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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: How to keep yourself save!? |
| bethaniej |
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Posted: 23 Jan 2012, 10:45 am
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Replies: 16
Views: 2,394
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| I have had to physically restrain my daughter. I am hoping she has come to the end of her "most" violent meltdowns. She still occasionally gets mad enough to throw things in the house, but she no longer acts threateningly toward me like she used to. I used physical restraint twice over a year ago...... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: My Boyfriend's son has Autism. |
| bethaniej |
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Posted: 23 Jan 2012, 10:27 am
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Replies: 19
Views: 7,974
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| Yeah...when he comes over, don't have the chips. Or put them in a safe spot when he's in the house, where he's not going to find them...storage in a closet, under the bed..etc. I've had weight issues over the years, which i've finally gotten a handle on and kept my weight down for about 4 years now.... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Parents on the spectrum |
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Posted: 20 Jan 2012, 9:36 am
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Replies: 274
Views: 223,592
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| I think the best bet is for you to make friends, even though that is difficult, it is your responsibility as a parent to find support wherever you can. I wasn't telling you to find the same kind of support I have, I was giving you examples of kinds of suport that I have made use of. Making friends i... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Parents on the spectrum |
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Posted: 19 Jan 2012, 2:22 pm
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Replies: 274
Views: 223,592
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| I think you need to get support for both of you. It's difficult, but I'm learning with my own child that the more she can become involved in the world (she's 14 and finally starting to make and keep friends and have more of a social life), the happier and less moody she is. IF she doesn't get out an... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Pica |
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Posted: 19 Jan 2012, 2:11 pm
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Replies: 6
Views: 1,201
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| chalk used to be my big craving...and sometimes sand--oh, and ice (both cube and crushed). It was the texture of both things I was attracted to. I love how chalk absorbs water in your mouth...and how gritty sand is. I love chewing on snow, and the vague taste of dirt it has... I'm 42, and it was onl... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: ADHD Meds |
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Posted: 19 Jan 2012, 2:03 pm
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Replies: 4
Views: 1,069
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| lol...to let you know how different people respond to different meds...we've had the most luck with adderol. I responded well to straterra, a non-stimulant add med, but it didn't work at all for my daughter, and vivance was a total nightmare (the worst episode my daughter had at school in years, hap... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: ADHD Meds |
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Posted: 18 Jan 2012, 2:36 pm
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Replies: 4
Views: 1,069
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| It really depends. My daughter takes adderol. You have to understand that meds aren't a "magic pill". For instance, adderol works great for focus and impulsive behavior and the effects can be seen within an hour. However, the meds cause an increase in anxiety. She has a real problem already with anx... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Sometimes I HATE my AS step-son |
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Posted: 13 Jan 2012, 8:23 am
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Replies: 136
Views: 18,663
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| Kailua mom, that sounds like exactly the transition I've gone through about grades this year....or am going through. I decided I needed to just let go of it. I've let her know that hey....it's your life. And I am of the understanding that it's entirely possible that she'll fail out of the school she... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Sometimes I HATE my AS step-son |
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Posted: 13 Jan 2012, 8:14 am
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Replies: 136
Views: 18,663
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| Yikes, this thread, and situation has gone on for a long time. I feel really badly for all of you. The son because it sounds like he has so little control...dad because as an as person, he had his life arranged the way he wanted it only to have this thrust upon him. That doesn't feel good....and you... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: My BF with Aspergers INSISTS on hugs although he hates them |
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Posted: 13 Jan 2012, 7:55 am
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Replies: 26
Views: 9,794
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| Actually you need to clarifiy something for him...it isn't "up to him" if he touches you or not, it is up to you. I think that's the problem here, that you are feeling he's hugging/touching when you aren't calling for that. And as people with AS will freely tell you, that feels like a violation. You... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Ways to discourage/redirect a new special interest |
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Posted: 12 Jan 2012, 5:14 pm
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Replies: 19
Views: 4,579
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| Also...my BIL in the deep south got my neice a gun for her 9th birthday....I think a pelet gun. He takes her out for shooting lessons and works on gun safety. I wasn't "thrilled" with this..but realized it was just my social perception...my own uncles took me out for rifle practice when I was a kid ... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Ways to discourage/redirect a new special interest |
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Posted: 12 Jan 2012, 5:10 pm
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Replies: 19
Views: 4,579
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| That's a tough one...I have had nil success with redirecting special interests...currently one of my daughter's outlets is to draw very realistic/beautiful tattoos all over herself. One day she came home from school with a very detailed full arm tattoo. I don't worry about her getting into real tatt... |
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Forum: Computers, Math, Science, and Technology Topic: Why is science demonized in people's minds? |
| bethaniej |
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Posted: 12 Jan 2012, 4:55 pm
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Replies: 164
Views: 14,035
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| lol..Yay someone said it. My daughter and I were having a good laugh last week because in many of the cartoon/anime superhero shows she likes to watch, there is a "mad physicist." We were laughing at the idea of the mad physicist, because to us, science/reason/facts...things that you can count on...... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: organizational skills ideas/help |
| bethaniej |
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Posted: 12 Jan 2012, 3:13 pm
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Replies: 13
Views: 1,518
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| ugh...we're at 14 and counting. I would say it hasn't gotten any better, except it has. My daughter can't organize very well at all. And yet, she has figured out a way to finally keep her room in passing order (it used to be kind of a health hazard, and I actually at some point just gave up on it--s... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: adolescent boy (12) with autism |
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Posted: 12 Jan 2012, 2:58 pm
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Replies: 10
Views: 1,797
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| My daughter went through a period of increasingly violent meltdowns where a few times I actually had to physically overpower her. What worked finally was when I called in a family friend. I am a single parent so there isn't much tag teaming going on. My daughter had a violent episode about a year ag... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: school subjects-- better way to teach? |
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Posted: 11 Jan 2012, 2:31 pm
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Replies: 9
Views: 1,477
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| I work in a Montessori school. All of my life I was really bad at math because for me memorization of the outcome without understanding conceptually doesn't work. In Montessori, manipulatives are used exclusively until a child gets the concept and can abstract (math on paper/math in head). By this I... |
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