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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Are you living in the present? |
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Posted: 08 Apr 2013, 1:28 am
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Replies: 45
Views: 3,560
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| While the OP's attempt at explaining what "being present," means isn't all that clear or how I'd define it, I do believe being present is extremely important. "Be present," is the 2nd most valuable piece of advice I've ever been given. Being preset, living in the moment, involves focusing & alig... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Is your partner more or less physically attractive than you? |
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Posted: 08 Apr 2013, 1:00 am
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Replies: 29
Views: 10,794
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| Even given the autistic predilection for low self-esteem, this poll is bearing out my original theory for both men and women. I have a new theory: given that autistic people generally need to trade down in looks, what differentiates an autistic person who can get a date from one who can't (differen... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Any other guys "dropping out" of dating completely |
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Posted: 07 Apr 2013, 3:53 pm
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Replies: 49
Views: 8,186
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| ^ at least we have that age range going a lot more for us than against as it would have been in our parents' generation. My parents were married when they were 20 and had my older brother less than a year later. At 30yo living where the highest % of adult children living w/ parents/family are in the... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Deal-breakers for men? |
| goldfish21 |
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Posted: 07 Apr 2013, 1:45 pm
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Replies: 196
Views: 14,449
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| ^ I'm with unwonkdm on this one - his deal breakers are his deal breakers for whatever his personal reasons are. Whether they're to do with aesthetics, age, religion, personality, neuro-type or mental health issues or anything under the sun isn't really for anyone else to criticize. Deal breakers ar... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: How can I socialize/start a relationship better with girls? |
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Posted: 06 Apr 2013, 12:57 pm
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Replies: 8
Views: 945
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| Just talk to them like you would a guy you've just met. Who cares if you make a mistake?? These girls live far away from you. If it goes well, great. If it doesn't, you haven't lost anything you didn't have, no one else you know will know unless you tell them, and you'll have an opportunity to analy... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Living with singleness (and liking it) |
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Posted: 06 Apr 2013, 12:47 pm
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Replies: 92
Views: 8,399
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| A few things.. 1. The OP is written from a depressed pov. I could grab my copy of "Feeling Good," by Dr. David Burns and CBT the s**t out of it to prove it if the OP wishes to see what I mean. 2. Codependence. It sounds like the OP has a codependence on finding a partner in order to be happy, and th... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Is your partner more or less physically attractive than you? |
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Posted: 06 Apr 2013, 12:20 pm
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Replies: 29
Views: 10,794
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| While I'm single, I felt like replying to point out that its impossible to get apples to apples comparable respnses even if people are trying to assess themselves and their SO on a generally accepted societal scale of attractiveness because its simply too subjective. Ie no matter how physically fit ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: It's confirmed: I must get undiagnosed: how? |
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Posted: 06 Apr 2013, 3:55 am
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Replies: 380
Views: 29,625
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| Well holy s**t, you're finding all kinds of things wrong with you that I've never heard of.. :P ..that list does cover quite a bit of the things you've posted about in the last little while. Maybe this is it, or at least a major piece of your puzzle, anyways. Hopefully there's an experimental drug o... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: It's confirmed: I must get undiagnosed: how? |
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Posted: 06 Apr 2013, 12:39 am
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Replies: 380
Views: 29,625
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| Do you have the aspie gait to your step when you walk? I can't recall if this has been asked or stated yet. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: what about pot smokers (dating one) |
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Posted: 05 Apr 2013, 6:47 pm
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Replies: 44
Views: 6,518
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| Excellent well rounded post, OliveOilMom. Just to add to the bit about a spiritual connection.. Yeah, I suppoose there is a bit of a "kindred spirit," aspect to it. Pot is such a social drug, its shared and enjoyed, and virtually any smoker can feel free to strike up a conversation with any other ra... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: do you ever see an obviously autistic person and wonder if |
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Posted: 05 Apr 2013, 6:32 pm
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Replies: 18
Views: 2,540
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| Oops, this should have been in the general forum. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: do you ever see an obviously autistic person and wonder if |
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Posted: 05 Apr 2013, 6:22 pm
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Replies: 18
Views: 2,540
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| They are self aware of their diagnosis and of why they are the way they are? I have some very high functioning friends I've referred to in other posts that are NT enough that their ASD isn't painfully obvious and took me quite a while to pick up on due to all of the very subtle AS traits, I'm not ta... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: One Night Stand |
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Posted: 05 Apr 2013, 5:24 pm
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Replies: 48
Views: 4,812
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| goldfish21, No, I agree women feel pleasure too. I meant if I were to engage in a one-nighter I would STILL feel used since I was used just for pleasure and I would also feel funny using him just for pleasure as well. See, and that's the thing.. it's because of your beliefs and thoughts about this ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: what about pot smokers (dating one) |
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Posted: 05 Apr 2013, 5:21 pm
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Replies: 44
Views: 6,518
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| Not a deal breaker at all for me. I don't care if they don't smoke pot so long as they don't care that I do. I'd kinda prefer they did vs. didn't though, to be perfectly honest, as then we'd have just one more thing in common as I do with good friends of mine that also happen to smoke. But I'm not a... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: One Night Stand |
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Posted: 05 Apr 2013, 3:49 pm
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Replies: 48
Views: 4,812
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| Those little table things are funny. Anyhow, I would not like a one night stand either since I personally view sexual relations/actions as something special that should be shared between loving/ccaring people. I wouldn't want to be a vessel in which a person pleases himself in an only to that end. ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Unnecessary Laughing |
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Posted: 05 Apr 2013, 3:43 pm
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Replies: 27
Views: 7,105
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| Severe mental illness? No, not necessarily. Mental anomaly? Quite likely. It's a documented AS trait to show incorrect emotions, facial expressions, laughter etc for the present moment. Sometimes it's that you might find something funny that others don't, or something serious may remind you of somet... |
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