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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: On 'Friendsgiving' |
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Posted: 29 Nov 2022, 8:31 pm
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| I had a Friendsgiving only once, in 2020. That year, my state's governor declared holiday gathering illegal. Luck for me, I had already met my QAnon friends, so we had out own illegal Friendsgiving. The host took charge of the turkey, the guests took charge of whatever was delegated to them. Very ea... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Does my mom make a good point about this? |
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Posted: 27 Nov 2022, 10:46 am
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Replies: 17
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| When cycling I did used to park my bike next to a mostly empty children’s playground. Even that can look dodgy since there is a lot of paranoia about pedophiles etc…. You said "mostly" empty playground, which means there were at least a few kids. If you're that concerned, don't stop in fr... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Does my mom make a good point about this? |
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Posted: 27 Nov 2022, 10:20 am
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| It depends a lot on where in the park you hang out alone. Next to a playground where there are children playing? Definitely not! Next to an empty playground? A gray area; you can sit and rest briefly, but sitting all day is a no-no. Next to a hiking/walking trail? Absolutely OK. (Although it looks b... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Men! |
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Posted: 21 Nov 2022, 7:18 pm
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Replies: 38
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| Can you not invite some of these men that you talk to over to meet in person? If they get a hint it'll only stay as an online chat they'll eventually lose interest. Agreed! There's nothing men despise more than women who string them along with promises of a date, but instead use them as online pen ... |
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Forum: School and College Life Topic: Has a teacher ridiculed you for asking too many questions? |
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Posted: 20 Nov 2022, 1:24 pm
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| When asked about what I thought about the story, I said that I disliked it and that I wondered how the rainbow fish managed to remove its scales. I could suspend my disbelief enough to accept talking fish, but the scales puzzled me. Further, I asked if the rainbow fish would still be known as the r... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Men! |
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Posted: 19 Nov 2022, 10:48 am
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Replies: 38
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| I've seen a few posts about persuading one's significant other to see a doctor. If you're trying to do that, perhaps your SO might be convinced by reading my hospital threads. All of them detail very positive experiences I had at my local hospital. Where do you live? There's kinda a monopoly on the... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Men! |
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Posted: 18 Nov 2022, 10:31 pm
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| I've seen a few posts about persuading one's significant other to see a doctor. If you're trying to do that, perhaps your SO might be convinced by reading my hospital threads. All of them detail very positive experiences I had at my local hospital. In the last several months, I developed a serious b... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: How Do/Would Therapists Feel About A "Perfect" Patient? |
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Posted: 18 Nov 2022, 6:17 am
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Replies: 25
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| A therapist is someone you are paying to help you with understanding the relationship between what is happening inside you and what is happening in your outer life in the world. Feeling that the therapist is an authority figure rather than a helper is going to skew the results that are possible. Th... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Men! |
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Posted: 17 Nov 2022, 9:02 pm
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| While I don't know what women want from men, what I want from women is to JUST BE LEFT ALONE!! ! :evil: That is, I don't want a woman heckling me to see a doctor because she "cares about me" :roll:. I don't want a woman berating me for eating a bacon cheeseburger because she "cares ab... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: So why was this an weird/awkward thing to do? |
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Posted: 17 Nov 2022, 8:18 pm
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| Well he just seemed embarresed when i showed him the picture of her. Possibly, he thought she was below your league, got vicariously embarrassed, and rudely verbalized it. He shouldn't have done that. He should have at least reacted neutrally to the picture, like "she looks nice". With th... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: How Do/Would Therapists Feel About A "Perfect" Patient? |
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Posted: 17 Nov 2022, 8:05 pm
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| Trying to do therapy with the idea that you are expected to do certain things and not others is not really engaging with the therapy. A therapist can only help if a client is willing to work with themselves. Having an antagonistic relationship with the therapist is just a non starter. I would sugge... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: How Do/Would Therapists Feel About A "Perfect" Patient? |
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Posted: 16 Nov 2022, 1:13 pm
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| In the UK, they recommend CBT for people on the spectrum. It's mentioned in the autism guide for therapists. 8O This was true in the US for decades as well. But now, there are schools of thought that CBT isn't as effective as previously believed. At its core, it's ABA/masking for emotions: necessar... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: How Do/Would Therapists Feel About A "Perfect" Patient? |
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Posted: 16 Nov 2022, 12:18 pm
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| Good therapists don't offer advice. ... Many of us wouldn't be alive today if it weren't for the care received from our therapists. Please have respect and realise they aren't all caricatures of a woman from your past. This isn't the thread topic. The topic is how a therapist would react to a patie... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: How Do/Would Therapists Feel About A "Perfect" Patient? |
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Posted: 16 Nov 2022, 11:15 am
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Mountain Goat wrote: Just a thought. Would a perfect patient need therapy? He/she might. But it's not about mental health. It's about the social skills for meeting the therapist's expectations. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: How Do/Would Therapists Feel About A "Perfect" Patient? |
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Posted: 16 Nov 2022, 6:11 am
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| My partner is a counselling psychologist. I just asked him what makes a perfect patient. He joked: "They don't cancel last minute." Serious answer: "They tell me what they need." I tried telling my therapists what I needed, both that social worker trash and the ones I saw as an ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: How Do/Would Therapists Feel About A "Perfect" Patient? |
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Posted: 15 Nov 2022, 11:00 pm
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| I'm curious how you know what is ubiquitous for therapy. Have you been to therapy at all since your adolescence? Yes. One criticized me for not readily buying into his CBT agenda---although be did it politely, and he was otherwise an intelligent man. The other one again mocked me for wanting practi... |
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