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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: How could my cool friend be so stupidly naïve about dating? |
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Posted: 22 Oct 2022, 9:09 am
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| I was profoundly hyperlexic as a child and educated myself on a number of subjects before I even went to school. I was everyone's Little Professor. I've been masking my whole life. I was a little professor too. I learned to read at age 4, and was reading high school-level encyclopedias in 2nd grade... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: How could my cool friend be so stupidly naïve about dating? |
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Posted: 21 Oct 2022, 7:49 am
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| You'd likely make the connection and ask on a date a girl that doesn't know if you drive or have a car. You don't exactly bring it into the classroom. I'd say it's irrelevant towards getting a date, but it would be an asset toward relationship development, having ability to go places. I was given t... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: How could my cool friend be so stupidly naïve about dating? |
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Posted: 21 Oct 2022, 5:57 am
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| How Could My Cool Friend Be So Stupidly Naïve About Dating? So, um, still friends and still cool, after all these years? Nope. I pulled away from him after he developed a gambling problem the senior year of college. But that's irrelevant. I want to understand a social situation that predates my AS ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: How could my cool friend be so stupidly naïve about dating? |
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Posted: 21 Oct 2022, 5:04 am
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| If this girl you knew was superficial, that doesn't mean all girls / women are. People can have character flaws regardless of their gender. In my area, even the nicest girls were still very strict about guys having cars. It was just something they expected. Now, it didn't have to be a Lamborghini; ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: How could my cool friend be so stupidly naïve about dating? |
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Posted: 20 Oct 2022, 9:28 pm
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| Where I went to college, the car culture wasn't as vicious as California's, but it was still pretty bad. And the social message was crystal clear: if you're a guy without a car, don't even think about asking girls out! Which is why I was so flabbergasted at my friend's suggestion. By driving me and ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: How could my cool friend be so stupidly naïve about dating? |
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Posted: 20 Oct 2022, 7:54 pm
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Temeraire wrote: Oh dear, Oh dear dear dear. Really??? 
Cultural differences, my fellow WrongPlaneteer. You're from the UK; it doesn't have a merciless car culture the US has.
Mods, please take note as well. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: How could my cool friend be so stupidly naïve about dating? |
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Posted: 20 Oct 2022, 7:16 pm
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| Does it not occur to you that teenaged girls and women might have their own cars and not depend on men to have them? What's up with the blatant sexism? No sexism, I swear to god. I was talking about guys having a car on a date ! I mean, at least back in 2001, it was very normal for a girl to expect... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: How could my cool friend be so stupidly naïve about dating? |
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Posted: 20 Oct 2022, 6:52 pm
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| I think after 21 years you need to put this episode behind you. You are twice as old now. This is pretty much irrelevant. My highest and profoundest gratitude for your very kind and helpful response. Sarcasm aside, didn't you ever want to figure out a situation from years past, when your AS was mor... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: How could my cool friend be so stupidly naïve about dating? |
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Posted: 20 Oct 2022, 9:19 am
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| There are at least some women (yep....probably most women, even in high school and college) who wouldn't just "throw themselves" at somebody who looks "Chad-like." The "throw themselves" part in my earlier post was about his car, rather than his looks. I knew that a gu... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: How could my cool friend be so stupidly naïve about dating? |
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Posted: 20 Oct 2022, 5:14 am
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| It's a really good thing I'm long out of high school and college.....all this Chad crap doesn't apply after kids grow up and mature. Chad or no Chad, that's not what this thread is about. It's about how a friend with dating skills 1000 times better than mine actually thought him being a "datin... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: How could my cool friend be so stupidly naïve about dating? |
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Posted: 19 Oct 2022, 7:33 pm
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| It was my freshman year of college, year 2001. I still didn't have a car. Me and my friend were having lunch together on campus. I confided to him how I wanted to ask a girl out, but I was afraid she'd reject me after I told her I didn't have a car. (This happened to me my senior year of high school... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Silly misunderstandings |
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Posted: 18 Oct 2022, 6:37 pm
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| In Pre School, we were told to draw a "flowery sausage", I drew a sausage with flowers growing out of it and couldn't understand why everybody else were drawing a sausage with flowers on its skin. Took me a couple of years to understand I was the one who did it wrong. According to a Googl... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Why were my parents so disinterested in fixing the family? |
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Posted: 17 Oct 2022, 6:22 pm
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| If I had known back then what I know now, and could go back in time to that FRN, I'd go about it a different way. Instead of picking a jungle animal book, I'd pick this one: "[State] Family Law Made Easy: Protecting Our Children" * by [State] Bar Association. In other words, a digest for t... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Why were my parents so disinterested in fixing the family? |
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Posted: 17 Oct 2022, 10:49 am
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| I think one problem is that I took on a task that's beyond the skill level of many Ph.D. and Psy.D. psychologists, let alone a kid with a 6th-grade education. (Although my therapist, a Master's LCSW, more "refused" than "couldn't", as she had no intent to help me .) While my inte... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Why were my parents so disinterested in fixing the family? |
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Posted: 17 Oct 2022, 5:16 am
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| My family wasn't close. They didn't think my emotional problems or my physical pain were "real", so I had no motive to respond in kind. Well, other than this Family Reading Night thing, to "trick" my parents into not fighting with each other, which failed. As long as I obeyed the... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Why were my parents so disinterested in fixing the family? |
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Posted: 16 Oct 2022, 9:45 am
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| The whole time I lived with my parents until the day I moved out, they fought with teach other CONSTANTLY! And with me too! Well, when I was in 6th grade, I saw a flyer: "Family Reading Night". It was basically an evening at school for students and their parents. They could read books toge... |
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