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Forum: The Haven Topic: It's pointless. |
| SharonB |
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Posted: 03 Oct 2019, 6:30 pm
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Replies: 122
Views: 2,371
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| In my younger years I jumped off cliffs, into water: one bad bruise, another time ruptured ear drums. I think skis are a better idea given a soft landing. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Will going too the gym help? |
| SharonB |
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Posted: 03 Oct 2019, 4:22 pm
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Replies: 81
Views: 3,701
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| ...and I couldn't not get female attention if my life depended on it. Could it be that women were attracted to you, but you didn't know? Certainly for men it must be hard b/c women are less likely to come up and tell one in no uncertain terms. I would self-report that I know when someone is attract... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Saftey: Hypersenstivity compensates for hyperfocus |
| SharonB |
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Posted: 02 Oct 2019, 11:54 am
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Replies: 5
Views: 379
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| So I was thinking about how I get very focused on something, and then very focused on something else and forget what's not in focus. And I've been thinking about how my senses alert me to issues quickly. So put those two together: I am sitting reading/responding to WP posts (while playing a video ga... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Bothers me I can't express myself...at work. |
| SharonB |
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Posted: 02 Oct 2019, 11:42 am
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Replies: 12
Views: 372
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| What you wrote was/is me! My ASD Coach is adamant that I can find a friendly work environment again where I can be more myself. I had a period of time in a more inclusive environment and it was lovely (enough). I'm not in one now, so being female and likely ASD is quite a burden. I am unmasking now ... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: I'm so stupid I am |
| SharonB |
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Posted: 02 Oct 2019, 11:31 am
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Replies: 19
Views: 461
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| What you did seems reasonable to me. There was a drivers safety study that showed ASD folks are more safe in some ways and less safe in others. I would assume the same applies to walking, e.g. crossing streets. You should have seen me trying to cross the street in a third-world country last year wit... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Burnout when you have kids. |
| SharonB |
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Posted: 02 Oct 2019, 5:04 am
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Replies: 12
Views: 1,623
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| I am the breadwinner also in a high-stress job (although my company is no longer a start up and I need to find a new job). For the children, I am the intellectual caretaker (I have the ideas) and my NT husband is the physical caretaker (he implements and remembers the water bottles). I don't separat... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: I'm 18 And I've Never Been On A Date |
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Posted: 02 Oct 2019, 4:31 am
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Replies: 63
Views: 2,366
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| I was mostly concerned because my 15-year-old sister had both her first serious relationship and her first kiss before I did. I know that it's not that big of a deal in the grand scheme of things, but it still hurts a little. BTDT. I found it mildly ironic that I was the big sister and had yet to h... |
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Forum: News and Current Events Topic: College student scares off perv by faking autism |
| SharonB |
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Posted: 30 Sep 2019, 9:30 pm
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Replies: 35
Views: 1,105
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My thoughts:
* on the premise she's NT: because Autism scared *her*
* or back to my original suggestion: *she* is Autistic (and doesn't know it, as I didn't at her age) |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Social Masking |
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Posted: 30 Sep 2019, 9:27 pm
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Replies: 28
Views: 1,116
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| ...Looking back I think I was too 'good', overly deferential, agreeable and well behaved... When I became a young adult I grew increasingly frustrated and angry... I didn't know what to do so I turned all of my anger inwards and it made me seriously ill, mentally, and to this day I'm still dealing ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Telling your significant other you have Aspergers. |
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Posted: 30 Sep 2019, 11:12 am
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Replies: 16
Views: 777
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| Odd, my ASD-like mom and I both chipped a front tooth due to stress. Is that an ASD thing? We both had ours repaired. I think you're kind of joking, but just for fun, I checked with Ms. Google. source: https://www.femina.in/relationships/love-sex/biggest-turnoffs-for-women-44887.html How are your fi... |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: Accepting anxiety as a feature of being a woman with ASD |
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Posted: 30 Sep 2019, 11:01 am
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Replies: 102
Views: 3,146
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Amity wrote: Have often thought that a pooling of resources could be an option, perhaps a two person alternative to a group home, with outside support as needed. Sharing the cost of living makes sense to me.
Thank is an excellent idea! |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Will going too the gym help? |
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Posted: 30 Sep 2019, 8:31 am
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Replies: 81
Views: 3,701
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| I only find an man attractive based on his mind ... I could care less what he looks like. TMI: Just recently I teased (but not really) my husband that I must have met him when I was ovulating. I do like his looks, but to your point it's a nice add-on, not what's important. He shares basic values an... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Telling your significant other you have Aspergers. |
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Posted: 30 Sep 2019, 7:50 am
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Replies: 16
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| Right now I feel like the odds are against me. I don’t know why, I’m still trying to figure out what it is that women don’t see in me or what they see that is a turn off. Thoughts? Assuming your major turn offs are mitigated (e.g. body odor), it's important that women see something IN you that they... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: I'm 18 And I've Never Been On A Date |
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Posted: 30 Sep 2019, 7:41 am
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Replies: 63
Views: 2,366
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| FYI - Last night I happened to read the adulting section in the Guide to Asperger's. The situation is very common. Welcome to our experience of this planet. :D (and it was yet a third or fourth book to affirm that ASD folks often buck social conformity when dating - in age, race, socioeconomic statu... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Telling your significant other you have Aspergers. |
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Posted: 29 Sep 2019, 6:09 pm
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Replies: 16
Views: 777
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| Just relating in a way I can. I need a job. My work resume reads as ASD if someone is paying attention but it does not say it outright. I drafted my resume before I self-diagnosed so it's especially amusing to me. My ASD coach says to put myself out there during interview - so find a good fit: for m... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: I'm 18 And I've Never Been On A Date |
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Posted: 29 Sep 2019, 6:07 pm
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Replies: 63
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| I was a touch late myself, even though as an outgoing female ASD I had opportunities. My BFF is a highly introverted female ASD and had her first date at 30-something. Now in our late 40s, we've had the same number of partners (mine were earlier, hers were later). |
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