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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Are the key to good friendships low expectations? |
| alpacka |
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Posted: 07 Dec 2018, 10:27 am
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Replies: 40
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| Are the key to good friendships low expectations? Yes. Expect the worst from people and you will never be disappointed again. Once I figured that out, my whole attitude about how myself and others took a 180° turn for the better. People are selfish, mean, ignorant, impatient, cruel, arrogant, stupi... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Are the key to good friendships low expectations? |
| alpacka |
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Posted: 07 Dec 2018, 10:25 am
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Replies: 40
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If you really expect nothing....you often get nothing because you don't wish for it, and you give nothing because you think no one will return anything.
So there it is, just nothing at all |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Are the key to good friendships low expectations? |
| alpacka |
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Posted: 07 Dec 2018, 9:45 am
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Replies: 40
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| Are the key to good friendships low expectations? Yes. Expect the worst from people and you will never be disappointed again. People are selfish, mean, ignorant, impatient, cruel, arrogant, stupid, prideful, opinionated, violent, and sometimes just plain icky . And since they are no better than I, ... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Are the key to good friendships low expectations? |
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Posted: 07 Dec 2018, 9:42 am
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Replies: 40
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| The key to a good friendship is NO expectations. My friend is not EXPECTED to do anything for me. People do things because they want to do them. People help you because they want to help you. No obligation. My friendships are always on a non-obligatory basis. If I feel like lending you a couple of ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: What do you do to stay safe from bad people? |
| alpacka |
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Posted: 07 Dec 2018, 9:38 am
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Replies: 16
Views: 785
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| I can relate well to your story. I don´t know you but I can imagen that you are a friendly person and that friendliness is showing from long distance. People see directly that you are nice and maybe timid. Maybe you also are a too good of a listener and that´s a dead give away of being in these situ... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Are the key to good friendships low expectations? |
| alpacka |
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Posted: 07 Dec 2018, 9:25 am
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Replies: 40
Views: 1,471
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| I often wonder why my friendships never last and I have come to the conclusion it´s maybe due to the fact that I have too high demands on myself as a friend and too high expectations on others. I often see two friends together and discover that one of them is clearly the "racehorse" and th... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Am I the only one who finds weddings boring as heck? |
| alpacka |
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Posted: 07 Dec 2018, 9:07 am
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Replies: 17
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| I feel the same way. I think it´s maybe because it doesn´t have a timelimit really so you don´t know when to leave. In funerals it´s often just a cermony (at least where I come from) so after that you can go home. But weddings can last really long and are often very loud too. There is alot of people... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Strange social anxiety with strangers |
| alpacka |
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Posted: 28 Nov 2018, 9:51 am
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Replies: 7
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| It´s a difference because when someone ask you a question you know what that person is after. If a person are in need you know how to help. When you walk by someone at the street there is no clear thing you should or should not do. The other thing could be about control, you feel you give the answer... |
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Forum: Health, Fitness, and Sports Topic: Reboxetine / Endronax NRI anyone tried? |
| alpacka |
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Posted: 14 Sep 2018, 8:33 am
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Replies: 1
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| Have anyone tried Reboxetine/Edronax? It´s a NRI medication that suppose to work like a ADHD-medication (makes you more focus and alert) but without the amphetamine. It has weightloss as a regular sideeffect but I´m afraid it would affect the heart in some bad way with rapid and unregular heartbeat.... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Cope with noice from neighbours? |
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Posted: 09 Sep 2018, 9:16 am
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Replies: 1
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| This drives me crazy but I can't move right now. I live where the walls is like made of paper. I hear neighbours coughing, closing doors, babies crying and more that's make my hearing go overboard. I have earplugs and earphones but feel trapped, I prefer to just leave the apartment all together. I'm... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Ghosting |
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Posted: 29 Aug 2018, 6:52 am
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Replies: 23
Views: 1,105
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| Does anyone get ghosted frequently or have a very high ratio of being ghosted when trying to make friends? It's rare that someone doesn't ghost me. It's usually as quick as after 2-3 messages. I'm generally not negative. I'm not so quick to bring up Autism, and it still happens. I also get misjudge... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Is it wrong to walk out on a job without notice? |
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Posted: 29 Aug 2018, 6:15 am
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Replies: 12
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| Cannibalcorpse: I have also worked as a cleaninglady on several hotels before. The thing is, you never know for absolute sure if it´s 8-10 rooms even when they tell you, when someone is sick (which happends alot on hotels) suddenly it´s about 10 more rooms at least to clean. I also had my fare share... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Does anyone else ever cut people off/out to relieve anxiety? |
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Posted: 22 Aug 2018, 8:26 am
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Replies: 25
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| Sometimes, when I'm feeling anxious about a person or a situation, I cut them out. Like I block their number, delete our text conversations, block/unfollow them on insta/snapchat (least common). Usually not all at once, but I do it. Also do this when I'm embarassed — I just had a problem where I to... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Taking something literally: Example of the day.... |
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Posted: 22 Aug 2018, 8:07 am
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Replies: 19
Views: 1,187
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| I have heard my whole life that I take things way too literally and "I have to be so clear when I talk to you", I think it´s much fear when I´m working (thats why I avoid it) the difficulties to understand each other. |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Always Be Careful To Not Overestimate Interest Level |
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Posted: 20 Aug 2018, 11:23 am
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Replies: 14
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| I like reading articles online about autistic social skills learning. This stood out to me. Don't overestimate an acquaintance's level of interest in bringing the relationship to a higher level. As two people are doing that delicate dance of getting to know each other, one of the parties can and of... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Rejection on social media |
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Posted: 05 Aug 2018, 11:14 am
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Replies: 73
Views: 2,179
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| So, how do you handle rejection on social media? What are your thoughts? I don't use it. You have to care enough to use email to be my friend at a distance. That's smart but if you already have it it's harder The hard part is probably dealing with the addictive aspects that the corporations use. Ca... |
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