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Forum: The Haven Topic: Boyfriend left me |
| serpentari |
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Posted: 01 Oct 2018, 12:41 pm
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Replies: 29
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| hi. relating here. my daughter's father left when she was a year ago. birth itself can be done with anesthetics, if u are afraid. its a hard work, and important milestone, but not as boogey as one might think. wont give u health rants, u got docs for it. wont give u "all will be good". the... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Very lonely and depressing time of my life |
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Posted: 01 Oct 2018, 12:30 pm
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Replies: 17
Views: 420
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| Hi. u have ample reasons to be depressed. and giving u the standart cheery rant about it wont help, so i omit that part. personally, i'd allways find my needs in this or that online game. there can be enough filters to protect urself, and also, bustind things might help with frustrations. well, help... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Seeking advice as an Aspergian stuck in life. |
| serpentari |
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Posted: 01 Oct 2018, 4:53 am
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Replies: 6
Views: 463
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| right now, i am in a simmilar situation. cptsd, confirmed. i've gotten out of the worst of it, but i have a long way to go. so, here is what i had done after i was intercepted from a windowsil. took several months 0. isolate myself from any hostile or potentially hostile contacts 1. write down my fl... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Can't make or keep friends well |
| serpentari |
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Posted: 01 Oct 2018, 4:25 am
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Replies: 6
Views: 420
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| i had a lot of rejection issues, and in the end, i'd developed a social mask, spikey, sharp-tongued and overall agressive. masking my meltdowns under agression streaks. hiding vebrosity under snarky comebacks. that would work quite fine, people, who would like that thing, (and there are such people)... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: No wonder I can't get any friends. |
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Posted: 01 Oct 2018, 1:55 am
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Replies: 8
Views: 484
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| also, as it happens in many of us, we have depressions. when ur system is devoid of endorphines, u feel bad. unreasonably bad. thinking of self as ultimately (paste negative adjective) is just what happens. and whats most important in this state, is to know its not u. its ur depression speaking. lik... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Too alien for Earth. Too human for outer space. |
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Posted: 01 Oct 2018, 1:42 am
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Replies: 30
Views: 648
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| thank you for asking, and for response) no need to apologize, either. each person is seing everything through the prizm of their experience, us and NT alike. lets just say, i went a long way to learn what i write here) and yes, coming from society, where being anything short of normal is unacceptabl... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: When NT's complain about rejection, anxiety, awkwardness... |
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Posted: 30 Sep 2018, 4:57 pm
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Replies: 46
Views: 1,603
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| believe me, being a female, who attracts male attention and cant handle it, is no better. i am glad i dont any more. i'd rather not uncover details here, it might trigger somebody. i am not trying to diminish what u feel. everybody has a problem or 10, and not getting a date when u want one must be ... |
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Forum: Getting to know each other Topic: incoming serpentari |
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Posted: 30 Sep 2018, 4:43 pm
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Replies: 6
Views: 213
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| thank you. i have found such people, they are NT and doing everything they can to make me feel better. but well, acceptance and understanding are different things. i perfectly had learned the hard way, how unhealthy a mask is. and reducing my contacts to several people, who can handle me unfiltered,... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: No wonder I can't get any friends. |
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Posted: 30 Sep 2018, 4:27 pm
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Replies: 8
Views: 484
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| sometimes it took me months or even years to figure out how to correct a falling-out with somebody i cared about, happening because of me being well, me. but when i came to them, they mostly would be like HEY, TODDLES. they'd accept me, and the relationship would be better after. ya, its not a 100% ... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Marriage advice needed |
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Posted: 30 Sep 2018, 4:20 pm
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Replies: 10
Views: 270
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| my marriage had ended in a double meltdown, when our child was 1 year old. yes, asperger+asperger. keyed and triggered each other. we had been happy for a long time before. somehow the child appears to be NT. all the issues of "i am not worthy of X", - its only depression speaking. its ver... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: When NT's complain about rejection, anxiety, awkwardness... |
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Posted: 30 Sep 2018, 1:59 pm
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Replies: 46
Views: 1,603
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| banana, my experience of cause might be invalid to u, but many people want to help, want to have u around, but they never know u want it, too. and they are trying to give u space, by not touching u, because they think they thought its want u asked for. verbally or not. i am so anxious, and so ashame... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Too alien for Earth. Too human for outer space. |
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Posted: 30 Sep 2018, 4:54 am
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Replies: 30
Views: 648
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| about visions, well. it is very hard to verbalize. i never had. a different layer of reality, glimpsing through cracks in primary one? a totally different reality? all senses, duped, and thats where the real ones kick in? i dont know. i cant explain. it is not all the same every time. the world is s... |
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Forum: Getting to know each other Topic: incoming serpentari |
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Posted: 29 Sep 2018, 3:17 pm
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Replies: 6
Views: 213
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| thank you. reading other asperger people talking is... like reading in my mothertongue i never knew, after a lifelong of reading in a learned-by-trial language, that was not mine. |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Too alien for Earth. Too human for outer space. |
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Posted: 29 Sep 2018, 10:44 am
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Replies: 30
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| my mother's position would have shifted from "tone down that AS output", to "snap out of it, you are not an AS". which of cause whould have hurt me. and then, accidently, to "sorry i could not get you checked at a kid age". the "earth to (me)" had been thrown ... |
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Forum: Getting to know each other Topic: incoming serpentari |
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Posted: 29 Sep 2018, 10:05 am
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Replies: 6
Views: 213
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| hello. i am new on this forum, and in autistic community. i am 30 years old, and have lived in a strictly NT community, so i have some sort of compensatory mechanism developed, but also it had sort of malfunctioned. i am aspergerian, i have several other issues picked up along the way. maybe i am no... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: When NT's complain about rejection, anxiety, awkwardness... |
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Posted: 29 Sep 2018, 9:47 am
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Replies: 46
Views: 1,603
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| hello. first, if we define neurotypical as non-autistic, then yes, there will be a lot of people, who are not autistic, but still have problems. i have several myself. i feel a lot of "if i was only and just aspergerian, i would have much less problems in social sphere". second, if we defi... |
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