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 Forum: Love and Dating   Topic: The worst rejection you got from a woman?

Posted: 14 Feb 2022, 7:19 pm 

Replies: 48
Views: 3,260


Thankfully nothing too harsh, but these are some of the roughest "rejections" that I have had. There were a few girls in my college club that I tried having a conversation with and they simply just walked away from me mid conversation without saying anything. That happened to me a couple ...

 Forum: Love and Dating   Topic: The worst rejection you got from a woman?

Posted: 13 Feb 2022, 1:57 pm 

Replies: 48
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"I don't like paranoid guys who feel as if they are entitled to a relationship." Yikes. Any idea what prompted that? (Not saying it's your fault.) I don't recall, but I have never felt entitled to having a relationship. Yeah, that comment makes no sense at all. What's with the "paran...

 Forum: Love and Dating   Topic: The worst rejection you got from a woman?

Posted: 12 Feb 2022, 11:05 am 

Replies: 48
Views: 3,260


She insulted my walk, so I dumped her. Well holy geeze YEAH... the hell with her... I mean, even some NT folk could have had a TBI / severe concussion, or even a stroke well before the typical risk demographic... did she act like it was "no big deal anyway", or did she protest your decisi...

 Forum: Love and Dating   Topic: The worst rejection you got from a woman?

Posted: 11 Feb 2022, 6:47 pm 

Replies: 48
Views: 3,260


Aspie guys: what's your story of the worst rejection you ever got from a woman? Like, laughing at you when you ask to go on a date, telling you that you must be deluded, or...? I can only recall once at the age of 21, where a girl I was on a date with just directly told me at the end "we're ver...

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: Are NTs programmed to instantly reject autists?

Posted: 27 Jan 2022, 2:59 pm 

Replies: 17
Views: 1,664


some recent studies seem to bear this out. Instinct to reject perception of "otherness". Evidently many autistic individuals have involuntary minute head and body motions that are seen and processed by others on a subconscious level. In one study, autistic people were introduced to NT ind...

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: Are NTs programmed to instantly reject autists?

Posted: 26 Jan 2022, 9:25 pm 

Replies: 17
Views: 1,664


The "programmed" part may seem like a bit of a pejorative, but I know NTs aren't machines...far from it by the reliance on emotional cues... but from various sources on the Internet, my impression has been that there's something in their reptilian brain that just auto-rejects us, like they...

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: Responses to query "why are you like this"?

Posted: 24 Jan 2022, 8:05 am 

Replies: 27
Views: 2,648


I haven't gotten the offensive query "why are you like this??" in some time, but when I did - pre-diagnosis at age 27 mostly - I just brushed it off with a rather flippant retort or with another question. e.g. "why do you judge?" or "why is anyone like anything? what does it...

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: Were you a pyromaniac?

 Post subject: Were you a pyromaniac?
Posted: 20 Jan 2022, 7:42 pm 

Replies: 33
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I know, I put this in the General Autism category, b/c I'm wondering if anyone had a tendency to be obsessed with fire as a "special interest", enjoyed watching things burn, lighting matches on paper, wrappers, etc. When I was 13-14, I admit that I enjoyed playing with matches, to the poin...

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: Have any NTs said "you drive me insane"?

Posted: 14 Jan 2022, 1:57 pm 

Replies: 35
Views: 2,062


Yes, I've heard things about Kentucky in that regard...and I live up in Canada. Basically, one of those conservative states where there's been very little migration over the past several decades, compared to other states, so there's a certain intolerance for anything that doesn't "fit the mold&...

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: Have any NTs said "you drive me insane"?

Posted: 09 Jan 2022, 11:24 am 

Replies: 35
Views: 2,062


In your interactions with NTs, has any one of them ever said that "you drive me insane [sometimes]", or some variation of that?? And of course, it does little to allay their concerns if you stress positive intentions, e.g. "I never intended to drive you insane, sometimes I just find c...

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: Trouble distinguishing bullying from legit anger?

Posted: 24 Dec 2021, 3:35 pm 

Replies: 4
Views: 761


I'm wondering if it's an "Aspie thing" or it's been your experience that you have a hard time telling whether someone's negative reaction is due to feeling genuinely p.o.'d by some perceived slight or missed unspoken expectation which you were completely unaware of, i.e. the more "rig...

 Forum: Work and finding a Job   Topic: Have you ever been demoted?

 Post subject: Have you ever been demoted?
Posted: 27 Nov 2021, 7:48 pm 

Replies: 1
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Wondering if anyone ever had the unfortunate experience of being demoted at work? And if so, was it based on your disclosure of ASD/HFA, or before that when they noticed something was "off", or...? I've come close to that, but it's been more being assigned crappier stuff below my IQ or cog...

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: Do we misread hostility?

Posted: 15 Nov 2021, 12:53 pm 

Replies: 24
Views: 857


Sometimes I feel like every person I interact with could, at any moment, without warning, become furious at me for no apparent reason. This is mostly left over from my experiences as a teenager and a 20-something, when many people assumed I was giving them "attitude" and responded with ho...

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: Do we misread hostility?

 Post subject: Do we misread hostility?
Posted: 14 Nov 2021, 2:29 pm 

Replies: 24
Views: 857


I know it's often been said that Aspies lack the nonverbal fluency to tell if someone is being subtly hostile with them (like, micro-aggressions, veiled insults, petty put-downs or faint praise, etc.) which can get us into some unpleasant or embarrassing situations...but what about the reverse?? Has...

 Forum: Love and Dating   Topic: Have you detected fear in females around you?

Posted: 12 Nov 2021, 4:06 pm 

Replies: 25
Views: 1,839


Question for Aspie males really. Have you detected fear in females around you? Like either in class, work, public places, on a date even..? This is why I spent a lot of practice watching female body language and gradually got better at it, and increased my confidence. Since I had the looks, physique...

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: Has anyone said, "you need to get serious help"??

Posted: 12 Nov 2021, 3:54 pm 

Replies: 20
Views: 733


Has anyone said, "you need to get serious help"?? Yes, my ex-wife -- a gin-swilling, pill-popping, manic-depressive psycho-demon witch queen who divorced me so that she could marry her wealthy boyfriend. I never acted on her advice. OK well I think I'm picking up a theme here...people who...
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