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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: How you organize your room? |
| RVFlowers |
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Posted: 14 Jan 2019, 5:24 pm
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Replies: 40
Views: 3,068
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| I have an appartment, and had student rooms of my own before. I keep them organized, but full of little souvenirs, second hand gadgets. I hang out with students a lot still, and when they see my 'grownup' home, they usually find it very tidy and roomy. I think it is; it is roomy enough to have a lot... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Having a shower - challenge? |
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Posted: 13 Jan 2019, 2:29 pm
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Replies: 56
Views: 2,195
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| I did not take a shower since above two months (about 63 days). I even do not feel the need of taking it. I had a job which required no longer and nearer contact with people last months. If you, and your environment, are not uneasy with it, why not. If you do need daily contact with other people, i... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: How can I stand up to my uncle? |
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Posted: 13 Jan 2019, 2:19 pm
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Replies: 11
Views: 456
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| How is your mother about this? Can you talk to her privately, like when you walk to town? Will she defend you, or him when you would speak up? I'd say talk to your mother privately, and take it this way: Say you are not feeling good when your uncle is around. Really try to find a feeling, or two, th... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Travel excitement is not in the destination |
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Posted: 13 Jan 2019, 12:18 pm
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Replies: 2
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| Yes, that's the point. I travel, but nothing really excites me. I reason it all away. I'm from the Netherlands, have seen a good deal of Europe. Camping, cottages, mountains and lakes, rarely a beach. To describe the feeling: if I'm in a wonderful place, like on top of a mountain, I just realise tha... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Disclosing diagnosis to family members |
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Posted: 13 Jan 2019, 11:20 am
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Replies: 2
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| Is it possible to invite your brother over to your place, to play board games? Or, if you like to cook dinner, offer him a meal. I'd suggest not to go anywhere out, because the whole entourage and noise around you can put pressure on things. If you can't start the conversation and are afraid the aft... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Why would an NT waste their time with an aspie? |
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Posted: 04 Sep 2015, 2:22 pm
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Replies: 91
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| I think my crush has thought this quite a few times... So if I'm the 'normal' NT to the world (however, I myself consider myself an ND who has learned to dance the dance), why would I waste my time with an ND, in my case? Well, because he is great. I admire him for things he can, or he has good skil... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Do you miss someone right now? |
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Posted: 04 Sep 2015, 1:51 pm
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Replies: 2,709
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| I miss a guy who I got a crush on last spring. We had danced so many occasional dances as friends, just this one time set my heart on fire. Hasn't gone out since, although he has carefully told me he cannot love me, he cannot love anymore at all. He's considered ND, I am considered NT but that's onl... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: How to get a girlfriend when you are socially awkward? |
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Posted: 04 Sep 2015, 1:42 pm
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Replies: 18
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| If you are still in school, the best way to go about it is to flirt nonverbally. School is perfect for this because it has the same people going to the same classes over a longer period of time. The only "problem" is to find somebody that fancies that kind of thing, which I really had no ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: He ended it as he said I'd end up insane due to his autism |
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Posted: 28 Jul 2015, 6:34 am
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Replies: 7
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| The next day following several texts between each other over this, he told me that he is in fact autistic and had one of his "moments" where he just had to escape this party where he didn't know anyone. I can understand that. Realize that he must have tried real hard to be with you. I can... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Where am I Going Wrong? |
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Posted: 27 Jul 2015, 4:28 pm
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Replies: 58
Views: 2,363
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| Addition on the photo: if you have a new photo taken, consider these environments: - spring-season forest or a park, lots of light, slightly blurry background. Like someone just took a snapshot of you while you were walking in the park with them. A cloudy day is better than bright sunlight, because ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: 'Not Sure' girl loves a probably autistic man |
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Posted: 27 Jul 2015, 1:21 pm
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Replies: 66
Views: 2,304
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| I think he seems like a sincere guy. I think he's scared of his emotions sometimes. So do I. He has emotions for sure, whatever he says. He's been in love before once. He told me from that time, that it took him a half year to recognize those feelings. The evening after I told him that I had feelin... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: 'Not Sure' girl loves a probably autistic man |
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Posted: 27 Jul 2015, 9:33 am
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| Though I'd say not to call him a jerk for it. He hasn't reacted in the way you hoped, but he has done you no harm on purpose. Neither can I blame my crush at this moment. He has told me multiple times he just cannot hurt me (verbally, or physically), he just cannot. He stated explicitly he sees no n... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: 'Not Sure' girl loves a probably autistic man |
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Posted: 27 Jul 2015, 6:53 am
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| Errr, actually, the OP came right out and said he did exactly that. No I'm sorry, you are mistaken. You quoted Utena 's post, not mine. My crush is intelligent, but in no way unfriendly or on a different level. I don't want to be hard, but please check who you quote. I wasted aggregate YEARS of my ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: 'Not Sure' girl loves a probably autistic man |
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Posted: 26 Jul 2015, 5:51 pm
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Replies: 66
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| I'll keep that in mind. I gave his Instagram a 'Like' today, I think that's enough 'hey I'm thinking of you' for today. Meanwhile I would like to ask him so much - how his holiday was and all, but I'm so afraid he won't answer that I won't even write him. A day will come when I can ask him in person... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: 'Not Sure' girl loves a probably autistic man |
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Posted: 26 Jul 2015, 9:44 am
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| Well, then my hopes are good. I have already tested that by accident, last dance event. He flirts with me. It started out somewhat stupid. I was out of hearing distance and said to a friend 'He and I, we always muddle through - but it always turns out right' - mentioning how we dance and communicate... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: 'Not Sure' girl loves a probably autistic man |
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Posted: 26 Jul 2015, 8:04 am
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| I agree with this advice. And, interestingly, this is how my now-husband dealt with me. He kept pursuing after I actually said in my wonderfully blunt, tactless way, "I have absolutely no interest in dating you whatsoever." I guess he thought I didn't really know what I wanted, but for wh... |
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