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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Could someone explain this for me?? |
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Posted: 05 May 2015, 7:11 am
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Replies: 11
Views: 693
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| Perhaps both are true, in that NTs have strong empathy but only with those whose "identity" is close enough to their own, while spectrumites empathize more equally with all sorts of people / animals, including those who are very different from themselves. I find this so much with NT peopl... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: no sense of danger? |
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Posted: 05 May 2015, 6:35 am
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Replies: 10
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| Yep, I basically have no sense of danger. And not because I like it or find it exciting as you mentioned - I just don't process it. It isn't there in response to "normal" danger stimuli. When I was a child I used to free-climb waterfalls in the wilderness, by myself, because the idea that ... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: What do arguments mean? |
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Posted: 05 May 2015, 6:04 am
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Replies: 8
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| 4. Just wants to feel like they're at the top of the pecking order. I wonder what would happen if you expressed agreement with all their stupid complaints? I have a suspicion this may have been a big part of this person's motivation. They were an extremely domineering and selfish individual, who al... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: On living an 'adult life.' |
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Posted: 03 May 2015, 12:12 pm
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Replies: 15
Views: 1,645
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| I find myself wondering just what precisely is meant by living an adult life. In a western cultural context, is this 'adult life' really so prosaic as simply conforming to a rigid script? Go to university, establish a respectable 9 - 5 to remain employed in for several decades to follow, get married... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: do you suffer from avoidance personality disorder? |
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Posted: 02 May 2015, 9:32 am
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Replies: 24
Views: 1,520
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| Why is everything a 'personality disorder' now? Why can't trait x just be what you're like and that's all there is to it? Why pathologize everything? |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Are you emotionally detached out of choice? |
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Posted: 01 May 2015, 10:22 pm
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Replies: 9
Views: 858
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| I've been told I'm like this. Outwardly it apparently appears to others that I'm walled off, that I have barriers up. And yes I'm distrusting and will want to suss someone out before I interact with them past superficially, but who isn't like that? From inside its not that I'm walled off because I'm... |
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Forum: LGBT Discussion Topic: Idea: Just the gay parts. |
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Posted: 01 May 2015, 11:01 am
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Replies: 3
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Heh, why not just watch something like "Queer As Folk," "The L Word" or "Lip Service"?
The gay drama storyline is all there is  |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: What do arguments mean? |
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Posted: 01 May 2015, 10:52 am
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Replies: 8
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| If anyone is interested I asked some advice. The long-suffering therapist explained that arguments rarely have a functional goal, which is why I don't understand. An argument is apparently not there for any reasonable purpose, such as to solve a problem or communicate information. He believes argume... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: job as a psychologist |
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Posted: 01 May 2015, 10:38 am
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Replies: 9
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| I find the topic itself interesting, mostly to gain an understanding of what the hell is going on with other people. I used to dismiss it as facile and superficial to the point of uselessness - A = B with no exceptions, using a handful of generalised equations to explain something infinitely complex... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Questions to ask people about themselves |
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Posted: 01 May 2015, 10:07 am
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Replies: 4
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| I'd agree with Alex, above. However I tend not to be interested in conversations that are inane. If I'm asking someone about themselves, which I tend to do to avoid them asking me questions (I dislike and often refuse to answer personal questions, and as doing so is considered rude, I try to stop it... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Collecting |
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Posted: 01 May 2015, 9:54 am
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Replies: 14
Views: 815
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| There you start getting into the related behaviours which I find interesting - many people who collect things are hoarders and have lots of possessions, many of which are useless. They're messy, have trouble cleaning up or letting go of physical objects. The collecting behaviour is often related to ... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Does anyone know why this is so? |
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Posted: 29 Apr 2015, 4:15 am
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Replies: 3
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| Hah, you're kind of stuck with your nose anyway, as sniffing is often seen as not appropriate - If you're in a city doing that, people give you a wide berth because they read you as a junkie. Lesser of two evils? Cleaning your ears with Q tips in a restaurant might be kind of odd, but since when is ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Collecting |
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Posted: 29 Apr 2015, 4:04 am
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Replies: 14
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| It seems likely that autistics may jump on this bandwagon. Anyone have an interest in collecting? I am usually very utilitarian and only keep a very small number of possessions for strictly practical uses, with one exception - I collect bird feathers. Just feathers I find around the place, usually o... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Does anyone here know how to cook? |
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Posted: 29 Apr 2015, 3:48 am
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Replies: 68
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| Interesting. Apart from Dox, no one really enjoys cooking or does it noticeably well? I'd have thought more autistic peoples would rally for it, given the prevalence of weirdness around food with texture and pickiness and what have you. I LOVE to cook, its also one of my favourite things to do, and ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Crying = not on the Spectrum??? |
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Posted: 29 Apr 2015, 3:28 am
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Replies: 25
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| Well, I don't cry anymore at all, but I always equated that more with gender transition than with autism. I got the impression it was more common with autistic adults than NT adults due to problems in emotional processing/getting overwhelmed/meltdown. I smiled some as well during the interview, but ... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: What do arguments mean? |
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Posted: 28 Apr 2015, 4:04 am
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Replies: 8
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| See now that's a fascinating idea I don't understand at all. How can someone feed off negativity? Negativity is awful. As far as I'm aware most people tend to think so. Maybe I'm simplistic in that way, but I find harmony and peace and smooth, mutually beneficial cohesive coexistence much better. Wh... |
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