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 Forum: Women's Discussion   Topic: Keep grieving for the son I'll never have

Posted: Yesterday, 8:25 pm 

Replies: 9
Views: 192


At 38, I didn't know how my 7 years of infertility and pregnancy loss was going to end but I needed that particular chapter to end one way or another. I prepared myself for all possibilities: biological, adoption, child-free / childless / child-full in an alternate way, etc. Knowing a different chap...

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: Masking - what should we do?

Posted: Yesterday, 8:14 pm 

Replies: 8
Views: 258


I talked to my BFF about this recently. What a joke that toxic workplaces say to be authentic or bring your "true self". I estimated that I was lucky if I could be 15% real TOPS (as a neuro-minority, gender-minority, most other things majority). I asked my racial minority (but most other t...

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: you say theres no severity levels with autism but

Posted: 01 Feb 2023, 8:33 am 

Replies: 48
Views: 1,180


My BFF and I were talking about social skills this weekend. We are your age. My BFF and I were considering our childhoods in that my ASD-NT parents fought a lot, while her ASD-ASD parents avoided all conflict. Both were awful experiences. However, I seemed to have some basis for growth while she con...

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: you say theres no severity levels with autism but

Posted: 01 Feb 2023, 8:18 am 

Replies: 48
Views: 1,180


Yes, there are levels. Across so many dimensions, internal experiences, external impacts... and the dynamics between them... Oooooooof!! !! !! !! The person who can hold the spoon... or not... and the reasons for it... The person who is hyperfocused on the spoon... or not... and the reasons for it.....

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: Aspergers & Routines

 Post subject: Re: Aspergers & Routines
Posted: 01 Feb 2023, 8:12 am 

Replies: 17
Views: 801


If I like them. I haven't regularly brushed my teeth since I started being bullied at work many years ago. The stress of the pandemic did not help with that. I'm not sure what it would take to start regularly brushing my teeth again. Self respect? In my case it was a painful session or two of denta...

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: Aspergers & Routines

 Post subject: Re: Aspergers & Routines
Posted: 31 Jan 2023, 10:27 pm 

Replies: 17
Views: 801


If I like them. I haven't regularly brushed my teeth since I started being bullied at work many years ago. The stress of the pandemic did not help with that. I'm not sure what it would take to start regularly brushing my teeth again. Self respect?

 Forum: Women's Discussion   Topic: (Menstruation) Is this normal?

Posted: 31 Jan 2023, 10:25 pm 

Replies: 6
Views: 262


That is exactly what happened to my cycles: shorter cycles, heavy initial flow, shorter length. In my case it was hormonal shift related to age (late 40s). Then I got COVID which skipped me a cycle and my cycles resumed in three-week cycles (with legitimate signs of ovulation and PMS so I was cyclin...

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: Does Autism fade over time?

Posted: 17 Jan 2023, 11:07 pm 

Replies: 21
Views: 1,177


Comes and goes with the degree of skills and stress. When my skills are greater than my life stressors (e.g. it all goes according to my multiple color-coded plans, or I am truly winging it) - I am "less" Autistic. When my life stressors exceed my skills (e.g. I get three legal notices at ...

 Forum: Women's Discussion   Topic: Itchy Bras

 Post subject: Re: Itchy Bras
Posted: 17 Jan 2023, 10:41 pm 

Replies: 19
Views: 1,035


I buy thrift --- the softest, gentlest, most well worn, durable items. I find 2 bras and stick with them. The bra I am wearing now is a large band and without an underwire. I used to wear a band that was too tight and I used to wear underwires b/c those sizes and styles were readily available in sto...

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: Emotional Issues or PTSD?

Posted: 08 Jan 2023, 5:38 pm 

Replies: 3
Views: 375


Both? Autism is so very similar to PTSD and yet how much do they inform each other? I wasn't diagnosed until a few years ago so spent over 40 years being invalidated (you're "too" this, "too" that, nobody else thinks, smells, senses that...) --- that's pretty traumatic. My mom an...

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: Is it common for aspies to say no to unknown situations?

Posted: 08 Jan 2023, 5:32 pm 

Replies: 11
Views: 615


Depends on my calculations. I am ASD, ADHD, and GAD. I do impulsiveness combined with anxiety. My son is straight up ADHD and GAD without ASD but can pull out a strong "no" in the face of the unknown when GAD has him. Take for example this morning. "NO!" he was not going to watch...

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: New diagnosis imposter syndrome

Posted: 06 Jan 2023, 10:29 pm 

Replies: 25
Views: 1,260


Interesting. I recently moved into Financial Services. I data mine, which also provides SME-dom. I am successful (although I remain wracked by insecurity as are many "achievers"). Wholistically I am as successful as my peers, although intersectionality lessened my professional ... everythi...

 Forum: Women's Discussion   Topic: How do any of you handle pms or crying meltdowns?

Posted: 06 Jan 2023, 8:30 pm 

Replies: 5
Views: 380


My BFF supports me when my DH (dear husband) is away and my DH supports me when my BFF is away... yep, it tends to be messy when both are away and I PMS, so I have to have a back up plan and **USE IT**. Like pp says: your comfort items, tertiary people, comfort foods, comfort music, EFT, tools --- b...

 Forum: Off the Wall: Forum Games, Quizzes, Roleplaying, etc.   Topic: word association game

 Post subject: Re: word association game
Posted: 06 Jan 2023, 8:23 pm 

Replies: 74,586
Views: 1,962,325


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 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: Are you autistic and gifted?

Posted: 10 Dec 2022, 3:47 pm 

Replies: 105
Views: 3,794


Quantum duck wrote:
...and I no longer have to take tests.

If you have time and cash, there's lots of certifications you could get. :wink: ----if only it fit my current priorities.. lol.

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: Depression

 Post subject: Re: Depression
Posted: 04 Dec 2022, 5:37 pm 

Replies: 9
Views: 500


Kitty, so sorry. I was depressed for many decades, almost didn't survive. My support system know thinks it was a result of significant social invalidation and unchecked anxiety. When I went through a medical hardship in my 30s I called myself "functionally depressed". Mostly days of despai...
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