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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: I joined Wrong Planet in 2012 what it has meant for me |
B19 |
Posted: 11 Mar 2014, 8:14 pm
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Good for you Shark Attack! When I joined WP I was totally socially isolated apart from family contacts, recovering from serious illness, dealing with late-realisation of my aspieness in isolation. WP helped me put things in perspective and move to the realisation that I wasn't a failed NT, I was a s... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: greenturtle74’s Cartoon Guide to Asperger’s |
B19 |
Posted: 11 Mar 2014, 8:01 pm
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Replies: 680 Views: 779,422
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GT you are so talented. Do you do this for a living too? |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Having problems succeeding at work |
B19 |
Posted: 11 Mar 2014, 6:28 pm
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Is part of the problem is not being focused on the immediate task you have to complete? If so, possibly try consciously micro-managing yourself by setting mini-goals: "for the next five minutes I will focus on/do this and nothing else". I had similar problems because I have quite a busy brain and th... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Asperger's makes me seem un-ladylike |
B19 |
Posted: 11 Mar 2014, 5:37 pm
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"Ladylike" is a cultural term and to me it means: -passivity -always deferring to men -dependency (at a price) -pretence -acting demure -giving away your power to others and letting them call the shots/control you -never expressing anger (storing it up and making yourself sick instead) The slur of "... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Miserable, depressed, crying. |
B19 |
Posted: 11 Mar 2014, 1:00 am
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Replies: 5 Views: 1,052
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Sad for you, you are hurting and it sucks. Disappointment is one of those heavy feelings that's for sure. Underneath your upset about this date not working out is there a bigger problem for you of feeling socially isolated? Have you got any meaningful social links/friendship/support? If not, maybe M... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Should I tell my cousin she is an aspie too? |
B19 |
Posted: 10 Mar 2014, 3:47 pm
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Replies: 10 Views: 941
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I'm grateful for all your feedback. I'm not going to cut her loose, because I believe she is lonely, isolated and desperately unhappy. So although she can (and does) annoy the Hell out of me - it doesn't help that she has a high, strident and somewhat hysterical tone of voice - if I rejected her it ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Should I tell my cousin she is an aspie too? |
B19 |
Posted: 10 Mar 2014, 3:16 am
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Thanks, you got me thinking about how to raise it with herm if that's what I decide to do. No, she doesn't know that I am an aspie. Some background: there are aspies on both my paternal and maternal side of the family. She is a paternal cousin. On my mother's side the aspies are/were: me, my mother,... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Should I tell my cousin she is an aspie too? |
B19 |
Posted: 10 Mar 2014, 12:55 am
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I have a female cousin who is now in her late 50s. I am 6 years older. Her life has followed a recognisable pattern: bullied at school (she ascribes all her subsequent difficulties to this), never settled into a job, lives alone, never married. Unlike me, she is obsessively religious (I am not relig... |
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Forum: Politics, Philosophy, and Religion Topic: Do you think adoption is a crapshoot? |
B19 |
Posted: 08 Mar 2014, 9:58 pm
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Any female child brought up in the absence of her natural mother has a much higher chance of being sexually abused in childhood. I am adopted and have worked for/with lots of adopted women and the abuse rates are horrific. As to judging how together the adopters seem viewed by outsiders, that's expl... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Anyone Here Adopted? |
B19 |
Posted: 05 Mar 2014, 12:56 am
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Replies: 25 Views: 1,816
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Adoption is a lottery. And gratitude has to be earned in adoptive families, not imposed. Unfortunately it is imposed, in many cases, by inadequate parents who view the child as a commodity to fill the adults' needs and social purposes. These are the very ones who throw the "gratitude" obligation in ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Anyone Here Adopted? |
B19 |
Posted: 04 Mar 2014, 5:29 pm
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Replies: 25 Views: 1,816
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Adoption added another level of confusion, difference and anxiety to my life, it was awful, a malignant narcissist adoptive mother, a father who enabled her, a golden child sibling who was a natural son, and me, the scapegoat. I had nothing in common with them whatsoever, and these days, they would ... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: The single, over 40 thread |
B19 |
Posted: 03 Mar 2014, 11:20 pm
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Replies: 58 Views: 14,176
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Single, female, 66, retired. My 14 year old cat dispenses affection throughout the day and night: he strokes my cheek with his paw, sleeps cuddled up to me as if he is still a kitten and I am a mother cat, sits outside the door waiting for me to come home when I go out. The social contacts I have ar... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Dismayed By Lack of Adult Support |
B19 |
Posted: 03 Mar 2014, 10:30 pm
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Replies: 57 Views: 15,552
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I have found good support by joining a Meet Up Group (Social Anxiety). There are some other aspies in the group, and the nicest NTs I have ever met. We all have issues with anxiety in common and it binds the group together, ages range from 20s-60s and ageism hasn't been an issue. The diversity in th... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Asperger's = Learning most things the hard way |
B19 |
Posted: 03 Mar 2014, 10:21 pm
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Oh yes! It took me a long time to learn that in job interviews you don't answer questions honestly, you are meant to say the "right" answer, ie the one that they want to hear. It didn't occur to me how much game playing was expected of me and I didn't have any idea how to play those games. I worked ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Left brained or right brained (little test) |
B19 |
Posted: 02 Mar 2014, 2:20 pm
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Replies: 62 Views: 3,554
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Have there been any comparisons between aspie and NT scores on this measure? After this test I remembered reading years ago that alchohol affects the two sides of the brain at different speeds, ie the right side of the brain gets drunk first. This is thought to explain the "disinhibition effect" of ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Left brained or right brained (little test) |
B19 |
Posted: 02 Mar 2014, 2:31 am
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Replies: 62 Views: 3,554
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Mine was 56 left 44 right. Though I am right handed, use my left a lot. There are left handed relatives in my family. So I wasn't surprised by this score. There are studies which have found that people who use the right side of their brain more than the average person - whatever average is - are muc... |
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