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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Hard to Find Stuff, A RANT |
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Posted: 07 Nov 2010, 12:44 am
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Replies: 4
Views: 1,264
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Fashions change. I always buy used clothes and don't worry about it. When I find cheap shoes that fit, I stock up. I've noticed that liquorice allsorts are now made of something more like edible plastic than candy, but that also helps with my altered waistline.  |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: What support would have made your life easier? |
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Posted: 06 Nov 2010, 8:20 pm
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Replies: 8
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| He can't really imagine what the options are. As a guiding principle, change as little as possible. Set up the new bedroom and 'net just like the old one. If possible, make the other rooms familiar too. How about an old acquaintance as helper, too? Rain man isn't too bad as a film, except that it le... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Different perspectives/theories on eye contact |
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Posted: 04 Nov 2010, 3:24 pm
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Replies: 42
Views: 9,151
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| I used to find eye contact overwhelming. There seemed to be too much non-verbal information coming in that I couldn't translate. Now, I tend to look at eyebrows or noses, with a short glance at eyes of familiar, trusted people. Keeping up another train of thought is probably the best way to do eye c... |
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Forum: WrongPlanet.net discussion Topic: Copyright Infringement Insurance |
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Posted: 03 Nov 2010, 2:56 pm
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Replies: 1
Views: 630
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Autistics who can read body language well |
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Posted: 01 Nov 2010, 2:04 am
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Replies: 69
Views: 11,709
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| I don't think I'd mistake laughing for crying, but I might not empathize, and will often miss more subtle signals entirely. It is pretty much hit or miss - I'm often too distracted to notice things that can be obvious if I'm open to them. I used to think I was pretty good at reading non-verbal cues ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Autistics who can read body language well |
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Posted: 31 Oct 2010, 9:06 pm
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Replies: 69
Views: 11,709
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Neurological origin of autism? |
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Posted: 28 Oct 2010, 11:00 pm
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Replies: 27
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| The way I explain Apsperger's to folks who are not familiar with it is about like this: "You've heard the term 'Having a screw loose upstairs?' - Well, there are quite a few screws, and maybe two dozen in the area that can cause Autism. If most of them are loose, we get a person with full-blown Auti... |
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Forum: Getting to know each other Topic: Welcome to the Canadian invasion ;) |
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Posted: 27 Oct 2010, 11:59 pm
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Replies: 18
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| I'm from Hamilton and area. The farm where I spent 7 years is now underwater, and I have not been back since some time in Toronto in '77. I recently had a lot of trouble because I too have learned to pass as normal, even though it takes me days to get ready for, and unwind from, most social interact... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Dilema |
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Posted: 27 Oct 2010, 10:44 pm
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Replies: 5
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| I got to see my counselor today, who is as much a friend as professionalism allows, and told her about my recent revelation that a lot of people don't even try to be logical. She calls it "dealing with the stupids." I've often noted that with people, there isn't much middle ground between boring and... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Sleeping habits |
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Posted: 27 Oct 2010, 10:05 pm
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Replies: 16
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| [quote="RomanceAnonimo"]I have no pattern. I am tired all day, then hit energy in the evening, and the cycle continues. <end quote> Yeah, If I'm running short on sleep, I'll be groggy all day, and then too awake later. It is as if I catch up my sleep with mini-naps or resting parts of my h... |
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Forum: Autism Politics, Activism, and Media Representation Topic: 13 year old boy abused in Guam by bus driver. |
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Posted: 26 Oct 2010, 4:17 am
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Replies: 1
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Owning a House |
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Posted: 26 Oct 2010, 1:23 am
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Replies: 71
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| I had found a beautiful farm that I could barely afford. I'm glad I didn't stretch, expecting to share it with others, as I'm still a rare newcomer here. Another guy showed up who had been wanting that place for years, and I let him have it. Then I hit a string of coincidences to find an unfashionab... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: When/Why did your parents start treating you like an adult? |
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Posted: 26 Oct 2010, 12:57 am
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Replies: 64
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| Mom was AS, and ex-military. She first treated me as a subordinate adult, and then as as an equal once I could out-debate her. (She then avoided debate.) Dad was just frustrated with me, but he did eventually invite me to visit him when I was 22. He died suddenly before the invitation date. I had tr... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Sleeping habits |
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Posted: 26 Oct 2010, 12:47 am
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Replies: 16
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| Sometimes, I used to sleep 3 or 4 times a week, since I wanted to finish my projects without a break to dream up more improvements. I've also had enough traumatic wake-ups that I'm often afraid to sleep. My current pattern is pretty chaotic, sleeping twice or three times per day. If I miss a nap I c... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: What do you wish you had known before you got married? |
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Posted: 26 Oct 2010, 12:31 am
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Replies: 32
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| First - to Philologos - margarine does not go rancid. It is non-lethal waste, not food. I wish I had paid more attention to obvious problems in communicating, and not expected things to get better because we were working on "recovery." A friend of mine just went by 3 rules - Agreement on spiritual m... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Anyone else struggle with Therapists? |
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Posted: 26 Oct 2010, 12:13 am
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Replies: 33
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| For most of my life, I would change personalities whenever a shrink started to look like they had a diagnosis in mind. They would then leave me alone, which was the best outcome before AS was a valid diagnosis. Since it did hit the Book, I'm pretty disgusted that nobody picked up on my classic sympt... |
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