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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: who is more assertive on the whole, Aspies or NTs? |
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Posted: 06 Jul 2011, 6:59 am
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| Some Aspies are quite assertive, to the point of being considered aggressive or obnoxious, This describes my level of assertiveness spot-on. I'm not too skilled at being balanced when it comes to asserting myself. Yes, I can definitely see this happening, and I was like that A LOT in my early 20s (... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Being imitated as a form of mockery |
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Posted: 28 Jun 2011, 6:37 am
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| There's a coworker here that seems a little like that. Very subtle passive/aggressive. I can't decide if it's because of my Asperger's or if he is like that to everyone. Do you suspect that this co-worker might be imitating you...sometimes Aspies behaviour is mistaken for passive/aggressive behavio... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Being imitated as a form of mockery |
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Posted: 27 Jun 2011, 1:55 pm
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| Like I said in my original post, it was my old workplace . I did explain it to HR at the time, with documented examples, but they did not act on it, I suppose because the imitation was more difficult to prove. I've since moved on to better things. But, contrast that with a manager who imitates an In... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Being imitated as a form of mockery |
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Posted: 27 Jun 2011, 1:18 pm
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| As an adult Aspie, I wish I could say that forms of mockery have disappeared, but only the more "blunt" forms such as a peer saying in front of an audience "this is my impression of Jayo" - then putting on an exaggerated AS show...that was well before my diagnosis at 27 though. Now, in my 30s, it te... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: who is more assertive on the whole, Aspies or NTs? |
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Posted: 20 Jun 2011, 7:54 am
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| I would actually say that, although Aspies certainly have the inclination to be assertive, institutional bias acts as a deterrent to them asserting themselves. Many Aspies tend to feel persecuted by society and the inherent bias against people with mental health issues, so the issue is beyond a simp... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Seniors and Aspergers? |
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Posted: 17 Jun 2011, 2:02 pm
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| Well, one theory I can offer why there are so very few seniors who are known to have an AS diagnosis, is because the age of the parents of the senior when he/she was born. In the first half of the last century, people tended to have kids at a much younger age than they do today. In the 50s, 60s, and... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: who is more assertive on the whole, Aspies or NTs? |
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Posted: 17 Jun 2011, 12:44 pm
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Maje wrote:
The thing is, that in a big deal of situations I dont have a need to make up my mind. I dont necessarily find an industrial area as an unpleasant place to have a picnic.
Kind of a paradox, this statement, considering that NTs say that we Aspies are rigid and inflexible!! !
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: who is more assertive on the whole, Aspies or NTs? |
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Posted: 17 Jun 2011, 11:19 am
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| You can only be assertive if you know what it is you want. It also requires a knowledge of body language and social interaction. NTs tend to be better at it. I don't even know how this is a question. NTs are anyone outside of the spectrum. Since Aspies aren't very good at assertiveness, I wonder wh... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: who is more assertive on the whole, Aspies or NTs? |
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Posted: 17 Jun 2011, 7:54 am
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| I've pondered this question and from my own experience, I believe that I am an assertive individual - I can balance that line between explosive aggression and total timidity, unless it's an uber-bully I'm dealing with. I would actually say that NT's tend to be less assertive (and less confrontationa... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Seniors and Aspergers? |
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Posted: 15 Jun 2011, 1:27 pm
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| You've all noticed that the population of (diagnosed) Aspies seems to get higher every year...in contrast with way back in the middle of the last century...when it wasn't recognized let alone heard of. As an Aspie born in the '70s, I didn't get my diagnosis till 2001. But I am compelled to wonder if... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Do you "play dumb" if confronted re: your AS manif |
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Posted: 06 Jun 2011, 8:02 am
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Replies: 10
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| I think it might actually work better to try doing this. Maybe instead of pretending to understand nonverbal communication, I should just make it even more obvious that I do not. Well, try not to think in absolutes - don't say "I do not" but "I am challenged by it". Just like a dyslexic would not m... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Do you "play dumb" if confronted re: your AS manif |
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Posted: 04 Jun 2011, 4:50 pm
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| In the particular case with YOUR boss, I might think about sitting down and sharing the details about Asperger's, and seeing if it changes how she acts with you. If you're doing a good job, and she is just frustrated with your inability to "feel & see" situations and act accordingly, and IF she... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Do you "play dumb" if confronted re: your AS manif |
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Posted: 04 Jun 2011, 4:36 pm
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| . After all they would want to shove it in your face and not let you pretend if it was that important. If they don't shove it in your face, then it probably wasn't that big of deal and I don't know what they wanted then. Maybe they were just curious and decided on the spot to forget about it. I alwa... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Do you "play dumb" if confronted re: your AS manif |
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Posted: 04 Jun 2011, 12:35 pm
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| Since my diagnosis about 10 years ago, I've improved greatly, but still had a few behavioural mishaps and misinterpretations slip through the cracks. Most of which I'm sure were ignored, or obliquely called to my attention, it's the ones that people confront me on that I find unsettling, and my defa... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Aspergers and comprehension of NT instructions/questions? |
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Posted: 25 May 2011, 5:06 pm
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Replies: 54
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| I remember in childbirth class, I kept making people laugh and didn't know why. I wondered if it was because they thought I was telling a joke or that I said something wrong. Then after the classes, my husband told me while we were grocery shopping that I kept taking the nurse's questions literal s... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Aspergers and comprehension of NT instructions/questions? |
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Posted: 20 May 2011, 7:30 am
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| I agree with the last poster that it's almost like NTs use some sort of telepathy - that they effortlessly decipher the nuances that take us clarifying questions to uncover, or we miss them entirely. That's still one area of AS that I don't think I'll ever overcome completely. I've conquered other a... |
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