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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Unwritten rules of socializing...would you read a book on it |
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Posted: 26 Mar 2010, 2:51 pm
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| I voted yes, but a video would work better, with all kinds of arrows pointing at all the body language and what it means, when people are socializing as friends and as dates and in various social interactions. It would also help to show and point out all the bad signals. My doctor just started givi... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Unwritten rules of socializing...would you read a book on it |
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Posted: 26 Mar 2010, 2:34 pm
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Salonfilosoof wrote: Having experienced both what it means to be an Aspie and to be a Neurotypical, I may one day actually WRITE a book on the topic. . .
Now, this fascinates me! If you want to share a little bit about having experience with both, I'd be very interested. |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Unwritten rules of socializing...would you read a book on it |
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Posted: 25 Mar 2010, 8:47 pm
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| Yes, I would if it seemed like it had some good ideas. However, even a really good social rule only works, say, two-thirds of the time and doesn't work one-third of the time (I have to keep reminding myself that we humans---Aspie, normal, different in different ways---all of us, are so complicated t... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Dick Vermeil as second most inspirational coach of all time |
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Posted: 25 Mar 2010, 8:35 pm
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| He wasn't a hollerer or a blood-and-guts coach. He led from the heart. He said, 'If you care, they're care. If you trust, they'll trust.' --------------------------- This was a show on NFL Network, 'The Top Ten Most Inspirational Coaches of All Time.' And, no, I didn't see who was number one! Didn't... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Going to a shrink day after tomorrow and other stuff |
| AardvarkGoodSwimmer |
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Posted: 24 Mar 2010, 4:49 pm
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| . . . It sounds like you have REALLY REALLY BAD executive dysfunction, if you go for the fridge and end up in the bathroom. . . I do that same kind of thing on a fairly regular basis, and I don't consider it a big deal. I might be writing a ten page fiction story. I might be writing a personal essa... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Going to a shrink day after tomorrow and other stuff |
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Posted: 24 Mar 2010, 2:44 pm
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| I help run a venue with my long-time business partner...the music fest has been driving me bonkers with the noise....my meltdown sufficiently scared away a really good bartender because she was triggering me and I could no longer be around her....maybe ambitious...but still a struggle and still a l... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Going to a shrink day after tomorrow and other stuff |
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Posted: 23 Mar 2010, 7:09 pm
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| . . . ,,,,I have to be here in the mornings to accept deliveries...etc....especially if I get to knock off early and let other people deal with the obnoxiously loud bands.... . . . and the 2-week gigantic festival. You do very ambitious stuff, and good for you! The only thing I might suggest is exp... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Going to a shrink day after tomorrow and other stuff |
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Posted: 23 Mar 2010, 6:57 pm
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| . . . I know myself well enough...I have traits of both...What I would like to control the most is my severe executive dysfunction....I go to put something in the fridge and end up opening the door to the bathroom....... . . . I do same and similar! It sounds like are a very creative person, and cr... |
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Forum: School and College Life Topic: philos., 'motive utilitarianism,' Father Sarducci's college |
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Posted: 23 Mar 2010, 5:50 pm
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| I heard a university lecture on the liar’s paradox: “Every statement I say is untrue.” But, if it loops back to itself, then the statement itself . . . And anyway, the lecturer went through four possible solutions, none of which he felt was all that satisfactory. And then he began on his solution, a... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Another 'to dx or to not dx' thread |
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Posted: 21 Mar 2010, 8:56 pm
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| As far as socially, something that really worked for me back in 2002 were humanist breakfasts. It was Sunday morning at a smaller hotel whose restaurants had buffet but it wasn't very crowded. So, I would greet people, make one or two trips to the buffet (something I always enjoy!), then the leader ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Another 'to dx or to not dx' thread |
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Posted: 21 Mar 2010, 8:16 pm
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| . . . I slowly fixed my self-destructive habits and started to learn foreign languages instead. . . That's exactly what I hope for! That I can channel energy, all kinds of energy including energy which is initially negative, in a broadly positive direction. And sometimes I am able to pull it off. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Another 'to dx or to not dx' thread |
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Posted: 21 Mar 2010, 8:07 pm
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zombiecide wrote: . . . At the age of nine, my older cousin molested me. . .
It is good and brave of you to share this. You thereby make it easier for other people to share who have had same or similar experiences.
Please keep talking in ways which feel comfortable to you. |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Have You Managed Employees? |
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Posted: 19 Mar 2010, 9:39 pm
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| . . . Also, as an INTJ (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/INTJ) . . . Somewhere I read that an INTJ likes to come up with ideas that he or she can implement or see implemented, hopefully improve things at least a medium amont, and then move onto something new (without necessarily feeling the need to mil... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Have You Managed Employees? |
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Posted: 19 Mar 2010, 9:23 pm
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| . . . Even more maddening is when s/he arrives on the scene and starts "fixing" or telling everyone how to fix Problem A,B,C without taking time to sit down/shut up and make an effort to understand how/why something is the way that it is, etc. . . So ,it sounds like this person thinks their BS is b... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: suicide ideas |
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Posted: 17 Mar 2010, 8:46 pm
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| Elton John struggled with thoughts of suicide. For something as simple as being gay in the relatively enlightened times of the early 1970s? Well, yeah. Combined with maybe he made some artistic compromises, nothing wrong with that, that’s part of experimentation, but he may have felt that he neeeded... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Nervous for my job! |
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Posted: 17 Mar 2010, 4:17 pm
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| Okay, all of the above and . . . here's kind of the zen of it all . . . you don't want to try too hard! For if you try too hard, you'll likely to both make yourself nervous and other people nervous as well. Now, I typically do try too hard at the beginning of a new job, but I'm also in the process o... |
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