's true that personality cannot be 'faked', but there are fake personalities. Do employers want that?? Or instead genuine skill, talent and motivation. |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: "You can't fake personality"- article |
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Posted: 12 Sep 2015, 1:07 pm
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| I think most AS people are friendly and considerate. I think virtually all people, whether they are friendly and considerate or not, will be friendly and considerate during a job interview. Saying this is just a smoke screen for what they are really getting at, which is they want a specific type of... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Scared to death about upcoming interview |
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Posted: 09 Sep 2015, 2:17 pm
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| As an important general note.....So often Aspies are told that we somehow can never succeed at interviews (&/or other related social interactions). No, that's just not true. Sure, it might be a harder step for us, but it's absolutely doable. (I get so frustrated with select neurotypicals for ins... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Scared to death about upcoming interview |
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Posted: 09 Sep 2015, 2:03 pm
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| Understood. I do know that most of us (me included!) over-estimate how hard & scary any given interview might be. I used to believe that there was some special trick or skill that eluded only me. That's just not true. Trust, I actually once cried at an interview. I'm now ok with interviews etc. ... |
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