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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Early 40's - getting sized up more? |
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Posted: 02 Apr 2022, 8:02 am
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| Sigma --- I hadn't heard of that. I've heard of Omega. I relate to Sigma for myself. My NT husband appears to be Omega. I call him NT b/c he doesn't appear to be Autistic, but he's probably ND in some way. I've read that "loner" NTs tend to pair up with ASDs b/c there is more freedom for t... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Suspect I might be neurodivergent? |
| SharonB |
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Posted: 31 Mar 2022, 4:01 pm
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| Analogy: My mom and sister had horrible migraines so I thought a migraine was a severe headache that put a person in bed for days, seeing spots without nausea. So when a doctor suggested my frequent nausea and mild headaches were migraines, I rejected the idea. Ummm, guess what? I have migraines. A ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: There is something weird I find about aspies and loud noises |
| SharonB |
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Posted: 31 Mar 2022, 2:30 pm
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Replies: 20
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| I am completely a hypocrite. :wink: I reprimand my husband when he uses a sharp tone of voice with me, but I absolutely will use a sharp tone of voice with him. That said, I am hyper sensitive and he is hypo sensitive --- so it could be simply appropriate behavior management on our parts. :wink: (no... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Early 40's - getting sized up more? |
| SharonB |
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Posted: 31 Mar 2022, 2:21 pm
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| I'll go for walks in the evening during sunset hours... That sounds lovely. ...learning the arts of Machiavellianism, and being so dangerous that no one wants to touch you. I recently read the book Machiavelli for Women and it pointed to the underlying message Machiavelli was sending the prince: th... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Employment for autistics. Then and now. |
| SharonB |
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Posted: 31 Mar 2022, 10:49 am
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Replies: 34
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| In our case gender trumps Autism (followed by race). Autistic men can only get so far, but Autistic women can't even get that far (then add race, visible disabilities, etc.). The workplace was better for me than it was for my mother. It was better for my mom that it was for her mother. It is still ... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Anyone else feel angry for not getting an early diagnosis? |
| SharonB |
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Posted: 31 Mar 2022, 10:18 am
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Replies: 197
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Awedfellow wrote: "a less common configuration"
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Do all autistics have special abilities? |
| SharonB |
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Posted: 29 Mar 2022, 7:30 am
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Replies: 67
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| I think that many Autistic people have more abilities than they know b/c of invalidating, non-supportive environments. That in supportive environments they would find them. I can see that in too many classrooms Autistic children are treated as if they are incapable and they don't realize what they c... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Early 40's - getting sized up more? |
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Posted: 29 Mar 2022, 7:17 am
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| I relate very much to your post. I think in the USA the individualism and dominance factor are out of control. Ironic that an Autistic person (me - unto myself) would find Individualism overplayed. Very soon I leave the 40s and am glad for it. It's gotten better over the decade and I now have more p... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Is it reasonable for a 31 year old to be banned fromcaffeine |
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Posted: 29 Mar 2022, 7:03 am
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Replies: 153
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| Since homelessness in TX is not working out, I am tempted to Google for you: Best states for homelessness. I'd wish you a good residential unit to get back on your feet. My family is currently low income and on Medicaid (whose services are hit and miss, but even so); I did find a reliable resource f... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Employment for autistics. Then and now. |
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Posted: 28 Mar 2022, 9:44 am
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Replies: 34
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| In our case gender trumps Autism (followed by race). Autistic men can only get so far, but Autistic women can't even get that far (then add race, visible disabilities, etc.). The workplace was better for me than it was for my mother. It was better for my mom that it was for her mother. It is still a... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Is it reasonable for a 31 year old to be banned fromcaffeine |
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Posted: 26 Mar 2022, 11:29 am
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Replies: 153
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| My parents just decided it was time for me to sink or swim but I am still alllowed to live at home Congratulations!! ! Get ready to sink a bit and swim a bit and find what works for you!! ! I sink and swim every day. I wish you the assistance and resources you need. Given your parents previous appr... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Aspergers |
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Posted: 24 Mar 2022, 3:47 pm
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Replies: 14
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| LOL - so according to that formula at 50, I act like I am 30. Possibly. :D ... and at 108, I will act like I am 70... maybe... time will tell. :wink: Socially I am deferential to NT friends my age. That seems to support that theory: I am less deferential to younger NT friends: my "equals". |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Better to be inept? |
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Posted: 23 Mar 2022, 9:58 pm
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Replies: 26
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| Cultural? It's more acceptable for a parent to say their child won 1st place in State track than say their child is in the top 2% for spatial intelligence. My non-ASD mom friends talk all the time about their kids' achievement in swimming, tennis, even chess etc. --- I chime in to congratulate them.... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Strength in Maths due to ADHD & autism traits |
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Posted: 23 Mar 2022, 9:40 pm
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| It goes all ways in my family. I have ASD and probably moderate ADHD and am passionate about math -- up through Linear Algebra. My daughter has ASD only and does well in math, but isn't passionate about it. My son has severe ADHD and is passionate about math, but struggles with errors and showing hi... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Secretive to friends, family and new people? |
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Posted: 23 Mar 2022, 9:18 pm
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Replies: 5
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| My ASD BFF is highly secretive, as are both her parents (ASD), as was her grandmother (ASD). I'd buy it that they are protecting themselves. I also carefully watched the world for the first decade and a half of my life. Then I exploded with TMI --- vulnerability and openness was my best "protec... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: What's your least favorite neurotypical saying? |
| SharonB |
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Posted: 23 Mar 2022, 8:10 pm
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Replies: 92
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| Personally I hate sayings like "It is what it is"... As I read the post subject, I had in mind "That's how it is." So right there with you. I will use a good "it is what it is" in times of acceptance (something completely out of my control), but too often it is used to... |
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