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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Does Autism fade over time? |
| SharonB |
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Posted: 17 Jan 2023, 11:07 pm
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Replies: 21
Views: 952
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| Comes and goes with the degree of skills and stress. When my skills are greater than my life stressors (e.g. it all goes according to my multiple color-coded plans, or I am truly winging it) - I am "less" Autistic. When my life stressors exceed my skills (e.g. I get three legal notices at ... |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: Itchy Bras |
| SharonB |
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Posted: 17 Jan 2023, 10:41 pm
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Replies: 16
Views: 474
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| I buy thrift --- the softest, gentlest, most well worn, durable items. I find 2 bras and stick with them. The bra I am wearing now is a large band and without an underwire. I used to wear a band that was too tight and I used to wear underwires b/c those sizes and styles were readily available in sto... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Emotional Issues or PTSD? |
| SharonB |
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Posted: 08 Jan 2023, 5:38 pm
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Replies: 3
Views: 291
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| Both? Autism is so very similar to PTSD and yet how much do they inform each other? I wasn't diagnosed until a few years ago so spent over 40 years being invalidated (you're "too" this, "too" that, nobody else thinks, smells, senses that...) --- that's pretty traumatic. My mom an... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Is it common for aspies to say no to unknown situations? |
| SharonB |
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Posted: 08 Jan 2023, 5:32 pm
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Replies: 11
Views: 567
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| Depends on my calculations. I am ASD, ADHD, and GAD. I do impulsiveness combined with anxiety. My son is straight up ADHD and GAD without ASD but can pull out a strong "no" in the face of the unknown when GAD has him. Take for example this morning. "NO!" he was not going to watch... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: New diagnosis imposter syndrome |
| SharonB |
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Posted: 06 Jan 2023, 10:29 pm
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Replies: 25
Views: 1,035
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| Interesting. I recently moved into Financial Services. I data mine, which also provides SME-dom. I am successful (although I remain wracked by insecurity as are many "achievers"). Wholistically I am as successful as my peers, although intersectionality lessened my professional ... everythi... |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: How do any of you handle pms or crying meltdowns? |
| SharonB |
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Posted: 06 Jan 2023, 8:30 pm
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Replies: 5
Views: 255
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| My BFF supports me when my DH (dear husband) is away and my DH supports me when my BFF is away... yep, it tends to be messy when both are away and I PMS, so I have to have a back up plan and **USE IT**. Like pp says: your comfort items, tertiary people, comfort foods, comfort music, EFT, tools --- b... |
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Forum: Off the Wall: Forum Games, Quizzes, Roleplaying, etc. Topic: word association game |
| SharonB |
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Posted: 06 Jan 2023, 8:23 pm
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Replies: 74,520
Views: 1,959,188
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Are you autistic and gifted? |
| SharonB |
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Posted: 10 Dec 2022, 3:47 pm
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Replies: 105
Views: 3,530
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Quantum duck wrote: ...and I no longer have to take tests.
If you have time and cash, there's lots of certifications you could get.  ----if only it fit my current priorities.. lol. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Depression |
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Posted: 04 Dec 2022, 5:37 pm
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Replies: 9
Views: 406
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| Kitty, so sorry. I was depressed for many decades, almost didn't survive. My support system know thinks it was a result of significant social invalidation and unchecked anxiety. When I went through a medical hardship in my 30s I called myself "functionally depressed". Mostly days of despai... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Are you autistic and gifted? |
| SharonB |
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Posted: 04 Dec 2022, 5:31 pm
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Replies: 105
Views: 3,530
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| I asked my ASD evaluator if it was possible to be highly intelligent and allistic and he said "yes". Bummer. :wink: My parents are highly intelligent (in the typically-measured Binet way): my mom is Autistic and my father is allistic (but neurodivergent in other ways). So for ASD it's 50/5... |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: How Diagnosis Is Life-Changing for Autistic women |
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Posted: 01 Dec 2022, 7:17 pm
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Replies: 13
Views: 2,688
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| blueraspberry, I relate. I am having a chuckle thinking about announcing at my workplace, "I know you expect a '2' aaaaaaand..." All the times I provided a deliverable and the initial response was WTH and then later I got an "ah-ha!" (and if I didn't, it wasn't the place for me).... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: What's the best thing or job to do |
| SharonB |
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Posted: 23 Nov 2022, 10:34 pm
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Replies: 16
Views: 1,213
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| Contract jobs were my path to a career. My BFF did data-entry jobs for a while after her Masters. I was 27 when I "fell" into my career. My ASD BFF was 30-something when she "fell" into hers. Over 20 years later, we are both well-respected professionals. I am constantly amazed at... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: First officially day of new job. |
| SharonB |
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Posted: 23 Nov 2022, 10:29 pm
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Replies: 3
Views: 259
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| Congrats!! I'm almost five months into a new job and still going well. Wishing us good managers, teammates and work environments! |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Adult Diagnosis (USA) |
| SharonB |
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Posted: 23 Nov 2022, 10:27 pm
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Replies: 18
Views: 1,015
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| My assessment for Autism also returned GAD (much to my surprise at the time). I now realize I am probably ADHD also, but I didn't know to "present" it. At evaluation, I asked if I could unmask, but it was such a new concept to me and I didn't know how to. So I defaulted to my "well-be... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Inclusiveness in STEM fields making you feel MORE alone? |
| SharonB |
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Posted: 23 Nov 2022, 10:17 pm
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Replies: 12
Views: 435
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| With the perception that STEM is more inclusive, finding out that it isn't is... disappointing. I think the faux inclusivity is more in mainstream STEM whereas edge professions or academia, etc. might be truly more inclusive ... to a degree. The "fraternity" is not readily available to wom... |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: Autistic Women and hospitalization for mental illness |
| SharonB |
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Posted: 23 Nov 2022, 9:58 pm
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Replies: 45
Views: 1,801
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| My grandmother was hospitalized (misdiagnosed), I was hospitalized (misdiagnosed). My mom avoided it by staying in her room with the lights off for many years. So much invalidation for ASD folks and so much invalidation for women, put the two together... kaboom. |
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