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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Feeling lost and alone, even within the ASD community |
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Posted: 22 Sep 2022, 3:11 pm
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Replies: 17
Views: 1,502
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| It takes time to integrate a dx. Remember, most people prior to dx have lived a life unconsciously over-compensating for something they never could put a name to. Integration takes time and lots of self care and love. 15 years on from my dx I no longer feel in limbo, or in that liminal place. I too ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: WhatsApp Groups and small talk |
| quaker |
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Posted: 22 Sep 2022, 12:28 am
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Replies: 0
Views: 409
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| The increasing trend to start up WhatsApp Groups for people to keep in touch with each other is very challenging for me because of my difficulties in small talk. Whilst I can see the value of a WhatsApp group, I am coming to see that overall they complicate rather than compliment my participation in... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Are you "noticeably autistic"? |
| quaker |
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Posted: 04 Sep 2022, 2:40 am
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Replies: 45
Views: 2,534
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| As a child I was told daily by my foster parents that I was odd and affected. To avoid humiliation I unconsciously crafted my ways of adapting so as to conceal my idiosyncratic ways. As an adult, post dx, I have the power of choice as to whether I communicate my natural autistic ways. Thankfully, I ... |
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Forum: Politics, Philosophy, and Religion Topic: The "Black Hole" of woke.... |
| quaker |
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Posted: 26 Aug 2022, 8:49 am
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Replies: 600
Views: 13,483
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| I love that line from the old 30's jazz song: "It ain't what you do but the way that you do it... that's what gets results." When we feel so passionately about our convictions, I think it is wise to deeply reflect on the means we use to achieve our ends. It seems to me that not doing so is... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Social-Emotional Reciprocity |
| quaker |
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Posted: 20 Aug 2022, 12:59 am
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Replies: 11
Views: 1,070
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All the meet-ups I have attended for people in the autism spectrum I have observed that
emotional reciprocity is well within our ability, particularly on a one to one basis and often expressed with great intensity. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Do you feel your body is a mere meat bag? |
| quaker |
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Posted: 16 Aug 2022, 7:26 am
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Replies: 73
Views: 3,934
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| I see myself as a Spiritual Being on a human journey of which embodiment and autism is just a fleeting experience. However, my intuition tells me that diminishing the relative dimension (being human, my sex and my human needs and desires) is not why I am here. As a teacher of the Alexander Technique... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Two types of masking? |
| quaker |
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Posted: 15 Aug 2022, 3:37 pm
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Replies: 19
Views: 1,410
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| My foster parents were obsessed with being "Normal." Growing up, each day I was told I was odd, percular, deranged. To survive I had to conceal all my idiosyncratic ways and quirks as if my life depended upon it... which it did. Subsequently, I unconsciously crafted my masking skills to su... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Masking until I can't anymore!? |
| quaker |
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Posted: 14 Jun 2022, 2:26 am
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Replies: 8
Views: 1,281
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| I intuitively sense that the greater the adversity we face when growing up, the greater and more refined our adaptive skills become. If we have a more right brained dominant bias, greater still will our masking become. Many in the spectrum who have experienced profound childhood neglect often become... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Alcohol and Autism |
| quaker |
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Posted: 11 Jun 2022, 2:12 pm
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Replies: 51
Views: 3,814
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Curious if anyone would like to share their thoughts on being in the spectrum and their relationship with Alcohol.
I'm happy to share my experiences in due course. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Anyone else felt a lot worse because of the diagnosis? |
| quaker |
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Posted: 24 Apr 2022, 6:42 am
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Replies: 16
Views: 1,862
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| Living in the unknowing only worked well for so long. The DX gave me freedom to live life free of ignorance and the suffering that can bring. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Anyone else felt a lot worse because of the diagnosis? |
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Posted: 24 Apr 2022, 6:38 am
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Replies: 16
Views: 1,862
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| The facts have always been helpful to me in the long term; living in denial of the facts has always been unhelpful to me. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Expressing emotions feels fake |
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Posted: 21 Apr 2022, 1:40 am
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Replies: 18
Views: 1,495
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| I am drawn to the contemplative life because silence is my natural form of expression and everything else is a very poor translation. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Gracefulness and Autism |
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Posted: 10 Apr 2022, 11:40 am
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Replies: 18
Views: 1,731
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| I was pondering on gracefulness recently as a friend of mine said recently that I move very gracefully. I was curious, I have known in the past many people in the spectrum who are graceful and even elegant in the way they hold themselves in life. And yet I have met many who have an awkward way of wa... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Is anyone else a perfectionist? |
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Posted: 10 Apr 2022, 7:37 am
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Replies: 7
Views: 554
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| I seek perfection in things I feel passionate about. However, such means of achieving an end nearly always prove foolhardy. It is for this reason that I have been drawn to mindfulness and unconsciously I feel this is what drew me to becoming a teacher of the Alexander Technique. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: The self |
| quaker |
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Posted: 06 Apr 2022, 3:24 pm
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Replies: 18
Views: 1,010
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Hi Hip Albatross,
Could you please share with us the details of this book or article. I would like to see it in full.
Many thanks, |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: I know I'm overwhelmed when... |
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Posted: 06 Apr 2022, 8:01 am
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Replies: 5
Views: 660
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| Over the years I have learned to be aware of the tale tale signs when I start to get overwhelmed, which if I'm not mindfully attentive lead to meltdowns and shutdowns. For example, I know I could be starting to get overwhelmed when: ▪️ I start shallow breathing ▪️ When OCD attempts to control people... |
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