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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Has anyone asked point-blank "are you stupid??!" |
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Posted: 29 Oct 2023, 2:38 pm
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Replies: 22
Views: 23,381
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| Probably. Bad idea though; if someone needs my help and treats me like I'm stupid, I'll give them more reasons to believe it until they leave. This was especially good when I did tech support because it made those calls too long to review, it kept me on the line and therefore not taking more calls ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Has anyone asked point-blank "are you stupid??!" |
| Jayo |
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Posted: 29 Oct 2023, 1:18 pm
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Replies: 22
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| Or, some variation thereof? E.g. "Are you a moron / ret*d / nincompoop", or "Were you dropped on your head as an infant?", or "Do you have some sort of mental problem?" 8O :x Now obviously, these questions are rhetorical - and not constructive and bridge-building at all... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Ways to torment an NT (funny) |
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Posted: 05 Sep 2023, 6:43 am
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Replies: 52
Views: 6,666
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| I guess #9 would be if they asked you a rhetorical question with a tone of indignation, like as a passive-aggressive hint, then you could respond in kind by asking "Is that rhetorical?? I can't tell." |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: another "bullycide" of an autistic woman, at work |
| Jayo |
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Posted: 03 Sep 2023, 1:24 pm
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Replies: 9
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| This is really tragic...this poor woman...R.I.P. :( A former employee of the City of Montreal, the Botanical Gardens, killed herself due to merciless bullying which was ostensibly due to her being on the autism spectrum. To complicate matters, her father was in palliative care and when she told her ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Is there just something in the NT genome making them CHEAT? |
| Jayo |
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Posted: 03 Sep 2023, 1:09 pm
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Replies: 15
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| I think it's more that NTs are OBSESSED with the hierarchy and their place in it. And jostling for position on it or getting higher on it. This means they will do anything to make sure they aren't pushed down the ladder or made to look silly. And if that involves cheating, so be it. The same applie... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Ways to torment an NT (funny) |
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Posted: 03 Sep 2023, 1:04 pm
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Replies: 52
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| I recall posting something like this years ago (and can't find it), but perhaps now it's time to resurrect it - as I also may have a few new ones...caution, some of these may prompt a very harsh reaction, even if they're not illegal!! They're just horribly passive-aggressive. 1. When they give some ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Is there just something in the NT genome making them CHEAT? |
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Posted: 03 Sep 2023, 12:46 pm
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Replies: 15
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| I don't mean "cheat" so much as in relationships, but cheat to win, like to fraudulent sh*t or covertly sandbag your opponent, insidious stuff like that. I've occasionally heard fellow Aspies lament the NT tendency to cheat, and how in some settings it's an unspoken, hive-mind-like expecta... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Do you think that if "Rain Man" had never been released... |
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Posted: 30 Aug 2023, 8:24 pm
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Replies: 12
Views: 518
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| Well, at the risk of going on a slight tangent from the original topic header...I think Dimitri in Cobra Kai is definitely ASD/HFA, and then there's Sam in the Netflix series "Atypical", who I believe is more of an IRL "Aspie" type character. One can definitely see how there's be... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Have people pretended you're invisible? |
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Posted: 30 Aug 2023, 5:42 pm
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Replies: 24
Views: 718
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| I can relate to that: being ignored. Talking in a group is difficult. People listen to each other but not to me, when I try to say something. They also ignores my non-verbal signs, like looking at them, audibly breathing in, and attempting saying or repeating the first word of a sentence. If I accu... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Do you think that if "Rain Man" had never been released... |
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Posted: 30 Aug 2023, 5:38 pm
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Replies: 12
Views: 518
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| ...we'd all be much better off? I mean, this is the movie that was the genesis for an awful slur against people on the autism spectrum, and it also etched a permanent archetype in people's minds. :( I'd tend to think that for us ASD/HFA males, we'd have had an easier time navigating the dating world... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Have you had arguments with NTs over nonverbal cues? |
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Posted: 26 Aug 2023, 8:18 am
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Replies: 7
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| No but I suspect that's why some people don't like me. Because I didn't pick up on some nonverbal cue. And since they think that it's impossible not to notice they probably think that I did pick up on the nonverbal cue and then purposefully ignored it. That's what worries me, that they'll think I d... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Have people pretended you're invisible? |
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Posted: 24 Aug 2023, 4:06 pm
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Replies: 24
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| I think that in some cases, intentional ignoring may be one of the more subtle things we might not have picked up on (much less know WHY, esp. pre-diagnosis or having heard of ASD) - I can tell you in the past, when I was in my early 20s at uni/college (back in the '90s), I had it happen more than j... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Have you had arguments with NTs over nonverbal cues? |
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Posted: 23 Aug 2023, 5:15 pm
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Replies: 7
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| Wondering if my fellow ASD/HFA folks have ever gotten into an argument with an NT who was observing an interaction between you and another person (presumed NT) and told you after, "you didn't notice that he/she was annoyed???" (or upset, bored, uncomfortable, whatever) and you feel fairly ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Can you discern shock or discomfort in people? |
| Jayo |
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Posted: 26 Jul 2023, 11:44 am
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Replies: 6
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| I can if it's blaringly obvious...something like someone dropping their mouth wide open and saying "oh my god". That I would recognize. But more subtle things? Nah. That's going to go completely over my head. Yes, we need it to be more explicit / expressed openly. Due to deficits with ToM... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Can you discern shock or discomfort in people? |
| Jayo |
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Posted: 26 Jul 2023, 11:40 am
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Replies: 6
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| Shock, yes. Discomfort, generally no. Although I'm very good at realising when people are annoyed or bored by me, because it happens a lot. Well, being a female, I don't think you get the uncomfortable subtle non-verbals like us Aspie men do... it's well known that ASD presentation can cause vibes ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Can you discern shock or discomfort in people? |
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Posted: 26 Jul 2023, 9:27 am
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Replies: 6
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| Particularly, in discerning a change in colour in people's faces when they're aghast or really worried or that sort of thing? You see this in prose, e.g. "I told her such-and-such, and her face suddenly went pale as a ghost", or that someone sees another person's face reddening, even thoug... |
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