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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Dismayed By Lack of Adult Support |
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Posted: 16 Nov 2013, 12:33 pm
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Replies: 57
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| When I was fifty, a thirty-something doctor didn't want to work on an injured finger, because a younger patient would have gotten more use out of it. Ageism lives. After a lifetime of having to avoid "help" since only a mis-diagnosis was available, I'm glad to get an hour of counseling a month, but ... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: How to clean your house or apartment |
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Posted: 16 Nov 2013, 11:11 am
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Replies: 12
Views: 3,873
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| My sister was a home economics major. I ask her how people get along without a compressed air hose to move the dust. :-) My challenge is that it is easier to find stuff if there is any portion of it visible than by any known system of organization. If something is put away, I have to guess if it is ... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Work and Hello |
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Posted: 16 Nov 2013, 1:08 am
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Replies: 3
Views: 594
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| All my life, I had to avoid psychologists until Asperger's officially became a thing. My life finally made sense to me, and I score on the tests, but the psychologists were still reluctant to give me a diagnosis, apparently worried that it would be a license for acting as weird as I felt. A bottom-r... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Did you ever learn that living independently was tough? |
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Posted: 16 Nov 2013, 12:59 am
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Replies: 12
Views: 1,167
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| It may not be infallible, but I've never had bad luck with roommates in a vegetarian-only place, and I've had dozens. |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Wearing clothes more than one day in a row... |
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Posted: 16 Nov 2013, 12:52 am
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Replies: 72
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| I used to live in a big house with many roommates, and they always saw me in the green uniform I was given in an appliance repair job. For Halloween one year, the first two parts of my costume were jeans and a plaid shirt, and already people didn't recognize me. :-) I've asked a couple of people to ... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: help, please |
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Posted: 15 Nov 2013, 11:37 pm
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Replies: 118
Views: 14,043
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| Overall, Jeeps are in the bottom half of the reliability charts. They only look tough. There's a lot more to it than the motor. You can take a chance on several beaters for a grand. I get reliable cars with great mileage for $200 per year in parts and depreciation. Gas economy matters if you don't k... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: help, please |
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Posted: 15 Nov 2013, 12:15 pm
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Replies: 118
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| Unless you have definite aspirations to go where 2wd absolutely won't, a Jeep is just a pile of extra parts waiting to break. A cheap, reliable vehicle is one that is out of fashion, like a faded company truck. Any kind of van is much easier to live in. Having windows makes it harder to grab a nap i... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: how do you get your s**t together |
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Posted: 15 Nov 2013, 11:49 am
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Replies: 11
Views: 1,090
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| This town is about a thousand people, an hour away from the nearest traffic light. The sea coasts are more moderate than mid-continent climes, but they tend to be pricy. Now, I go with the Scandinavians: "There is no bad weather, just inadequate clothing." Sun and snow are less depressing than rain.... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: executive functioning? |
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Posted: 15 Nov 2013, 11:10 am
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Replies: 27
Views: 10,291
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| My last three decades have featured a lot of disillusionment about the amount of logic in the world. That makes it hard to make plans involving other people, and is probably the main factor in my loss of executive functioning. After so many instances when insurance and other promises got broken, rea... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: how do you get your s**t together |
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Posted: 15 Nov 2013, 2:04 am
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Replies: 11
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| My first deliberate move was to a better climate, where I hoped to meet some business partners. The next one was to accommodate group plans. The last one was to get away from all those people and their abuse. I had to live in my car for two months, but I went to an area that exports food and energy,... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: constant stream of trash from Hollywood ..... |
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Posted: 15 Nov 2013, 1:16 am
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Replies: 11
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| Around 1960, Cleveland Amory, reviewer for TV Guide, summed up the new season's shows as "a vast wasteland." He got dozens of complaints from people who couldn't find "Vast Wasteland" in the schedule. Why should we care how fools entertain themselves? There are more good movies than I have ever had ... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: What's your current obsession? |
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Posted: 15 Nov 2013, 12:56 am
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Replies: 210
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| Writing. I think I could explain women to the satisfaction of Stephen Hawking, but it is hard to stay interesting while covering the basics, and then, it tends to take all the mystery out of life. |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: People hate me |
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Posted: 14 Nov 2013, 12:55 am
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Replies: 17
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| Some say that India has a good supply of spiritually advanced people. Perhaps you can find an Ashram where you are welcome to meditate frequently. After being bullied a lot, we tend to respond just the way bullies want us to. Breaking out of that pattern is hard to learn, and also stirs up a storm o... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Going alone into group activities |
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Posted: 14 Nov 2013, 12:31 am
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Replies: 9
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| I had good luck with co-op houses. Jobs sometimes work. Volunteer organizations usually get recruits singly. Things like camera clubs are sometimes keen to grow, and sometimes rather closed. If you are in a larger community, Adult Children Anonymous is a better match than AA. |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Dealing with social withdrawal symptoms after an gathering? |
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Posted: 14 Nov 2013, 12:25 am
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Replies: 4
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| Usually, I start to relax when I'm alone again, but tend to re-play the conversations several times, checking for things I might have missed. It is very common for people to report thinking of a perfect retort hours too late. |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Can NT's tell were faking it? |
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Posted: 13 Nov 2013, 11:56 pm
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Replies: 32
Views: 4,506
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| Well, there was the time my dad gave me a long lecture. I just stared into his right eye so hard that I only saw a wavering mandala. . . |
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