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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Nervous about new aquaintance coming over |
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Posted: 10 Nov 2010, 1:03 am
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Replies: 1
Views: 524
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| Ask her to teach you about socializing. Tell her your basic problem, and admire her talent. |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Fed up as all hell with neurotypical stupidity and ignorance |
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Posted: 09 Nov 2010, 3:07 pm
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Replies: 60
Views: 13,973
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| Notice how when you really try to make sense of the senseless, you start to feel and act crazy yourself. Life is a series of lousy compromises. I think the trick is to ignore almost everything, and focus where you can make a difference. |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Fed up as all hell with neurotypical stupidity and ignorance |
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Posted: 09 Nov 2010, 3:03 pm
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Replies: 60
Views: 13,973
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| Life evolved from a few simple responses into a very complex system that runs on hard-wired instinct. Logical thought, as we know it, is a pattern that can occasionally arise in a large brain that uses symbolic language. It is very good at science, but far too slow and limited for daily use. You can... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Is it possible to steal someone's ideas... |
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Posted: 09 Nov 2010, 3:00 pm
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Replies: 6
Views: 2,250
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| When we learn something, we incorporate it into our own pattern of previous knowledge. This always requires some custom tailoring. Thus, people feel ownership of their new ideas. Even if your contribution is 90% of what someone else is saying, they remember the idea as being born when it first made ... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Fed up as all hell with neurotypical stupidity and ignorance |
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Posted: 09 Nov 2010, 2:17 pm
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Replies: 60
Views: 13,973
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| Life evolved from a few simple responses into a very complex system that runs on hard-wired instinct. Logical thought, as we know it, is a pattern that can occasionally arise in a large brain that uses symbolic language. It is very good at science, but far too slow and limited for daily use. You can... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Rejecting people as friends. |
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Posted: 09 Nov 2010, 3:09 am
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Replies: 32
Views: 9,024
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| I'm 61, and only found out about AS 5 years ago. Finally understanding myself, I thought I could explain my feelings to others. I found that I'm unusual enough that nobody can imagine me. One big reason is that they seldom think logically, I had twenty people at my going away party, and not one of t... |
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Forum: Politics, Philosophy, and Religion Topic: The most ridiculous thing about humans |
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Posted: 08 Nov 2010, 2:14 pm
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Replies: 36
Views: 3,450
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| Xenophobia is one of the instincts that keeps us safe in a tribal situation. A stranger may be an outcast criminal, a scout for an invasion, or just someone whose culture accidentally makes them prone to be offended or offensive. This hard-wired caution is often too strong to overcome logic. Racism ... |
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Forum: Politics, Philosophy, and Religion Topic: Liberals in Canada Crazy like a fox? |
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Posted: 08 Nov 2010, 4:15 am
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Replies: 44
Views: 2,937
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The Liberals and Conservatives are both in the pocket of the oil companies. Their rivalry is barely enough to maintain the illusion of choice.
I have not read this section yet; I hope it isn't as bad as the summary on the index. |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: OLD FOLKS and brain farts |
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Posted: 07 Nov 2010, 4:04 am
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Replies: 12
Views: 1,891
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| I'll be 62 this month, but only found out about AS 5 years ago. Now my life starts to make sense, but my options are mostly gone. At the point where I expected my career to take off, I only got sidetracked into trying to understand people. I recently concluded that I had been expecting about an orde... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: I'm new |
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Posted: 07 Nov 2010, 1:42 am
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Replies: 12
Views: 1,407
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| Welcome. Different cultures expect different amounts of eye contact. White Americans find periodic contact friendly and reassuring, but for blacks it can be intimidating. When they try to copy whites, they have an awkward learning period. Constant contact is probably excessive anywhere. You can obse... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: What challenges have you had "growing up" ? |
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Posted: 07 Nov 2010, 1:31 am
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Replies: 5
Views: 1,294
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| Every seven years or so, I've decided that my life made no sense, and started over, with even more things to avoid. Having some family support, etc, you can probably avoid serial disasters. I'm just compiling a list of things I wish I'd known in kindergarten, but back then, only a few researchers ha... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Hard to Find Stuff, A RANT |
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Posted: 07 Nov 2010, 12:44 am
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Replies: 4
Views: 1,321
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Fashions change. I always buy used clothes and don't worry about it. When I find cheap shoes that fit, I stock up. I've noticed that liquorice allsorts are now made of something more like edible plastic than candy, but that also helps with my altered waistline.  |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: What support would have made your life easier? |
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Posted: 06 Nov 2010, 8:20 pm
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Replies: 8
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| He can't really imagine what the options are. As a guiding principle, change as little as possible. Set up the new bedroom and 'net just like the old one. If possible, make the other rooms familiar too. How about an old acquaintance as helper, too? Rain man isn't too bad as a film, except that it le... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Different perspectives/theories on eye contact |
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Posted: 04 Nov 2010, 3:24 pm
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Replies: 42
Views: 9,452
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| I used to find eye contact overwhelming. There seemed to be too much non-verbal information coming in that I couldn't translate. Now, I tend to look at eyebrows or noses, with a short glance at eyes of familiar, trusted people. Keeping up another train of thought is probably the best way to do eye c... |
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Forum: WrongPlanet.net discussion Topic: Copyright Infringement Insurance |
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Posted: 03 Nov 2010, 2:56 pm
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Replies: 1
Views: 654
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Autistics who can read body language well |
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Posted: 01 Nov 2010, 2:04 am
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Replies: 69
Views: 12,243
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| I don't think I'd mistake laughing for crying, but I might not empathize, and will often miss more subtle signals entirely. It is pretty much hit or miss - I'm often too distracted to notice things that can be obvious if I'm open to them. I used to think I was pretty good at reading non-verbal cues ... |
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